have just started to miscarry :( anyone up?

(85 Posts)
jkb Wed 10-Apr-13 01:52:27

You may have seen my thread on here before.I lost my baby at 19 weeks in November last year....fell pregnant again,was so thrilled ...& e weeks ago the nightmare started...I was suspected of having a rare ectopic c section scar pregnancy & kept in hospital for over a week...aftermri scan etc...they said it wasent,just a pregnancy very close to it...& that they were 99% sure the pregnancy wouldn't survive...was sent away...rescanin 2 weeks.
I still had hope...I really did...
Then today the brown spotting started...& mild constant period cramps....
Then 20 mins ago....pop...blood & clots just fell out...
Had a look thru as I managed to get to the loo where I had a bowlset up in loo...(sorry if tmi) can't see any sac...just lots of clots? Is there more to come? Pain so far is manageable? Will it get worse? I'm 8 weeks +4
Xxxx

queenofthepirates Fri 12-Apr-13 00:13:22

Call NHS Direct and have a chat with them x

jkb Fri 12-Apr-13 00:15:03

I have heard they r awful in.miscarriage situations sad

MrsLHofstadter Fri 12-Apr-13 00:18:35

Here for hand holding if needed but I didn't experience a great increase in pain after sac had passed so can't comment. Have you rang hospital etc for advice?

Hope someone in the know is up and will be along shortly.

jkb Fri 12-Apr-13 00:22:42

I'll b honest...I'm trying to NOT ring...especially at night...cos I just know the ward registra will say "come in" & that's the last thing I want...my little ones r in bed...do is sleeping...I don't want to disturb anyone...I'd like to try & at least make it thru till morning.bleeding us heavy...but manageable...have experienced heavier...so that is something?
Thank u for the hand holding mrsl Xxxxxx

MrsLHofstadter Fri 12-Apr-13 00:40:04

I understand you not wanting to go in at night and appreciate you being more comfortable at home in your own safe space.

See it out until morning if you can but please ring if you need to. Hope bleeding lessens and pain is manageable.

Any chance of sleeping? If so I'd get yourself tucked up in bed and try to sleep.

notfarmingatthemo Fri 12-Apr-13 00:47:45

Just read the thread lost one at 12 weeks. Big hug and holding your hand. I second what MRSLH said. Do call if you need to. Daytime here so here all night to listen but try and rest if you can.

jkb Fri 12-Apr-13 00:54:36

Thank u ladies xxxx sorry for your losses too Xxxxxx

I slept for hour then woke up again by the pain sad just done more hot water bottle...hope this helps...they like proper contractions...every few minutes? I'm bloody worn out of all this now xxx

Pancakeflipper Fri 12-Apr-13 01:00:42

Holding your hand. No advice at all, but got a virtual hot water bottle for you x

notfarmingatthemo Fri 12-Apr-13 01:01:18

I only ever had contractions when miscarrying. When I had my two girls I never went into labour so had two sections. So the pain I felt seamed like a waste. I had a d&c as that was standard then. If you are still in pain in the morning I think you are going to have to go and get a scan to check that everything has gone sad I know they don't want to give you a d&c and I understand why it wasn't worth the risk but there may be drugs that can help or stop an infection.

Shellywelly1973 Fri 12-Apr-13 01:09:00

Op. Im so sorry your going through this, you've been through so much, its really not fair.

I would give the hospital a call tomorrow.

Sending you hugs. Try to rest tonight. Take care. X

jkb Fri 12-Apr-13 01:17:57

Thank u ladies xxx I don't know what I'd do without u xxxx its so lonely being in pain like this at night xxx god...I'm laying het wishing for gas & air! Lol hate the stuff..but wouldnt say no at the moment

toffeelolly Fri 12-Apr-13 02:17:26

Do give hospital a ring tomorrow if pain is no better , know what you are going through happened twice with me , but mine never came away had to go in and have d&c. I am thinking of you hope the pain goes soon, do take it easy. x

Pancakeflipper Fri 12-Apr-13 08:21:51

How was the early hours of the morning for you JKB?

jkb Fri 12-Apr-13 10:02:33

Awake till 4am...then finally fell asleep....think pains r building again this morning despite pain releif....

