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am I weird or is anyone else glad about menopause?(35 Posts)
Finally skipped a period this month, aged 48 and feel over the moon. At last it's on its way. After 36 years of appalling cramps, 8-day full on bleeding, chills, night sweats, runs, exhaustion, filthy mood swings, chocolate cravings, I'm going to be free. I hated them from day 1, when I was 12, and only had a break once when pregnant.
I feel like this is the start of a new and brilliant time in life. Don't mean to be insensitive if others hate it, and am sure it'll have some horrendous effects too, but can't help feeling a bit glad, excited even that 25% of every month won't be stolen from me.
I'm 43 and due to have my ovaries removed in January and i cant wait. I'm going on HRT for the next 10 years or so and that doesnt bother me at all.
i'm just hoping that i start to feel normal. I have PCOS, hyperandrogenemia and heptatic adenomas.
Thanks for sharing your positive Menopause memories with me
I'm 53 and post menopausal - got through it without HRT - but it has been a horrendous 5 years - had the lot, night sweats, hot flushes, brain fog, insomnia, mad mood swings, depression. Don't think I had/have vaginal atrophy, but not sure I'd notice if I had! It's just been the past 6 months or so that its all calmed down (still get hot flushes if I have red wine), and now it has, I'm glad to have arrived on the far side of what has been a very stormy sea. I have my brain back, I never have to think about what time of the month it is, I feel a lot more positive about life in general - just have to spend a while sorting out various things I neglected when going through it! I'm also exercising and taking calcium with Vit D in the hope it might protect me from osteoporosis, but who knows?
Everyone is different. Some people's periods fizzle out and other people have bigger gaps and heavier periods when they do come.
I was quite lucky. I had normal periods up to the age of 52 - got a bit lighter-then missed one before a few more months of regular and light ones. Then I missed about 4 months - and hot flushes began. Then one final one - possibly! I had two periods almost a year apart after tha- investigated but all was okay.
I had no meno symptoms at all unitl the 4 months without a period when I had hot flushes. No mood swings or anything. When my periods stopped- I was almost 54- I had hot flushes every hour and sleeping was a real issue. I aksed for HRT because there was literally nothing else I could try- had a really healthy diet, loads of exercise, no alcohol etc. Having read everything about HRT and discussed it with my gynae the research says it's safe on the whole epecially for women under 60.
I nearly started a thread about this the other day...I'm a few weeks late and am also so pleased.
I am 50 , haven't had any night sweats or anything yet ..am I being too hopeful?
forgive me for appearing naive (dm still not mentioned anything to do with the subject- df bought all my tampons etc when I was 12) but should I be expecting to have lighter and lighter months and just stop or do a massive splurge to get it all out so to speak and then stop? 48 in the next few days, been having night sweats for about a year, phases of uncontrollable chocolate addictions for the last 6-12 months, mood swings off the scale for around 2 years and I'm on day 37 - could this be it?
I'm 52, have missed my last 2 periods, and am really hoping I don't
get any more now.
Have had quite heavy periods over the last 5 years [about 3 were really bad ones], a few hot flushes, and that was that .
Healthwise, I feel better than I have for years. I quit drinking, lost weight, increased my exercise. I really want to be one of those fit, energetic older ladies.
So yes, I am very pleased to be [fingers crossed] menopausal.
Bellacioa would you say the jury was still out on HRTs long term safety? I know a recent Danish research study showed it to be safer, but there was still an increased risk of cancer with combined therapy- albeit small.
It's still not being prescribed long term as first line treatment for osteoporosis with many reputable drs saying "Because of the link between estrrogen and breast cancer."
I'm just not sure, persoanlly, who to believe.
I am glad too. I have not had a period for a year, so officially menopausal. My periods were horrendous, so heavy I needed to control them with medication.
My memo symptoms have not been too bad, some night sweats and tiredness. For me post-memo is definitely better.
