Can't stop crying

[notMrsRobinson]

I had blood tests 2 weeks ago for low thyroid and fsh, posted much about that and had some good advice, as the thyroid result came out low... Fsh came back at 45, menopausal range, I'm 50 and generally ok (aside from a cr@ppy relationship and abusive H that I'm trying to deal with) but I've been told to wait 6 weeks and redo the thyroid which seems to have tipped me over the edge, I'm wondering if I should put my total meltdown over this to menopause symptoms?

I had to leave work yesterday, am bursting into tears at drop of a hat or less, just thinking about the fact that I got told I have an abnormal thyroid result but I can't do anything about it (I wanted thyroxine I guess?) and it makes me feel utterly destroyed. I'm not bothered being told I'm positive for menopause, I expected that!

It's the wait I'm upset with, I want to do something. If its menopause I can't 'do' anything but if I'm confirmed hypothyroid and the treatment makes me better so to speak, the I can deal with menopause separately.

Or it could be the relationship issues? H was pleased I had low thyroid result as he thought I'd be put on meds which would make me want sex (I've no desire at all but I consider his behaviour part of that...).

Sorry, just needed to rant! I've got a lot to be thankful for but feeling apocalyptic right now.

[pinkfrocks]

It's quite 'normal' for emotions to be all over the place during peri meno.
Some people cry, others just get mad- at everyone.

Are you having counselling re. your marriage? Sounds as if that could help and perhaps you need to get out of an abusive marriage? It would make anyone burst into tears to be treated like a sex object - a DH who is pleased you may be ill so that the treatment may make you feel like sex- instead of owning up to his own nasty behaviour. Nice!

You can actually do quite a lot to help with menopause- lots of lifestyle measures like diet, exercise, mindfulness, yoga, taking up new hobbies etc- and HRT if your symptoms are making quality of life poor.

Depends how much help you feel you want and which way you want to go with it all.

[notMrsRobinson]

Many thanks pinkfrocks! I'm calmer today. I have a few weeks until the thyroid re-test and I am going to use this time to evaluate a few things, I'm going to address some lifestyle issues and try to keep my (normally positive)frame of mind. I just felt so out of control the other day-- as you point out, there is a wealth of information on positive lifestyles changes I can do. And as ever, counting my blessings is helping!

[WotchOotErAPolis]

Me too, NotMrsR! My turn for a rant!

Crying lots, angry angry angry all the time;
relationship a bit shaky after 20 years;
facing further post-BC reconstructive surgery;
kids all teenage and hard to cope with;
work today not good so threw total tantrum [fortunately whilst working at home] when link went down and reports not coming up with correct figures;
still in debt after DH out of work for 2 of previous 3 years [happily working now];
no pension provision at all;
surrounded by people seemingly having great relationships and with loving partners.

I absolutely HATE being 51 and I'm apparently, not even peri-men yet! Roll on menopause - I can't wait to meet you - surely it can't get worse than this?

And yet, everyone says how great it is to be in your 50s. I should be just ticking over now and settled with retirement all planned. What utter boll*cks!

[WotchOotErAPolis]

Sorry very rude of me : I should at least have asked after your health first?!??

[thatsnotmynamereally]

Oh Watch sympathy here! Rant away all you like...

I've just found that in light of the fact that I now have a suitable-for-framing (LOL!) test result piece of paper, which says it's officially meno (or near enough), I'm finding it easy to blame EVERYTHING on that, when I probably have grounds to be genuinely pissed-off at other things?

BTW I know quite a few people in their 50s and no one is as sorted, financially or otherwise, as they 'should' be. Try to relax!

[pinkfrocks]

It's a myth that people in their 50s are 'sorted'!

Most are dealing with teenagers, elderly parents, wayward or past their use by date partners (!) or a divorce.

Some are- if they started young enough and the kids are gone and off their hands, or if they have retired early and are living the dream but I know very few like that.

It is though a time to re-group and think about your next 30 years- and push the boat out to have the kind of life you want if you can make some changes.

[MrsRossPoldark]

Joining in a bit late! Gone through the midlife crisis, severe mood swings seem to have stopped now, but oh the exhaustion!

Now morphed into arthritis in both knees & constant feeling that I'm falling asleep!

Added to that the constant running around after 3 teens - just driven one to a party & got home to find Tesco man on the doorstep with DS3 who had forgotten his keys to get in; DS1 upstairs, headphones in & oblivious to the doorbell; back door wide open to passing burglars & the living room lit up like Christmas adding to the advertising!

AAARGH