7 weeks and scan shows nothing :-(

(27 Posts)
50degreesintheshade Mon 17-Jun-13 08:55:46

I went for my second scan today and the tiny sac which was present had gone. I didn't hold out much hope for this scan but I still feel numb.
I'm waiting for my dr to call about the next step but I just feel confused. I have had no cramps, spotting or bleeding so is this a missed miscarriage?

Rockchick1984 Mon 17-Jun-13 10:37:04

I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this flowers

No advice I'm sorry but will be a virtual hand to hold while you're waiting.

squizita Mon 17-Jun-13 11:40:01

So sorry about this. flowers Yes it sounds like a MMC, sometimes the body absorbs the materials if they are small. The Doc will advise you about what to do - they might still do an ERPC as your body may need that to 'tell' it to bleed and bring your hormones to normal. That happened to me. It's good in a way as they do pathology and so on which can give you answers (which I never got with my natural MCs).

Bakingtins Mon 17-Jun-13 13:54:47

It sounds like you've had an anembryonic pregnancy or blighted ovum, more info here. You may well still need to make decisions about managing the miscarriage as your endometrium will have built up to support the pregnancy. They usually measure the thickness at the scan and if it's more than 14mm then they need to take some action. More on options to consider here
I'm so sorry it was bad news at your scan, it's very hard to have that last flicker of hope extinguished, even if you had been told it looked unlikely to be viable at the first scan. We're here to hold hands whenever needed.

cosmickitten Tue 18-Jun-13 11:54:11

50degrees although I can't add any useful information, I just want to say how sorry I am that this happened to you. I hope that you are all to get all information and support you need from your dr.

Thinking of you flowers

50degreesintheshade Tue 18-Jun-13 12:28:59

Finally seeing my dr in a couple of hours, I'm dreading it. Thanks for all the kind words, I just want it to be over now :-(

cosmickitten Tue 18-Jun-13 12:42:52

The being in limbo is so very hard. x

50degreesintheshade Tue 18-Jun-13 17:19:29

Finally seen my doctor and I have to have a d and c as my scan showed abnormal tissue :-(

cosmickitten Tue 18-Jun-13 17:40:57

50degree I'm really sorry to hear that you have this extra worry.

Rockchick1984 Tue 18-Jun-13 21:49:41

So sorry 50 - I know it's no consolation but I didn't find surgical management to be physically difficult - virtually pain free, certainly less than I get with periods although bleeding lasted a little longer. Take care of yourself, and allow yourself to grieve in whatever way you need to.

50degreesintheshade Wed 19-Jun-13 06:30:44

I just feel like I am living a nightmare. I just wish my mum was here but I live in the Middle East and feel so alone :-( hoping I will be allowed to fly home in a couple of weeks like I had planned. Fingers crossed that the abnormal tissue isn't a molar pregnancy :-(

RainbowConnections Wed 19-Jun-13 09:27:34

How long do you have to wait for the surgery?
Do you have friends there who know what you are going through? Such a hard time to be away from home. xx

cosmickitten Wed 19-Jun-13 13:05:01

Oh sweetheart, I am so sorry. The erpc is really straight forward and not much more painful than a period. I'm sure you will be fine to fly home fairly quickly afterwards.

Is there anyone to support you where you are? Whatever happens we are here to help as much as we can x

50degreesintheshade Wed 19-Jun-13 16:14:10

Unfortunately everyone is leaving Dubai for the summer and by the end of the weekend I will only have one friend here, so the sooner I can get back the better. My procedure was approved by the insurance company today but I have just started bleeding and that has hit me quite hard :-(
Thanks again for all the kind words, it means such a lot to me x

Tomkat79 Wed 19-Jun-13 22:42:22

Thinking of you 50 at this tough time x

Bakingtins Thu 20-Jun-13 11:12:56

Thinking of you 50 it's hard to feel isolated from friends and family when you have to face something like this. There are always people here to hold your hand.

50degreesintheshade Thu 20-Jun-13 11:38:42

The most annoying thing here is the insurance companies not talking to the hospitals :-( my insurance company says all is approved while the hospital says it isn't, just had enough without spending hours on the phone explaining why I need this "luxury"!?!?! Procedure :-(

DreamRabbit Thu 20-Jun-13 12:10:50

So sorry, 50, thinking of you. <hugs> Do you know the date of the procedure yet? I had mine yesterday, and as awful as it sounds I feel a real sense of relief - like I can finally get on with recovering and grieving. It is better than the limbo. Hope you can get seen quickly. x

50degreesintheshade Thu 20-Jun-13 12:17:08

No date yet :-( I just so want it over and done with. I am glad that you are feeling a sense of relief now dream rabbit, it's just such a horrible time waiting in limbo.
It does not help that dubai is the pregnant woman capital of the world, ventured out to the supermarket this am but had to come home as too many bumps to cope with!

RainbowConnections Thu 20-Jun-13 22:58:43

Just thinking about you 50degrees. Hope you got somewhere with the insurance company. Not the kind of extra worry you need at the moment. Seeing bumps is tough, and even just seeing normal life going on around you can be difficult. You will get through this though. Take care. x

cosmickitten Fri 21-Jun-13 09:40:27

50 just checking to see how you are. No matter how hard everything is you are not alone I promise x

50degreesintheshade Fri 21-Jun-13 10:15:41

Thanks for checking on me, it means a lot :-)
I'm going in hospital at 8am tomorrow for my d and c and should be allowed home that afternoon.
My friends are being lovely and are going to look after my 3 year old for the day.
Just want tomorrow over and done with.

RainbowConnections Sat 22-Jun-13 06:01:29

Hey there. Hope you're ok this morning. Not sure of time difference so may be late with this but thinking of you.

50degreesintheshade Sat 22-Jun-13 09:01:04

Thanks for thinking of me. I have had the procedure and I'm currently laying in my hospital bed watching camel racing on tv......only in Dubai :-)

50degreesintheshade Mon 24-Jun-13 08:30:52

I'm a mess.
Currently sitting in a mall car park crying my eyes out, bloody hormones :-( I just can't believe I'm this upset I keep telling myself that I lost this pregnancy do early it was just a bunch of cells, but I can't stop crying.
My little boy knows something is wrong since mummy keeps breaking down and he keeps telling me that mummy is sad :-(
I feel so totally alone, husband is back at work and only one friend left in the country :-( nursery breaks up tomorrow for summer and I don't know how I am going to cope with a hyperactive 3 year old who can't go outside!

I just feel like I need to pull myself together and to stop all this crying :-(

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