Hi Peeps,
I recently posted a thread on the Pregnancy Board about ?Bleeding in the 1st Trimester? but am now sadly on this board looking for some advice and hope.
I started faint spotting at 7w (last Thursday) which quickly turned to darker spotting along with backache and period type cramps. I made an appt for a scan at the local EPU which I had on Monday just past. They did an internal scan and said the baby only measured 5w and thus the scan was ?inconclusive? as my dates might be wrong. I knew they weren?t as I?ve been temperature charting and using OPKs so knew I ov?d on Day 17 of my cycle. This, along with the blood loss, was very upsetting and I was quite distraught at the hospital. They gave me some miscarriage leaflets to take away and told me to go back a week later for another scan to see if the baby had grown.
Within a few hours I had started cramping badly and passed something quite large when I was on the toilet at DS?s nursery. Unfortunately I couldn?t see what it was but it ?plopped? (sorry for the term of phrase) quite loudly in the toilet and the bowl was covered with blood, so I?m not sure if I passed the pregnancy sac or not? I grabbed DS from nursery and drove home sobbing and then spent another hour or so bleeding heavily and passed a plum sized clot (I managed to collect it on tissue before it fell down the toilet ? do I need to keep it for tests or anything?).
Since I passed the second clot the cramping pretty much stopped. The bleeding has continued but not too heavy (no blood loss overnight but started again today).
Does anybody know if I will have to have any further medical intervention with regards to the mc being ?complete?? I still have a scan appt for next Monday so I?m guessing they could check then (or would I need to go to the EPU beforehand). Will it take long for my HCG levels to drop back to pre-pregnancy levels?
I?m so distraught and have been shocked at how hard I?ve been crying. I was sobbing all though giving DS his dinner last night :(
I conceived DS easily and had no problems with my first pregnancy but I?m now at that age (39) where it all seems to be harder and Pud took longer to conceive but sadly hasn?t made it. Christmas this year will be tinged with sadness as my due date was the 23rd December (but DS?s birthday is Christmas Day so I will need to stay upbeat for him).
I am 39 and so petrified of not being able to have another baby. MC was something I hadn?t even thought would happen until it did and I?m now in a place where I?m trying to keep calm and not show any emotion (don?t want anybody at work to know) and then sobbing my heart out as soon as I get in the car to go home. I know it?s a common occurrence (as I was thinking today how many of my friends I know that have had miscarriages) but yet I don?t feel able (yet) to talk about my loss with them.
Part of me is so annoyed that I?ve left it so late to have a family, if only I could turn back the clock. All the talk about being my age and how difficult it will be is really really freaking me out and part of me feels like it?s already game over. I know I?m in a black hole just now and need to pull out of it and be more upbeat but it?s so difficult . Are there any older mums out there that can give me some hope?
It?s bitter sweet too as my best friend had her baby over the weekend when I was bleeding and starting to lose our wee Pud
My cycles were all over the place before I conceived and I had 2 lots of mid-cycle spotting with severe cramps. The GP didn?t know what was causing it but I was under severe stress at work so not sure if that could have been a factor. The month I got my BPF I had started taking conception vitamins and the mid-cycle bleeding stopped (but so did the stress at work).
I would be grateful for any advice or hope that anybody can give me, and that I shouldn?t give up hope already about having a sibling for DS. I know if I googled around I could find the answers online but I?ve come to the support of MN to help me
Sorry for the disjointed and long nature of my post, Pie x
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PieMistress · 10/05/2011 14:28
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