Healthy pregnancy after 2 miscarriages?

[catkins2003]

Hi

MY DS is 1yrs old. I got pg accidentally (was shocked as had taken 2 years to conceive DS) and had a mmc (started bleeding at 10+5 but baby stopped growing at 5/6 weeks). Had no previous experience of mc, was not given option of D&c by hospital so went through naturally, was absolutely horrendous it took a week and the pain was worse then labour.

Became pg again 3 months later (planned). At 5 weeks had bleeding, scan showed that it was not ectopic but had to come back as too early to see heartbeat, so asked to come back at 7 weeks. Was delighted (so happy i burst into tears) at 7 weeks to see my little beans heartbeat. As i was so nervous due to previous mc was offered another scan at 9 weeks. 9 weeks comes, no sign of mc, good strong pg symptoms, so excited about seeing my baby on the screen again - scan showed no heart beat :( Devastated, this was on Tuesday. Insisted on D&C which i had on thursday. Consultant said i could start trying as soon as bleeding stopped and that there was no need to wait.

Am desperate for another child but am so scared of going through this again.
Has anyone been through similar and gone on to have healthy pregnancy/get past 12 week barrier?

[Rosetti]

Yes Catkins2003 I went through this scenario too! had 2 mc's then DD, then mc then DD, then DD then finally mc followed by final DD! Please keep strong - I had progesterone injections with my healthy pregnancies - every one survived with the injections so I insisted on them in the end - it is hard but don't give up - I now have 4 beautiful daughters and the mc's although not forgotton do go smaller in significance
my best wishes to you all

[MogTheForgetfulCat]

Yes, I had DS1 and DS2, then 2 mc's. First was at about 8-9 weeks, pg had never really 'felt right' iyswim so wasn't entirely surprised although was v sad. Second one was a total shock, mmc at 9.5 weeks, having seen heartbeat at an earlier scan. That was even harder . Waited 1 cycle and then started trying immediately, and became pg on the 2nd cycle after the mmc. Gloriously uneventful pregnancy followed, and gorgeous DS3 arrived in Feb this year . I had acupuncture, maybe worth a try if funds allow, even if only for the placebo effect? Good luck, so hope it happens for you, too.

[Georgimama]

I had two MCs in six months after having DS - he was born March 2007, MC Dec 2008 and June 2009. DD was born July 2011. It can be done, but I understand how scary it is.

[deemented]

I had two miscarraiges before going on to have DT's, then DD, then DS3. In April this year i had another MC, and i am now currently 25 weeks pregnant with DC5

[tallulah]

Also had 2 mmc- at 10/11 weeks in Aug 2005, and 7/8 weeks in March 2006, then had DD in March 2007.

[littlemissanxious]

I know what you are going through. I had a miscarriage, then I had my daughter back in 06. I bled throughout the pregnancy. I have since had 2 miscarriages. I think I'm pregnant now,too scared to confirm and I'm already sooo anxious. I have been feeling I'm never gonna have any more children.its very scary! funny how the people who have never had a miscarriage breeze through it without a care.I really wish this anxiousness on no one. I hope its good news for all of us who are in the same situation :)

[starkadder]

Yes, me.

I had 2 MCs, then DS, then 2 more MCs, and then DD, who is now 4 weeks old.

All MCs were before 12 weeks; all were hugely upsetting.

I promised myself that if I had another baby successfully I'd come back here and post, as I convinced myself, firstly, that I would never be able to have a baby and then, after the 3rd and 4th MCs, that I would never be able to have a little brother or sister for DS. I was wrong both times.

Hang in there :)

[starkadder]

PS I never had any treatment for recurrent MCs as I never reached the magic number of 3 in a row...

[tasmaniandevilchaser]

hi all, I'm sorry for all your losses, but very happy that you went on to have successful pregnancies. It gives me hope, Catkins, I hope it does for you too.

Rosetti, I have a few questions about your injections - how did they establish low progesterone was responsible for your miscarriages? When did you have the injections? Was it done on the NHS or privately?

[littlemissanxious]

starkadder, thank you for your message.it has given me much hope. unfortunately I don't know many people who have had over three pregnancies but not recurrent. in fact I seem typo be surrounded by people who get pregnant easily and have them fairly easily also. alsop they were not trying to conceive either which makes it feel a little harder for me. but it happened for you maybe it will happen for me too. I really hope so :)

[littlemissanxious]

sorry for the typos, damn predictive texting (wink) (blush)

[Familydilemma]

No prob conceiving dd1 (with treatment but for male factor). Then two mc before Ds, then dd2 conceived first go. No rhyme or reason to it-bad luck I guess. Hope things go better for you soon.

