Hi
This site and posting is new to me, please bear with me! This was my first pregnancy and I miscarried 3 weeks ago at 9 weeks. Having read posts from others offering various advice, I would love some too.
Even though I tried not to get too excited before 12 weeks, at 9 weeks I started bleeding, went in to get checked and I was gutted to see no heartbeat on the scan, and be told that it hadn't grown past 6 weeks.
I thought that physically, to mc would be like a heavy period, but I couldn't have been more wrong. After passing large clots for a few days, I had labour-like pains, excrutiating agony and my husband had to take me into A&E. Complications had resulted in me being unable to pass the pregnancy sac as the neck of the womb was too tight, so I had the horror of removal of it by the doctor (who was excellent) with tweezer-type instruments. After this, it was back home and 'normal' passing of the remainder of the placenta for 6 heavy days and 2.5 weeks total.
I am back at work now 3 weeks on, and thought I would be back to 'normal'. Instead I keep crying for no reason (tears whilst walking to check-in at airport today was a random example), just want to hide away, feel I am walking with head held down constantly, putting on a show for everyone.
My husband is struggling to get it (I have no good new reason for 'why are you crying') and it is pushing us apart, to the point that he is unsure if the relationship is sustainable - we have been on shaky ground before and the pregnancy experience was not great as I was not my 'normal self' throughout.... this is not great on top of it all.
I suppose I want to know if others have experienced the tears / sudden moments of despair like this, is this 'normal'?? I am usually so pragmatic about things and I was aware mc was a risk, so why is it so, so sore? Is there any advice, things I can do, read, try, anything to reduce the sadness?
This is probably too long a rant, if you are still awake after reading, looking forward to getting your help!
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retroalba · 11/02/2011 23:06
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