Went for a scan at 11+1 due to some light bleeding to find baby stopped growing at about 6 weeks & there is no heartbeat. I am 100% certain of my dates so I know it has died.
Was told we didn't quite meet the criteria so would have to come back for a second scan to confirm mmc & then we would be offered the options of natural, medical or surgical management. I was horrified at the wait, thought it'd just be a week but they were insistent it must be 2. Is this right? Can anyone link me to the current guidelines?
They have to wait either until there has been no growth over a 1-2 week period or the sac grows to 1.5cm+ and no yolk sac in the case of a blighted ovum.
This is because, although the majority of women know their dates, some think they do and they don't (either due to their own numeracy or some other confusion - also some pregnancies take a while to implant) or there's just a bad scan. In a very, very tiny proportion of cases it turns out OK.
The week is utter mental torture. However long-term, the impact on women in places (some states in the USA for example) where they're like "it doesn't look good - straight in for a D&C" is psychologically very bad as years after the women can be asking themselves what if...
It is a terrible, terrible wait. But on these boards I've seen women upset because their wait is too small and asking for a second scan/opinion. So the wait is there for a reason. But if you're 100% sure of your dates, it is dreadful.
The same thing happened to me last October, went for my 12 week scan to find out it had stopped growing at just under 6 weeks, had to wait 2 weeks for another scan. But as soon as I got home that day I started bleeding, they wouldn't take me in as they said I wasn't bleeding enough, so I was bleeding everyday (ok not excessively heavily) for 2 weeks, went for scan and confirmed that it had died.
2 Weeks is a long time to wait, especially when you are bleeding!
Sorry to hear of other people going through the same xx