[KatAndKit]

I had two missed miscarriages, one discovered at 10 weeks, the second discovered at 8 weeks.
I did managed to get referred by a very sympathetic GP who could see the toll that miscarriage and ttc was having on my mental health.

I am now 20 weeks pregnant. I am having Clexane and aspirin treatment due to suspected APS.

I'm very sorry to hear about your losses. There is still hope, and for many women, two miscarriages does not really put you at a higher risk of losing your next pregnancy, although I know very well how scary it is to put yourself at risk of another miscarriage again.

Wishing you the best of luck for a sticky one soon.

[EldonAve]

I had 2 mmc before having my last DC - I didn't have any treatment or investigations
Only thing I did was lose a bit of weight

Good luck

[escapeartist]

I don't have a success story (yet... but hope to one day :) ) But thanks everyone for taking the time to give hope. It's so hard when you're in it, I've only had mc's, no DC yet and spend a lot of time wondering if we will ever be successful. Threads like these keep my going.

Thanks again!

[littlemissanxious]

escapeartist, one day you will be successful. never lose hope. when I had my daughter,I forgot all the hardship that I went through. its only now that I'm trying for no2, I remember.one day when your holding your beautiful child,,you'll forget all your anxieties,pain and suffering that you may feel now,just don't give up,I try not to. I'm not gonna stop trying until I have one,I hope we really all do have success. baby dust to us all :)

[headfairy]

I had two back to back mcs... one in October '08 and one in January '09. I conceived dd in March '09, so yes, it most definitely does happen.

[oflip]

me too, 2 mcs, then ds who is now 8 years old!

[starkadder]

Also, according to Lesley Regan's book, the chances of a successful pregnancy are still higher than not until you've had 5 miscarriages in a row. Which is why so many doctors don't seem to take MC that seriously - not because they're heartless, but because they know that you will most likely end up with a live, "take home" baby without treatment. (I am not against treatment for MC - far from it - but I did find this reassuring).

It is so, so hard...I always wanted lots of children but don't know if I can put myself through it again - but chances are you will be successful :) good luck, everyone.

[MinkyWinky]

It's really reassuring to hear all the positive stories. I'm just going through my 2mc. My GP has been fantastic and offered to help kick start investigations when I'm ready because of my age, but like Catkins, I'm scared of going through this again. It's good to know that it can be successful:)

Big hugs Catkins.

[tirami5ulah]

hi catkins, this is my first post and I am going through my 2nd mc. (no kids yet.) First one June 2011, 10 weeks and this time now, Nov 2011, thought all was well at nearly 12 weeks but foetus stopped growing at 8 weeks, hence mmc. Was booked for ERPC, but nature took her course. Am nearly 40 and have been on clomid after 12 months of trying. Am so sad, feel time is running out. Getting pregnant seems ok, it's keeping it that's the problem. Am going to try acupuncture. Take care and good luck!

[maja15]

Hello all,
I miscarried last Friday and I'm finding the recovery horrendous. It was my first pregnancy & losing the baby at 12 weeks was heartbreaking. Specially knowing that the fetus has stopped growing at 7-8 weeks. 4 days have gone by and the pain is terrible and the bleeding doesn't seem to be subsiding. I was starting to get really worried that maybe something else was wrong but it seems that I'm not alone in the experience.

I am desperate to get pregnant again but I'm scared of putting too much pressure on my husband and myself - any thoughts?


Thanks,

Maja

[tasmaniandevilchaser]

Maja, I understand where you're coming from, I had a mmc at 12 wks a couple of weeks ago and we have started thinking about trying again. At first I didn't know if I could put myself through it, but it does seem easier now.

4 days is very soon, get some proper pain relief and wait for the bleeding to stop - speaking practically, you can't really start trying until the bleeding stops. I've only just stopped bleeding after 2 and 1/2 wks and that's ok, your body will just get on with it. It's your time now to rest and be kind to yourself. You'll recover quicker that way. On other threads a lot of people talk about how their immune system is low after a miscarriage, I've definitely found that and I've rested a lot. So keep resting, just think about what nice things you can do for yourself today!

I'm going back to acupuncture as well tirami5ulah, as time is running out for me as well. Fingers crossed for us all xxx

[maja15]

Hi Tasmaniandevilchaser,

Thanks! I am not very good at giving myself the chance to rest and I think I'm in some sort of denial as in 'If I got back to work and lead a normal life and get pregnant again, I'll be able to pretend that this never happened'. It's not healthy though, so I'm going to try & take it easy.

Someone recommended this forum and it's an absolute life saver!

Enjoy the acupuncture!

[daenerysstormborn]

i had dd, then had 2 miscarriages, first one was about 11 weeks, second was at 7 weeks. after that i had ds, which in the end was my most straight forward pregnancy as i'd had bleeding with dd.