Going through miscarriage at 8 weeks pregnant.

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Rainbowbright83 Thu 18-Apr-13 15:31:07

I am currently going through a miscarriage, I was 8 weeks pregnant.
It started on Tuesday night when I suddenly felt an over whelming pressure on my stomach with what I can only describe as a huge contraction of my tummy.
I ran to the bathroom and lots of clots popped out with a lot of fresh blood, my partner rushed me to a and e where this then happened 3 more times.
The pain both physically and emotionally Was so awful. I was transferred to the gynae ward where I stayed over night on fluids because I lost so much blood, my scan confirmed I was miscarrying. I still have tissue inside me which I just have to wait and watch.
The staff in a and e and on the ward could not have been more understanding and compassionate and made a traumatic experience a tiny but easier.
Last night the same happened again this time less severe but instead of clots I had what I know was a sac attached to a small cord. I can't get this image out of my head.
I keep having flashbacks to the bleeding. I'm heart broken, and I don't know what to do next.

EuroShaggleton Thu 18-Apr-13 15:41:04

Sorry to hear you are going through this. I miscarried at 8 weeks a month ago (although the embryo had stopped developing at 5-6 weeks). It was my first ever pregnancy and followed IVF. I was devestated. I felt like I could start to move on once the bleeding stopped (lasted 10 days for me). At this time the best thing you can do is to look after yoursel - make sure you are eating well and getting enough sleep. You will feel better soon. Honest. <Hug>

Bakingtins Thu 18-Apr-13 16:23:48

Hi Rainbow I'm so sorry you lost your baby. I think whilst you are still in the midst of the physical loss you just rest and look after yourself, with lots of wine/chocolate/hugs to get you through. You should feel better physically within a week or so. Emotionally it can take much longer, I've found it really helpful to do something to say goodbye to the baby - if a relative dies then there's a funeral, there's no equivalent for a miscarriage, but releasing a balloon, planting a tree, writing a poem etc can serve the same function. Keep posting - this is a safe place to share your feelings however unacceptable they may be at times. It does get easier with time.

Honey786 Thu 18-Apr-13 17:39:52

Hi Rainbow, I'm so so sorry to hear about your loss and traumatic experience xx I have very recently had a misscarraige with my first pregnancy after trying for over 4yrs (Just before I started IVF). I know exactly how you feel, I was devastated and felt like my world had turned upside down. You need to give yourself and your partner time to grieve. I still feel lost, it's been 5 weeks for me but I'm still struggling.

It must be hard to keep your traumatic experience and flashbacks out of your mind, I'm so sorry you had to suffer that. I had a missed miscarraige and was given a choice, I opted for ERPC for that reason. I knew that I wouldn't be able to forget any images, I couldn't even look at the picture of the scan.

Although I'm still finding it really difficult, it does get easier as the weeks go on. You need to look after yourself Rainbow, and you are always welcome to talk here and share your feelings. We are all here for you xxx

EeyoreIsh Thu 18-Apr-13 17:47:14

I'm so sorry to hear you miscarried, it is heart breaking. I lost my baby about 8 weeks ago, and it shook my foundations.

I'm still piecing my life back together. 4 weeks of bleeding wiped me out physically. But emotionally it is taking a lot longer. Essentially, I've had a bereavement, it's the only thing I can compare it to. All your hopes and dreams are gone in a nightmare of pain.

Things that have helped have been giving myself time to feel bad, and not beating myself up when I have been too low to get out of bed! getting on with normal life, once the bleeding stopped, helped me. I also found ways to remember my baby, as not saying goodbye properly was really tough.

it will get better, it takes time and rest.

flowers

Rainbowbright83 Thu 18-Apr-13 18:39:51

Thank you everyone for your kinds words.
It's been an hour now and I've not cried! I have an amazing dog and I know this may sound crazy but he is giving me a reason to have to get out of bed, he needs walks out and he has to be fed. It's these little things which are a helpful distraction right now.
Today I've been mostly angry, and everywhere I look there seems to be babies and pregnant women. I feel like I could cry forever, and the constant physical reminder for me feels like torture.

My best friend is 6 months pregnant and I'm avoiding seeing her, she's been so supportive with messages and flowers and she's desperate to see me. I just can't, I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I don't want to be around her and her perfect bump.
I don't really know how I'm going to handle this, I can't avoid her forever.

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