First pregnancy...first MC :(

[LittleMissMoi]

Hya,
Just wondered if anyone else has had a similar experience?
Went to EPU after bleeding for early scan at 9wks and saw strong heartbeat - told it measured 7wks and all looked normal.
Bleeding and cramps got worse, but nothing major that made me panic, but did ask for another scan. Went back yesterday (a week after the first), and no sign of pregnancy at all. This means I must have passed it, but I was literally checking all the time and didn't see anything other than red blood. However I did suspect, as my tummy didn't feel as bloated and my boobs weren't sore anymore.
Also saw on my notes that the sonographer has written that my endometrium is a little irregular in texture...what does this mean?
I feel like as soon as the bleeding stops (it's getting lighter) that I want to try again - I'm the most impatient person and plus 3 of my close friends are pregnant as well so can't help but feel gutted when I think about them - but obviously am still really happy for them.
Sorry - bit of a bumbling msg, but don't know anyone who's been through this.
Thanks.

[tortilla]

Hello - so sorry this has happened :( I had a mc at about 6-7 weeks. It really knocked me - I was surprised at how upset I was as I had only known for 10 days that I was pregnant so hadn't had chance to get my head round it or really start getting excited anyway. Like you my symptoms disappeared a few days before I started bleeding so I sort of expected it.

We started trying as soon as I had had my first period post-mc (I wanted to make sure my body had healed and was functioning normally) and got pg the first month - now have a lovely 5mo DD :) Apparently you are often more fertile immediately after a mc and I think a lot of people on here have got pg straightaway.

I wasn't sure if it was the right thing to do, as I was still grieving throughout the early stages of pg with DD, but being heavily pregnant with a wriggly baby at my original due date helped. And of course I wouldn't have my wonderful DD if I hadn't had that miscarriage, so that has really helped me put it behind me (although I do still feel sadness about it)

Take care of yourself over the coming weeks and months x

[Brasso4]

So sorry about this. I also had a MC with my first pregnancy, it is horrible. I did go on to have a wonderful daughter last year and she is now a crazy toddler so things do work out second time. Big hugs xxxx

[dickiebird]

I have just mc at 7-8 weeks. I am totally devastated, more than I thought I would be. My head knows it was still only an embryo and it happens a lot but I think it is just the huge deflation of all the excitement you are feeling. I knew from 4 weeks and was starting to get excited about telling people and starting to feel my body change and then it just stops. I have a question, I am still bleeding and I was wondering how many people need to go on to have a D&C and how many nature's course is enough? :(

[Brasso4]

So sorry about your loss dickiebird. Miscarriage is awful, it is like the death of a close family member but one that only you (and your DH) knew well. I don't know about your D&C question but wanted to give you virtual hugs xxx Look after yourself.

[LittleMissMoi]

Hi dickiebird - sounds like we're in a similar position - so sorry to hear.
At my second scan when they confirmed there was no pregnancy present anymore, they told me that as my lining was quite thin, they were happy not to have to see me again, but that I could call any time if I had any questions or worries. They said the bleeding could continue for about 2wks and to expect a period in about a months time.
I had been having bleeding, about as much as a period, but no clots, so was a bit of a shock in that sense not to see anything left on the scan. But yesterday I passed the sac - I just knew, and since then the bleeding has turned brown again, rather than red. Not in any pain (physically), so I guess I just wait for it to stop.
From talking to friends, I think D&Cs are needed when they can see the pregnancy still on scan, but no heartbeat and the body hasn't passed it.
Feeling a bit numb at the moment, plus seem to have developed a throat infection - I suffer from tonsilitis alot so hope it doesn't develop - don't think I could take much more rest at the moment - just want to get back to normal. :(

[dickiebird]

Thanks little. I have an appointment at the epu on Thursday so we'll see where I am then. I hope you feel better soon x x

[dickiebird]

Thanks little. I have an appointment at the epu on Thursday so we'll see where I am then. I hope you feel better soon x x

[pecka33]

so sorry about your loss dickiebird i had my first miscarriage back in sept and it was also my first pregnancy too.
At 13 weeks the week of my scan i loss my mucus plug on the monday and bleed throughout the week, finally had my scan on the thursday and i had miscarried at 8 weeks a mmc, so had carried the baby for an extra 5 weeks, i finally miscarried the week later, naturally and it was an terrible experience!!
6 months on and fastly approaching my due date im finding it very tough, especially as were actively trying to conceive and were just not pregnant yet, so all very sad.
It does get easier, for my i started to feel less consummed by it all after about 12 weeks, i think the trick is to talk about it and acknowledge your loss, thats where mn is great as it allows you to do both without being judged.
Takecare of yourself and come join us on the ttc after epac thread when your ready to ttc again. X

[Chestnut99]

Littleand Dickiebird and everyone else, I'm so sorry for your losses :(

I lost my first at 10 weeks but the baby was just a smidge, so a mmc. About needing a D&C/EPRC, I think its a matter of choice these days - I have chosen to let it happen naturally which has taken up to 4 weeks. But I was given the choice of an EPRC if I'd wanted it, to get the process over and done with, or when it was taking a long time, or if the natural process seems to have finished but they can see there is still pregnancy tissue in the womb. Personally (and totally unscientifically), I felt that letting it happen naturally helped with letting the hormones reduce at a gentle natural pace, which I believe helped me very much to come to terms with what had happened (plus after 4 weeks of bleeding, I was VERY BORED INDEED with the physical side of it ...). Friends who had had an EPRC warned me about being hit by a wall of emotion, but I never experienced that.

Little - be gentle with yourself about seeing your friends who are pregnant - I found it very hard to be with pregnant people (including my sister ) until I was pregnant again. I'm sure they will understand if you explain you find it painful. As for TTC again - the docs prefer if you wait until you've had a period, but I think that is just so that its easier to work out your dates. Apart from that, whatever feels right for you. Once you have had an mc any pregnancy is terribly worrying and never pure delight like the first but also one mc is not a reason to worry - I have so many friends who have suffered one, and all gone on to have one, two, three DCs - my DS is 18 months tomorrow :)

[Chestnut99]

Sorry - I think its ERPC not EPRC

[Ellawantsababy]

Hi Little and Dickie and everyone else who is going through this too.

I've also just had a very early miscarriage and only officially knew I was pregnant for a week (I actually suspected it for 10 days before I got a BFP). I also can't believe how much it has affected me. I am just so gutted.

I cried a lot when it happened as it was really painful and not nice to see it happening when I went to the bathroom. Then for the past few days I have been fine at times and other times balling.

I feel like no-one really understands other than you guys. Even my Mum who was very sympathetic when it happened is now saying its been a week and I need to move on from it as it happens to loads of people and if I hadn't tested so early I probably would never have even known. She's never had a MC and so I don't think she really gets how disappointing it is.

I just want to fast forward and feel better. I guess its comforting to know we aren't being silly and all feel the same way

xx

[dickiebird]

HI Ella

I'm so sorry. It is horrible isn't it. I am finding it much more painful (physically) than I thought too. As with you, at times I am ok and at others I am sobbing. My DP told me to stop blubbing yesterday! I know he didnt mean it and it is hard for him to understand but as you can imagine, it had the opposite effect!! I am trying to go to work as normal but when my stomach is cramping and all I want to do is curl up in a ball, its difficult.

I am sure it will get better and if i had a time-machine I would lend it to you and we could fast forward together!
Take care of yourself x