I think I am miscarrying

(119 Posts)
vix206 Sun 24-Mar-13 13:00:23

Just that really. Started brown spotting yesterday lunch time and have now started full on bleeding, just like a period. I was 6 weeks pregnant with DC2 on this Friday just gone.

I'm devastated and really frightened. Not in any physical pain yet but really worried about what this afternoon will bring.

Any support or advice would be gratefully accepted hmm

Welovegrapes Sun 24-Mar-13 13:01:26

Vix I am so sorry to hear this sad Huge un MN hug to you and here is a great place for support.

Will re-read your post now and see if there's anything specific I can suggest.

vix206 Sun 24-Mar-13 13:03:53

I do have a specific question. People keep asking me why I haven't gone to A&E but there no point unless I'm in a lot of pain, or bleeding v heavily is there? There's nothing they can do, and I'd rather stay in bed if I can.

But should I see my GP tomorrow?

Schooldidi Sun 24-Mar-13 13:04:11

I'm so sorry sad

At 6 weeks it's possible it won't be any worse than a period physically. Emotionally it will be much harder though.

Do you have good rl support? Is dp good at dealing with all the practical things and looking after dc1?

vix206 Sun 24-Mar-13 13:05:15

Yes DH is being great, wondering whether up send DS off to my mums for the afternoon....

Welovegrapes Sun 24-Mar-13 13:05:59

A couple of suggestions. You know paracetemol is safe in pg, so you can take that if pain starts, even before mc is confirmed.

If you do definitely start to mc hot water bottles are comforting.

I found bed was where I wanted to be initially.

I would call the local epu tomorrow and ask for a scan. You may have to see/call the GP first or they may let you self refer.

Definitely don't go to work tomorrow - call in sick. I kept going in to work during my mc which was a big mistake.

Most people find they can manage a mc at home, but if you do get more pain/bleeding than you can cope with you can always go to A&E any time day/night.

I don't know if any of the above is helpful. I hope it's not tmi.

So very sorry you are experiencing this sad

Schooldidi Sun 24-Mar-13 13:06:56

I had a mc last Easter. I was 12 weeks. I was advised by the ooh doctors not to bother going to see them unless things got really bad. So I didn't. I did the whole thing at home and I think I'm glad I did, I'd rather have it happen at home than be somewhere I wasn't as comfortable, and sorting out childcare on Easter Sunday for my other 2 dcs would have been a nightmare.

I didn't see anybody medical at all about my mc. Nobody seemed that interested in seeing me tbh, especially after all the bleeding had stopped.

vix206 Sun 24-Mar-13 13:08:40

Welovegrapes thank you so much. No such thing as TMI as far as I'm concerned in this situation.

Luckily I work with DH at our own business so time off won't be a problem.

Ugh it feels like waiting to die. Sorry to be do bleak but it really does. hmm

Welovegrapes Sun 24-Mar-13 13:09:07

Vix so glad to hear DH is supportive. If your mum can take your DS it might be worth seeing if your local epu is open on Sunday. A very few are - ours used to be. Otherwise, I agree - no point in going to A&E yet.

Welovegrapes Sun 24-Mar-13 13:10:35

Keep x posting with you Vix, sorry.

Very good you are not going to be having any trouble getting time off.

Oh the waiting is horrible, I know sad

vix206 Sun 24-Mar-13 13:11:27

Local EPU is mon-fri only. I'm up for staying at home in the warm.

GuffSmuggler Sun 24-Mar-13 13:12:20

So sorry this is happening Vix, you might still be ok so try not to think the complete worst.

I would say there is no point going to a&e after asking the exact same question last weekend after I started bleeding. I did actually end up sitting in a&e on the Monday for 4 hours and they still couldn't scan me until wednesday.

Do you have the number of your local EPAU? Some have drop ins or you can just phone them up. I would do that tomorrow morning. They will be much better in assessing you and perhaps giving you a scan.

Obviously if things get really bad do go to a&e.

Sorry again.

xigris Sun 24-Mar-13 13:14:33

Oh I'm so sorry for you. <offers hand to hold>. I don't have any advice to offer but would be sensible I think to make a GP appointment for Monday. It you're uncomfortable then paracetamol and a hot water bottle may help. flowers

Welovegrapes Sun 24-Mar-13 13:32:07

I agree about just staying at home in the warm and resting. Maybe have a sleep if you can in case you end up awake in the night.

LeggaDAISYcal Sun 24-Mar-13 13:35:17

Oh, so sorry sad

tbh A&E won't do anything. I spent four hours miscarrrying in my A&E, waiting ion chairs, not even in a cucible, and it was the bleakest time of my life. By the time I got seen, all they could tell me was go home, call 999 if haemmoraging [sp] and contact EPU on Monday (this was a Friday night)

I would have been better at home, in comfort and with my own loo handy.

However, saying all that, there are lots of stories of people bleeding early on and things still being OK, so it's entirely possible that this iusn't a miscarriage. Hang in there, and call the EPU first thing on Monday morning.

hugs to you xx

vix206 Sun 24-Mar-13 13:47:35

Thanks all. I do have my booking in appt with midwife tomorrow. My RL friends are suggesting I keep that but I'm not sure whether its her, a gp, or EPU that I should see. Or none of the above.

I'm thinking through practical details because I hate being out of control!

Really so grateful for all your posts, I appreciate the handholding

Welovegrapes Sun 24-Mar-13 13:50:42

I would go to the booking in - she will be able to refer you straight on to epu.

I totally understand about the details - I needed to understand everything so I felt I could cope.

BumbleBee2011 Sun 24-Mar-13 13:58:17

So sorry OP, this happened to me last year, also DC2, also at 6 weeks. Our local EPU wouldn't scan until 8 weeks so it was a case of waiting and seeing then going to get it confirmed.

I would recommend going if this is offered, it means they can check everything is "where it should be" for if/when you want to try again. Plus it's on your notes then if anything did need investigating in future (though hopefully not)

So sorry again sad

vix206 Sun 24-Mar-13 20:42:29

Since I wrote this I've just gone back to the odd spot of blood and still in no pain. In total i think ive only lost a teaspoon full of blood in the past 30 hours... no pain and no clots. I don't want to have false hope but I think there is still a small chance things could be ok. I'm hoping things stay the same overnight and that the midwife can help reassure (or otherwise) tomorrow. So scary hmm

Welovegrapes Sun 24-Mar-13 23:08:09

Vix, really glad to hear bleeding has settled down.

I don't think it's necessarily false hope - my bf bled red blood all through the first two trimesters of her pg and her dd is fine.
Statistically, most bleeding in pg is not mc, though of course a lot of cases of bleeding are women mc.

I would press for a scan tomorrow when you see the mw.

vix206 Mon 25-Mar-13 08:27:58

Still hanging on with no more bleeding so far. 2 hrs and counting til my appt.

theboob Mon 25-Mar-13 08:36:46

keeping everything crossed for you vix , will keep an eye on this for more news x

Welovegrapes Mon 25-Mar-13 08:40:35

Please keep us posted if you want to, Vix. Will be thinking of you and hoping it is good news today.

vix206 Mon 25-Mar-13 13:07:45

Midwife thinks I am Going to be all right from what i told her. I took a clear blue test and its positive 3+ as it should be. Just told to rest and not panic. I'm under consultant care due to haemorrhage after DS and then depression. Still bleeding a bit but feeling more hopeful. Fingers crossed.

Slainte Mon 25-Mar-13 15:12:40

Fingers crossed for you, hope everything works out for you smile

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