Hi All - apologies for the length!!!
looking for a bit of advice really. I had a MMC at the beg of Nov I didnt find out till the scan and it was my first pregnancy.
I have found peoples reactions very difficult to deal with. My sister who is younger than me has DD who is 19 months old she was brilliant and i wouldnt have survived without her. However the rest of my family and DH family havent been any good at all. They didnt really contact us and very much us to be over it and cant understand why its still so very painful.
however I have found myself now distancing myself from my family apart from my sister as i feel angry particularly at my mum who to be honest I dont think really supported me at all. She is very much of the attitude of getup and get on with it. Her whole life revolves around my neice (who is her first grandchild) i can completely understand this however there hasnt been any recognition from her of how painful it is for me sometimes when we get together and the whole familys attention is constantly on my niece. Dont get me wrong i love my neice to bits but my mum it has to be said is completely over the top with her she will take her off people who are cuddling her or talking to her without evern realising i think she is doing it. Anyway basically i dont really any phone calls from her now for weeks on end unless i phone her. she works within school system so has been on half term and i havent heard from her heardly at all. she looks after my niece as my sister works part time and it just seems so full on.
I just feel very sad and angry that i dont really think she was there for me. I have had ibs problems and also recurrent bouts of cysistis since due to stress and upset and she basically said to me if you dont sort yourself out then your not going to get what you want are you - meaning a baby.
i then have the flip side of constant inference with DH family who are pretty much suffocating.
i guess i am now at a complete loss and dont really know how to resolve this.
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Cazm2 · 20/04/2011 10:49
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