Accentuatethepositive Sat 13-Apr-13 05:03:50

Hi OP I just checked in to see if there were any updates and saw you have been suffering lots of pain. I don't know whether what you describe is anything to worry about but hope things have improved a bit and/ or you've got yourself some medical assistance. Hope you're OK.

jkb Sat 13-Apr-13 20:21:08

Hello
I have just got home from hospital. The pain got out of control on Friday morning.Despite all the pain releif ,it was like a full on labour & I couldn't cope anymore.
After hours of pain in a & e they finally gave me IV pain releif & admited me. My scan showed I have passed the pregnancy,but show a huge clot stuck behind my cervix & that's why my womb has gone crazy.bloods also showed I have an infection starting & so I'm on antibiotics. I'm now home thankfully.....with really strong pain releif as she felt my womb will start off contracting & trying to expel again! sad
She also gave meisoprostel to try & help it along....as they really don't want to do an ERPC.

So finally,with pain controlled,I'm off to bed soon as I feel the most tired i have ever been.
I couldn't have got thru both my miscarriage night or the other night without.u all xxxxxxxx

toffeelolly Sat 13-Apr-13 20:33:15

Glad you got sorted, just take it easy and rest well, hope you feel better soon. Take care. x

Accentuatethepositive Sat 13-Apr-13 23:11:51

Oh I'm so sorry to hear you've been through such a rough time. But glad you finally got the medical help you needed. Really hope it's enough and you'll soon be feeling a bit better, physically at least. Look after yourself, or better still get someone else to look after you. Thinking of you still.

jkb Sun 14-Apr-13 03:02:06

I am awake again,not in pain as meds working..but from constant nightmares..
I'm too scared to go back to sleep even tho I'm exhausted...they r the most real & upsetting dreams....I am actually crying now...I've never had dreams effect me like this...in the dream my life was over,I had been taken to prison...someone had hacked my identity..gone on fb & threatened & abused everyone...they all believeed it was me & reported me to police.the hackeer had ad also commuted crimes,all in my name...I was taken away for life in prison & only my hubby & sister & kids believed me...but the hacker was so clever they would never b able to free me...my life was over...
The emotions & fear this has set off r awful...I know its not real..I know this is down to morphine & cocktail of meds they put me on...but I can't believe how it's made me feel...I'm exhausted & want to sleep...but can't take anymore sadness & fear in these dreams. I feel I've really physically hit rock bottom ....
I just needed to share this,writing it to distract me....know if I go back asleep these endless nightmares will start again

jkb Sun 14-Apr-13 03:06:48

I'm awake again sad
No pain,that's under control at the moment. But the horrific nightmares have left me really upset & frightened to go back to sleep. I know they r not real,but they have left me with an awful.fear feeling & sadness...they weren't about mypregnancy...they were about someone stole my identity & attacked family thru facebook & all family believed (apart frommy sister,hubby n kids) it was me & turned against me...it went deeper..all my cash,crimes commited...all in my name....so was arrested & removed from my family forever wiv no way to prove I were innocent..they had coveted their tracks so well..my.life was over.....
I now can't stop crying...it's really upset &frightened me to sleep....I know it's caused by morphine & all crap I been given..but it's the worst dreams....real-lifeffear I have felt....& this dream was only one of them...I've had one after the other....I'm exhausted

jkb Sun 14-Apr-13 03:10:41

Sorry for double post....it didn't post first time! & seemed to say I wasn't logged in & deleted it!! So wrote again...now it's posted both?! Apologises...u don't want to read my messed upness twice ! Xxx

fuckwittery Sun 14-Apr-13 03:13:55

Hi, offering you a hand to hold here. Dream sounds awful. Tell me a nice or funny story about your children to take your mind off things?

Gumps Sun 14-Apr-13 03:17:33

More hand holding. Poor poor you OP. maybe get up watch some tv or read a book to try and clear your head of the dream?

lemontruffles Sun 14-Apr-13 03:29:29

Hi jkb, another hand to hold here too. I'm so sorry to read about your loss.

Can you find something gentle to read so that even if you can't sleep much, your mind can be distracted by something pleasant? Your dreams sound very distressing, and you must be sooo tired; grief is exhausting. Gentle kindness really helps.

And it's a very old fashioned thing, but I always find a cup of sweet tea is soothing.

I hope you manage to relax soon; and hope the pains go.

jkb Sun 14-Apr-13 03:29:29

Thank u for handholding xxx I can't focus,feel like I'm going crazy...tv on...but know I'm gonna fall asleep soon,can't keep eyes open sad & I know more stupid dreams r going to come..I just want a peaceful sleep

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