2nd miscarriage in 4 months

(6 Posts)
KateUnrulyBush Tue 05-Feb-13 04:56:02

This happened to me too. First mc at 10 weeks, I had an erpc. Conceived two cycles later, natural loss at 6 weeks. Was told to wait three months. I didn't wait. Conceived on the next cycle. First 12 weeks involved several bleeds and blood tests with not-quite-doubling low hcg levels. As you can imagine I was utterly convinced it would end in mc again and fairly sure I had some damage or other from the erpc. But I was wrong. It was a ds and he is here now.

Just thought I would share, after such similar stories. It can happen, it does happen and I hope it happens for you very soon.

TaytoCrisp Sat 02-Feb-13 09:57:34

So sorry to read of your losses twink, it's just so painful and unfair..and it is very hard to understand why this happens which makes it very hard to deal with and make sense of. Often there is no obvious reason, or even if there is, you still end up asking "but why...". Its just an awful hard place to be, and isolating if you can't talk to people around you.. Sometimes it is easier to talk to friends than DH..it can just be so hard to see your sadness reflected in another person you love... And also difficult when you feel you need support from your dh but he may not know how to provide it, and may be grieving too.

I think it is helpful to be gentle with eachother, and loving in your everyday actions - just small things - this can help keep you going when it's hard to talk and you are continuously trying to process everything in your mind anyway.

It's especially hard for you right now as you are just going through it and need all the support you can get. Sending you a big hug.

vacuuming Fri 01-Feb-13 22:37:44

I've walked a mile in your shoes. 1st at 16 weeks, mmc with an ERPC. 2nd, skipped 1 cycle and conceived again, natural m/c at 6 weeks. On a practical level have your progesterone levels checked, that was my issue and I went on to have a successful pregnancy once that was sorted out.
On an emotional level, there is not much advice I can give you. Allow yourself to grieve. My poor DH didn't know how to cope with it or what to say to me. Time helps a bit. I watched films that allowed me to bawl my eyes out like The Notebook. I found other women who were going through the same thing at the same time online and that helped a lot, one I am still in contact with.
Be kind to yourself, it's not your fault.thanks

Geekster Fri 01-Feb-13 22:26:19

I'm so sorry for your losses. It is horrible, to have two so close together must be even harder. It is hard to talk to each other about it, I think me and my DH didn't talk much for fear of upsetting each other further, we could talk about it in time. You will both be feeling raw and devastated at the moment, it won't feel as bad as this forever, even though it feels at the moment that you will never feel better and it will never happen.

I wish you both the very best of luck for the future. Take care x

SaggyOldClothCatpuss Fri 01-Feb-13 22:21:03

DP and I are not talking either. I have no idea what you or I should do, but just having someone answer my thread made me feel better, so I'm here and I care, even if I can't help. {{}}

Twinkltears Fri 01-Feb-13 21:35:17

As I write this I am miscarrying my second pregnancy at 5/6 weeks... I'm devasted :-(

My first was at 9 weeks and I had a D&C all I can think is my uterus was to weak to carry my second pregnancy maybe due to scar tissue!!

I don't know how to get through this, my partner is devasted also our problem we shut down on each other :-(

All I want is a baby

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