Hello ladies
I know this subject has been touched on but I would really appreciate your advice. Last week I found out my baby had died at 17 weeks. The hospital staff were great but I did feel pressured into making a decision about funeral arrangements as I was told I would need to let them know before I left. Tbh, following two days in hospital I just wanted to get home to my DS so decided on a cremation, where all babies are cremated together and the ashes scattered at the local cemetery. Parents are not allowed to attend and so my DH and I have decided to light a candle in the hospital chapel on the day of the cremation.
Sorry this has become so long but my question is if any of you took the same option did you feel that you were unable to say goodbye properly? My options are basically to arrange our own funeral, but I don?t know if I have the strength for that (the hospital will put us in contact with funeral directors etc) or for the hospital to arrange it but therefore we won?t be able to attend. I am worried I will regret not saying goodbye or that I didn?t give my baby the send off he/she deserved.
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Did you regret not arranging your own funeral or saying goodbye properly?
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knackeredlou · 29/10/2010 12:04
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