Nightmares!

[Tokyotwist]

I am having trouble sleeping and when I do finally fall asleep, I end up having nightmares.

Last night was the first time I managed to sleep for more than 3 hours but then I dreamt someone was murdered and buried in my garden. I was so scared it took me a while to respond to dd calling this morning.

I know it's stress related as it's only one week since my ERPC.

Is anyone else experiencing this and do you have any ideas to help?

I'm not very keen on seeing the Dr as I don't fancy the idea of sleeping pills and suspect it will either be that or she will just tell me to give myself time.

[daisytaylor]

Hi tokyo, firstly i am so sorry to hear of your loss.
I too have been having some strange dreams/nightmares. I had an ectopic 4 weeks ago and then on friday my 9 year old son was admitted to hospital with an infection. I have also suffered burst stitches and an ongoing infection. So i really do agree that it must be stress related. The other night i dreamt i was taken up in a red beam of fire and died but came back 9 months pregnant. I am very confused about that one.
I have found that trying to relax as much as possible before bed has really helped me stop the dreams. I have tried watching funny programmes and having a really good laugh which seems to help. Not for everyone though i guess. Have you tried herbal sleeping tablets from the chemist at all? I'm sorry i can't be of much more help to you but i am here if you want to talk

[milkyway2007]

Yes. Yesterday was a particularly low day for me - I was thinking alot about my miscarriage I had last week. I had a medically managed miscarriage at the hospital, and passed the sac into a pan.
Last night I dreamt I was back in the hospital and I picked up a tiny baby out from the pan, and it was my baby - smaller than my hand. I was hugging and kissing it and telling everyone I had a miscarriage.

It was horrible. I woke up regretting asking the baby have tests done - I feel like its hurting its soul or something :(

Im also having trouble sleeping - just keeping busy everyday - Im cleaning everything vigourously during the day, and sleep about 4 hours at night.

I wasnt this bad with my other mc's...I dont know why - maybe because we saw the heart beat 2 weeks earlier - but I am really upset about this mc.

I hope you get through this too - its a terrible time. Maybe you could try to relax with warm milk before sleeping at night. I agree the pills are not a good idea - but doctors cant prescribe you something you dont want, and sometimes its good to talk to someone like a doctor, as they can suggest other things to help you sleep too or just be someone to talk to if you need it.

[Tokyotwist]

Thanks ladies, I'll try both. It must be even worse when the nightmares are about the baby. So sorry you are both experiencing this. I haven't dreamt about the baby at all.

I thought I was coping okay. Better put, I usually manage to distract myself during the day but did have a bit of a set back in Clintons today.

I was trying to pick out a card for the baby's memory box and ended up in tears. I was so worried about someone asking me what's wrong, I more or less hid in the back of the shop, trying desperately to look like I was studying the cards and not blubbing all over them. If it wasn't so sad it'd be funny.
Obviously I am not ready for this and have shoved said card (yes I bought it, I had to, it was drenched in tears) and memory box in the back of my cupboard.

[kat2504]

It's a normal reaction to have trouble sleeping. I had the nightmares too and could only get a couple of hours sleep for the first two and a bit weeks. Then that was quite enough for me and I went to the docs - one week of sleeping pills was enough to help me feel a bit better. Tiredness makes the anxiety even worse. If you aren't keen on that then you could try all the usual stuff they suggest for insomnia - bath, relaxation, getting a bit of exercise in the afternoon. But it is hard to do that when you are feeling so low.

Sorry that you are going through this, I hope you start to feel better soon

[harassedinherpants]

I had this too. Trouble getting to sleep, trouble staying asleep and the most awful nightmares.

It's 3 weeks today since my erpc and they have improved. I didn't see the doc, I just went through it on my own, and yes I'm tired, but it's definitely getting better.

[laylasmummy09]

im having this too, i had a natural mc at home last sunday (my 2nd in 6 months) and im struggling to get to sleep and last night i had a strange dream that there was a small baby in my tummy but not my womb and it kept stretching its arms out almost splitting my skin with its fingers but the doctors kept telling me i was imagining it and i was definitely not pregnant its heartbreaking, really hope you feel better soon xxx