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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Am I going to have another miscarriage?

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foundintranslation · 07/07/2006 17:14

Had a positive pg test - faintish line but clear enough and not really faint - last Friday when I was about 3 days late. By my reckoning I must be about 5 + 3 now. Went to the gyn today to have the pg confirmed. They did a test which I didn't see, then a transvaginal scan (usual over here). The gyn said he could see a sac but not that he could see anything in it (it wasn't the best quality image but I could see the sac couldn't see anything in it either) and took blood to check the hCG levels - the results of that should be back on Monday afternoon. He said things to the effect that we need to keep cool and see what happens - not that he thought I might miscarry - but when I asked him directly he did indicate that things were behind what he might expect at this stage. As I was going out I asked the assistant who'd done the pg test what the result was and she said it was a 'really faint' positive. When I got home I did the other test in the pack and the line was exactly the same strength as a week ago - not really faint but not strong either. I have to admit I have a not very positive feeling . I don't have pg 'symptoms', apart from an increased need to go to the loo since yesterday, but I didn't in my last, successful pg either. Am I going to have another mc (I had one, also at about 5/6 weeks, before ds)? After my last pg was successful I really wasn't expecting this to repeat itself and am having a really hard time right now. Has anyone got any stories of similar things happening and everything being OK? I'm feeling guilty too - when I did the test last week it was a bit of a shock and at first I did wish I wasn't pg - but that all changed over the weekend and I realised I was really, really looking forward to this baby. Can't help thinking it was something I did
Would appreciate any advice or just a listening ear!

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dublindee · 07/07/2006 17:18

Awh sweetie don't think it's your fault cos you weren't over the moon initially. finding out your pg can be a lot to get used to. try to remain positive (pardon the pun) over the weekend and relax. I've my fingers crossed for you everything will be fine on Monday.

WellKnownMemorablePeachyClair · 07/07/2006 17:19

Oh FIT

No idea what will happen, I wuld guess it's not yet a done deal either way, but sending you lots of love and hugs XXX

footprint · 07/07/2006 17:22

You poor thing, having to wait until Monday to find out.

I had an early scan, where we could only see a sac - went back the next week and everything was ok, dd is now 2 years old - so all is not lost.

Thinking of you

foundintranslation · 07/07/2006 17:26

Thank you all.
The doctor said I should come back next Fri for a scan anyway. I'm thinking about possibly not ringing for the blood results on Monday, but just going in for the scan on Fri - maybe by then I'll be more able to 'accept' it IYKWIM if it is going wrong.

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ScoobyDooooo · 07/07/2006 17:28

I am sorry this is happening to you, it's really hard when you are left in limbo, i can only tell you my experience from my mc i was 5.5 weeks pregnant & i started to bleed so i done a pregnancy test & it came straight out as negative. It is a very hard time & it takes time to get through it.

Please try to relax as there is a 50/50 chance here.

I am sure some other people will come along with maybe some more stories with simular experience of what is happening to you right now.

I have my fingers crossed for you take care x

foundintranslation · 07/07/2006 17:30

I still bf ds on demand which means relatively (for a 13 month old) frequently, incl at night - could that be a problem, in terms of the hormone levels? I've had regular periods since he was 6 months though.

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cupcakes · 07/07/2006 17:31

I had a scan when i thought I was about 6 weeks and all they could see was what looked like an empty sac. I did the blood tests and then again two days later which they then compared to see if the hormones were multiplying enough for everything to be ok.
It was worrying but in the end they just put my dates back by about 10 days and at the next scan they saw the baby - my dd.
Good luck. xx

foundintranslation · 07/07/2006 17:41

Thanks.
Scooby, your mc sounds like how my first one ended. Beforehand I'd had the pg test (really faint +ve), the scan (nothing at all to be seen) and the blood tests (hCG of 45, and they still didn't tell me that meant something was definitely wrong ). So this time is different, but somehow not different enough IYSWIM. It doesn't help that the first one was almost exactly 2 years ago.

