One week today...

[MissHudson]

A week ago i had MC i was only 6 weeks but the effect it has had on me is unbeleiveable. It hurts more each day. I've been reading alot of poems past couple of days and alot relate but just makes me cry more. I miss my baby so much and i feel so guilty for not being able to protect her.

How do people cope with this kind of loss?

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[munkiii]

I didn't want you to go unanswered. I lost a baby at 6 weeks too and yes the pain is intense, unbearable and awful.

It sounds glib but you will get through this, I promise. Little by little each day. Don't rush yourself and allow yourself to grieve in the way you want to.

We planted a beautiful shrub in the garden to remember ours and stood and cried for a long time after,

You have done nothing wrong, you could not have prevented this and yes, and when you do have a baby you will not forget this one. Your baby will always be your baby it doesn't matter if you carried to term or not they will always be a part of you.

I take my beautiful daughter out to see the shrub which marks her older brother or sister and think about it often.

Hope some of this helps.

Thinking of you and I am very very sorry for your loss.

[Missgiraffe1]

Sorry for your loss MissH, and yours too munkiii

It takes time, but you will get there. You will never forget, you will never "get over" it, but you will learn to cope with it.

You also might feel lonely, and feel like those around you have moved on, forgotten even, and you haven't. That's why places like this are invaluable. I feel I can say or ask things here that I won't say to, or ask, my DH or my friends. Such a range of experiences and support.

Cry, rant, vent whenever you feel the need. Crying is not a bad thing. And be kind to yourself. It is a devastating thing to go through, no doubt about it. It's amazing how many plans we formulate in our head, and how much we think about what our wee ones will be like, and how our lives will change, in those few weeks. Then, to have it all taken away - it's just awful.

They will always remain out little ones in our hearts though.

But, I am inspired by the women on the post-mc threads. You do find the strength to cope, please be comforted by that.

Hope you start feeling better soon.