Friend has been hospitalised :(

[Fibilou]

My best work friend had a miscarriage on Thursday. She sent a text via a colleague on Friday evening that she was not coping at all well at home and has been hospitalised for the weekend :(

What is likely to have gone so wrong that she has been taken in ?

[ClaireDeLoon]

Poor love :(

I was hospitalised twice with last mc. I decided to go natural route. After a few weeks nothing happening, went to GP, temp was sky high so bundled off to hospital, put on an antibiotic drip for the infection, kept in for a few days then ERPC.

ERPC was a Friday, seemingly went fine. Early hours of Sunday started with cramps and heavy bleeding worse than with my 2nd mc which had been bad enough. Readmitted and they got the consultant out to scan me, which confirmed they hadn't got it all out. Kept in overnight with an ERPC Monday.

Could it be either if those situations? Has she had an ERPC yet?

It's awful being in hospital for it because you just want to cry but you're surrounded by strangers. I hope she'll be OK.

[sotough]

not particularly easy to answer your question without knowing how far along she was?

[Fibilou]

She was 9 weeks; she had heavy bleeding and thinks she physically lost the baby on Friday so things had definitely started naturally

[ClaireDeLoon]

Perhaps very heavy bleeding then? Is she in gynae? They can monitor her blood loss there so may be doing that.

[LoopyLoops]

I would have guessed from your post that it was psychological. Do you need to know though? Can you send her a supportive text and wait and see if she asks for help?

Hope she's OK. :(

[Fibilou]

Yes, in our trust anything earlier than 17 weeks goes to gynae.
She should be home today

[Fibilou]

Well that's what I thought Loops, everything she's said via text was not good. What worries me is, if she's been hospitalised for psych reasons, how on earth she is going to get past this :(

[LoopyLoops]

She will, people do, all the time. It is a severe shock and trauma, and perfectly reasonable for anyone in this situation to need extra help. It certainly doesn't mean that she'll be there forever or that she won't get better soon.

[sotough]

i promise she will come through this. there are lots of us on this board who have gone through it again and again and again and somehow survived. it sounds as if she is getting the medical support she needs, whether for bleeding or distress, and if her friends rally round i'm sure that will be hugely helpful. one thing to remember is that she may start feeling better quite quickly; then a few weeks down the line suddenly feel very low again. it's a bit of a shock when it happens as you think you're doing really well and then, bam, it hits you all over again. she will need her friends more than ever if and when that happens.