Hello
I lost my dear angel 2 weeks ago- I was 19 weeks pregnant_ his heart just stopped one day & I had to be induced & gave birth to my beautiful angel Matthew.
I got a call from the undertaker earlier saying he has booked his cremation for next wednesday and will i be attending?
Right up till now I had decided I would not attend....I think i had decided this because he hadent lived & just thought it would be so terribly hurtful & could see it making the hurt worse & it just didnt feel right...possibly I felt this feeling because this is what people expected...he never lived so they all expect no service and all looked at me weird when i even asked about it- like I would be a freak for attending or having a service for a child at this gestation???? But he is still my perfect baby :-(
we said our goodbyes when i held him for 5 hours after i gave birth & we had him blessed & named by the chaplin. But i am now in a complete state on panic & am an emotional wreck! I dont know what is the right thing to do ??
I know that I dont want to do the wrong thing & have any regrets...i know I love him so much & that him not being in my tummy is killing me... I know I am having his ashes back & put into a special memory bear for babies ashes...but apart from that I have no idea what is the right thing to do??? and dont want to make a mistake & live to regret it either way.
Have any of you experienced this decision about a late miscarriage (hate that term)? What did you do?
please help xxx
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lost my baby at 19 weeks gestation-do I have a service...so confused x
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jkb · 21/11/2012 17:44
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