I'm 50, crying and feeling useless!
I'm about to start a new job after running a failed business for the previous two years. DH had been out of work for 18 months during that time, so we have lost so much money after the last two years.
We had everything all settled and had a flat which we rented out and was supposed to pay for our pensions. Now we have so much debt, no pension, three DSs to support and I feel totally useless.
After waiting 5 weeks now to start this blasted job [thanks to the stupid Government requirement for CRB check, despite just having had one when I went for second interview - no that CRB check won't do, we have to do another one], I have no confidence in my ability to do it as I can't remember things, don't hear very well, so misunderstand things and even when I do hear things I often just don't 'get it'. Friends think I'm extremely ditsy and whilst it's very funny at the time, it means I have no faith in my ability to do any job. I'm not a good cook / Mum / worker / anything really and I am dreading starting work and finding out I can't do that either.
We have just had a bit of a dabble with some savings on the stock market but have just lost all our investment. DH was in agreement with us having a go but the last 'punt' I did wrongly and paid for it. Just another proverbial stick to beat me with, as if he needs any more. He will remind me of all my errors for the rest of my life, which he frequently does anyway. He's such a control freak. Criticises everything I do so if this job doesn't work out he'll take every opportunity to remind me of how stupid I am.
I just feel like crawling into a hole and never coming out right now. I'm one of those who keeps up a smile on the outside but inside I'm screaming. What can i do next?
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WotchOotErAPolis · 20/03/2014 15:47
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