Ectopic pregnancy support thread

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tasmaniandevilchaser Sun 18-Mar-12 18:15:29

Hi everyone, this is a place for anyone who's had an ectopic pregnancy - whether you want to moan, cry, fret or just have a chat with other people who understand. I know there's lots of other good websites on ectopic pregnancies but after hijackingchatting with sunshine on another thread, I thought I'd start one here.

Well I'll get the ball rolling with my story - after a MMC in November (found out at the 12 wk scan that the baby had died at 10 wks) I was just getting myself sorted, having counselling, when I had the ectopic. I know I am lucky in that I have a lovely DD. Having had a normal pregnancy, I knew from the beginning this one was not good and as soon as I got a BFP I was down at the hospital.

After 10 days of mental torture, waiting around, scans, rescans, blood tests, it got too late for the methotrexate (they finally saw the ectopic in a scan on a Friday early evening and the methotrexate wasn't in stock hmm)

I finally had the surgery to remove one tube on the Tuesday. This was the end of February, at first I wasn't sure how I would cope, but I am just plodding on. I know I am lucky that it didn't rupture, but honestly I can't think of having an ectopic as being lucky. Especially after a MMC sad.

Anyway, come join me if you want to share your story, I have wine, brew and thanks

Lovemylittlebear Sat 08-Nov-14 18:27:50

Thanks caitmous smile I'm in Wales and don't know of any services. I'm paying privately ATM for counselling and everything else which we can't afford to be honest. Hope everyone else is doing well xx

Caitmous Sat 08-Nov-14 11:22:19

Also, I had six months worth of free therapy from a pregnancy counselling charity. They are London-based. Let me know if you are and I'll DM you the details. Really helped.

Caitmous Sat 08-Nov-14 11:19:57

A good friend of mine had acupuncture for her fertility issues. She said she wasn't sure it helped in the end (she ended up conceiving through ivf) but got a lot from the holistic approach it took. She formed a close rapport with her acupuncturist and they spent time talking through a wide range of aspects of her life.

I think anything that feels right must be right. Go for it.

Lovemylittlebear Sat 08-Nov-14 10:32:54

I'm ok thanks smile coming to terms with it again. My best friend got pregnant at the same time so that's a bit hard as I'm happy for her but I am a bit jealous. My partner is reasonable lol...not overly conscientious but he is helping me through it with his optimism and sense of humour. I'm going to give homeopathy a go - I don't know if that's a bit wacky for me but I'm willing to try anything ATM. Does anyone else have any experience of homeopathy or accupuncture helping? Thanks xx

Caitmous Thu 06-Nov-14 20:34:14

Just caught up with the posts. I'm so sorry love. Really upset for you. How are you today? I hope you've got lots of real life love and care xx

Thanks for post mbd. I love hearing these positive outcomes, gives me hope.

Lovemylittlebear Wed 05-Nov-14 14:01:59

Thanks mbd for your lovely post.

Tranquility - feeling pretty negative about it all atm. I don't know what I'm doing wrong sad hope you are ok xxx

Tranquilitybaby Wed 05-Nov-14 09:52:44

How are you love?

TerrysNo3 Wed 05-Nov-14 08:24:55

mdb thanks for sharing your story, it sounds like you went through a horrid experience but it's great to know that even after all that you gave an amazing happy ending smile

MBDBBB Wed 05-Nov-14 06:36:40

Hello ladies. I just came across this thread and I felt I wanted to share my story with you, hopefully to give you some hope, and offer my support to those of you who are going through this.

I had my son with no issues in 2010. In 2011 we decided to start trying again. I quickly fell pregnant but very early on experienced some light pinkish bleeding. I had no pain but just this strange bleeding. I went into the EPU at the hospital and tests showed that my HCG levels were pretty high but there was no baby in the uterus. Initially they couldn't see anything in my tube either but an internal scan showed up the ectopic. Because my HCG levels were so high they said surgery was the safest option and they removed my right tube. Fortunately my left looked healthy.

I recovered well and we decided to try again late in 2011. I expected it to take ages with one tube down but again I fell pregnant quickly. I had a lot of pain from the start this time but no bleeding and although I was pretty sure something was going on the pg test was negative. The pain I had was on the right side where my tube was removed and the doctors were pretty dismissive. I had a lot of deferred pain under my ribs which I now know was due to bleeding.