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HellKat · 07/07/2006 17:50

What a horrid situation for you to be in. I know this all too well. I had my 4th mc last year, finally got a +pg test in Jan this year. Almost straight away i started to bleed very heavily & cramp. My 6 wk scan showed a sac, no fetal pole or embryo. I was told it was'nt a viable pg but they'd do hcg bloods anyhow. My results came back more than double which indicated a healthy pg. Still I bled, cramped, flooded & lost clots. Each time I went back for a scan I was warned that this was it, mc no.5
I kept an open mind you know, whatever was to be will be. Did'nt get excited & prepared myself for the worst. I finally stopped bleeding etc after 30 odd days (turned out to be excess womb lining which was protecting baby) & I'm now currently 30wks, big as a house & expecting a huge girl.
Moral of my long tale is everything could be fine hun, just try to enjoy your pg whether or not it's meant to last. Sometimes you find if you're convinced it'll all go wrong, your pg symptoms seem to diminish anyway (they did with me, even my bump went down).
Sending you hugs, love & huge positive vibes hun. Hang in there. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

foundintranslation · 07/07/2006 18:36

Oh Hellkat. So for you that everything is going well now, despite such traumatic first weeks.
Good for MN for reassuring me that just seeing the sac at this stage doesn't necessarily mean the worst. It's the line on the test not being any stronger which is worrying me atm. Has anyone else had this, or something similar? I know for some women it can take ages to get a +ve test result. The doctor also said something strange about not completely being able to rule out an ectopic, which I find bizarre as the sac was there!

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foundintranslation · 07/07/2006 19:25

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Pruni · 07/07/2006 19:35

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foundintranslation · 07/07/2006 19:45

Thanks Pruni. I'll do a search on here for the hCG thing. How are things?

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Pruni · 07/07/2006 19:46

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emkana · 07/07/2006 20:09

fit - have only just seen this! So sorry you're going through this worry. Tbh this is the reason why I think the German health care system sometimes does too much - I've heard and read so many stories about early scans and women being v. worried by them - and in a large number of cases things turned out to be just fine. I really, really hope they will be for you too! Meine Daumen sind gedrueckt!

harpsichordcarrier · 07/07/2006 20:13

FIT I am so sorry and I know how hard the waiting is. I don't know if you will miscarry or not - noone does. I think the important thing is to keep busy and be very very very kind to yourself and try - if you can - not to think too much about things and let the days go by.
sending love
HC xx

foundintranslation · 07/07/2006 20:21

thanks em and harpsi.
em - I know - I couldn't help thinking this morning 'if I'd been in the UK no one would have done scans and bloods etc. etc.' - and wondering whether that maybe would have been better...
harpsi, didn't you bf through pg? how often were you bf when you got pg?
almost wish I had a 'feeling' either way - or I don't, but it's confusing - physically it's a no, emotionally a yes...

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emkana · 07/07/2006 20:24

fit - I was breastfeeding when pregnant with dd2 and with ds and I've read a lot about it and I am 99.9 % sure that if you miscarry it has absolutely nothing to do with breastfeeding!

MrsJohnCusack · 07/07/2006 20:31

fit can I just agree that I think it's not unusual to not see anything in the sac at this stage? It's very early, and also you might have ovulated later than the 'norm'. Also I don't think it neccesarily follows that a pregnancy test would be much darker in colour a week later either. A positive is a postive, the intensity of colour could depend on how much water you've drunk, time of day you weeed, the individual test - all sorts!
Good luck, it's horrible waiting I know. I had an early scan (6 wks 6 days) yesterday and saw a heartbeat after a week of bleeding. Last week, waiting and fretting, was pretty much a bust.
Good luck and fret away on here if it helps.

Percival · 07/07/2006 20:35

FIT you know really that it is early days yet for a good scan image of sac contents.
I know of at least one Mner (not posting much now) who successfully conceived while still b/f a toddler. Interestingly, she said she had light spotting each month around the time she would have had her period until she was 24 weeks...and we wondered at the time if the b/f was having an effect on her hormone levels. The baby in question was a fine big bouncing boy!
Wishing you the very best of luck XXX

Percival · 07/07/2006 20:36

harpsichordcarrier · 07/07/2006 20:41

hi FIT, yes I bf through this last pregnancy. I was down to three feeds a day - morning, nap and bedtime. I got pregnant in double quick time (within a month of trying). I did have some bleeding in early pregnancy though (and no-one advised me to stop bf) and went on to have a successful pregnancy.
hth
XX

foundintranslation · 07/07/2006 21:08

Thank you everyone.
Feeling, if not more positive, certainly more philosophical now. Am a little bit cross with myself for having gone to the gyn so early.

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emkana · 07/07/2006 21:11

Don't be, fit - the thing is the possibility to see a gyn is there, so it's entirely normal that you would go, everybody would.

The thing is that they shouldn't really offer it routinely, because IMO it's mainly a money-making thing. or is that too harsh?

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