I was at work when I suddenly had a huge pain in my right side. Somehow (very stupidly) I drove myself to a&e where I was left sitting for an hour until I begged to be sent straight to gynaecology. They were pretty dubious and dismissive. While they were spending a lot of time sorting out a scan I keeled over and passed out on their floor. Needless to say they then took me seriously and rushed me into surgery. Apparently I had had another ectopic in the same side as before and it had managed to implant itself into the little stump of what was left of my tube, which is pretty rare. I had also lost about 3 litres of blood internally and had I not got myself to hospital it could have been a whole different outcome.

I found the second ectopic much harder to recover from physically and emotionally. Thankfully my left tube remained unscathed though and I was assured I could still conceive. I felt doubtful, but thankful for my beautiful boy I already had.

In 2012 I conceived again and I was petrified. I had a lot of pain on my right side but this time the doctors were much more vigilant and I had an early scan at 7 weeks which confirmed the pregnancy was in the right place and I could even see a heartbeat. My pregnancy went smoothly and I now have a 21 month old beautiful girl.

I still experience pain when I ovulate on my right side and it is a reminder to me of what has gone before and also how lucky I am.

I know not every story ends as well as mine but I thought at one stage that there was no light at the end of the tunnel but it turned out there was.

To all those going through a hard time, I send lots of love and prayers. Know you are not alone in your experiences and there is always hope xxx

Lovemylittlebear Mon 03-Nov-14 08:31:46

Thank you - I shall ask for an hsg test. I hope its a MC too. Either way it looks to be sorting itself out, but I would have liked to have known if the fertilised egg made its way down to may uterus or not or if it got stuck in my tube again. It was right sided pain and cramping I was having (same feeling as last time) but my HCG dropped quickly by over double in 48 hours, so I don't know if that is more indicative of a MC or not? either way the Dr said there was no way to know if it was a misscarriage because it was tubal or a normal MC. They said I need to have three failed pregnancies before they will assess me.

I hope your next scan goes really well smile Thanks for the advices

Tranquilitybaby Sun 02-Nov-14 18:01:53

Although neither is nice I hope for your sake that it's a mc rather than ectopic. I'm so sorry. You can ask for a hsg test to check if your tubes are clear. X

Lovemylittlebear Sun 02-Nov-14 15:23:52

Sorry guys I know I'm hogging this thread. I had it confirmed I am miscarrying. They are unsure if it's tubal or not but pregnancy on it's way out. Does anyone have any advice on what I should do in terms of assessment? Thanks xx

Lovemylittlebear Sat 01-Nov-14 22:34:10

The same amount as when I had the ectopic last time and the blood looks similar too. Had nightmares about it and it's come true again! Does anyone know what happens next and whether we would get any further assessment with the nhs to see if my tubes are faulty or if I have problems with my hormone levels or anything? Xx

Tranquilitybaby Sat 01-Nov-14 20:09:51

Oh no :0( very much? I hope despite that, things might still be ok x

Stress can't cause that so don't worry x

Lovemylittlebear Sat 01-Nov-14 07:38:34

My mother was trying to help and said it's probably because I'm so stressed all the time sad great - so I've caused this then. Wow feeling negative lol. Thanks for all the nice comments x

Lovemylittlebear Sat 01-Nov-14 06:51:46

Starting bleeding this morning so it's not good news sad I've literally had enough x

Tranquilitybaby Fri 31-Oct-14 23:52:56

Fingers crossed it's more than doubled love thinking of you x

TerrysNo2 Fri 31-Oct-14 21:43:39

love keeping my fingers crossed for you. xxx

Lovemylittlebear Fri 31-Oct-14 18:06:09

My hcg came back at 135 which is a bit on the low side. Back in on Sunday. I guess someone has to get the 1 in 10 sad

Lovemylittlebear Fri 31-Oct-14 16:36:11

I have been having a lot of aching on my right side for the last two days sad this was the ectopic side and I think I ovulated on this side. Just been to epu for a blood test. Feeling really nervous and pessimistic about it all...I just think I'm going to be unlucky again. X

Tranquilitybaby Wed 29-Oct-14 20:35:57

Thank you. How are you? X

Lovemylittlebear Tue 28-Oct-14 20:22:37

thank you smile I hope that it goes well for you x

Tranquilitybaby Tue 28-Oct-14 10:03:08

It's a DNA test that tests for chromosome problems. Very accurate results.


Lovemylittlebear Tue 28-Oct-14 09:50:09

Glad to hear that other people are feeling the same. Sorry that's not nice...but it's comforting knowing that feeling like this is normal. I feel terrified then numb then I catch a glimpse of excitement then I feel like I'm grieving all over's weird xx

Lovemylittlebear Tue 28-Oct-14 09:48:51

What's a harmony test? I'm just off to doctors now to try and get a scan booked in as I can't self refer x

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