....and who says you need to stop HRT? Postponing symptoms? Tapering decline in dosing? I do not intend to and current thinking does not indicate there is any sginificant risk in continuing. I'm 59 and have been on it for 6 years. Remember post-menopause is for ever. Lots of us do not just use HRT while we are "going through the menopause" but to ward off the oestrogen deficiency symptoms Miss Bo Peep outlined earlier. And lack of oestrogen is detrimental to your optimal bodily functioning in the long term, even if you say you do not experience any adverse symptoms, or stoically decide it is all due to ageing.
my periods, which had been appallingly heavy, stopped dead with chemo (for breast cancer) when I was 50, over 10 years ago now
I did have some hot flushes, & now have sad skimpy eyelashes, rather bristly eyebrows & random long hairs on my chin, but not having periods is utter bliss
I too couldn't wait, I saw consultant because of a prolonged heavy period and had tests when I went for results he told me I was definitely going through menopause his tone of voice was as if it was terrible news I actually cheered, he said if that's how you feel you will sail through it. I did apart from flushes which were not a problem. Been a few years now and its wonderful.
I am in the midst of the menopause. It is nice to be (almost) shot of periods but the depression is utterly horrendous. Hopefully yours won't affect you the same way.
Sorry to contradict you but you are misinformed.
You were lucky
25% of women are lucky as you were. The rest have symptoms.
This is not a choice or something anyone can control with a "positive attitude".
Women do have hot flushes in their 80s- my mum does.
There was recently some info on the web about this and it was informing drs that they ought to be aware that it happened more than people think.
As for osteop- 1:3 women over 50 have it. It's a serious disease and most women do not know until they are in their 60s or 70s and have a break.
Lifestyle is a factor- and so are genes. But they are not the main factors- unless you have a mum with early onset osteop.
There is no getting away from the health issues which affect women with no oestrogen: bones, heart attack risks, atrophy of the vagina etc , just to name some
Not ALL women have these but a lot do.
And HRT does not necessarily postpone the symptoms- if you reduce the dose over many months which is possible with some types, then you can perhaps avoid the meno symptoms.
I have just appointed you my official role model for post-menopause.
I went through the menopause at 52 - some ten years ago. I rarely suffered much beyond some cramping and little in the way of PMT, but I was still happy to see the end of having periods. I didn't suffer much in the way of menopausal symptoms either - very few, brief hot flushes in the year or so after. I didn't want HRT but asked my GP for dietary and supplement advice - which he knew nothing about.
I think one of the main problems about the menopause is that people often only talk about the scary effects. I recall one colleague telling me that some women still have hot flushes well into their 80s. I really doubt that, unless there's some underlying endocrine problem.
I also think that some of the conditions typically associated with the menopause are more to do with genes or lifestyle, etc. Older men can get osteoporosis, too.
Plus: all that money previously spent on sanpro can now be spent on something else much more interesting!
periods still like clockwork....had enough now to be honest. I just discovered evening primrose oil. I ignored it for years. One month of mega dose pills, and I feel much better.. boob pain gone, and skin good too. May opt for Hrt in a year or 2 if I feel the need.
We don't really have much choice though, do we? Best to celebrate the good side (ie lack of periods) than lament the downsides. Not everybody has a hard time and I suspect some of the problems are to do with the normal ageing process.
The problem with HRT is that it just delays the inevitable. I think I'd rather be coping with menopause symptoms in my fifties than putting them off until my sixties.
God i'm peri meno, or menopausal, i don't know as my GP doesn't test.
Every joint aches, cant sleep and am knackered, my hairs coming out, i can't think properly, i feel anxious, i itch and i'm constipated.. all classic symptoms.
Yes, 3 years ago when my periods starting going awry i thought wow this peri menopause business is a doddle - now it's hell.. i'd much rather have a monthly period and feel like a human being the rest of the time, then this!
I can't see the appeal of being post meno at all. You are at far greater risk for a load of health problems. I concur that if your periods or PMT are horrendous it might seem a godsend, but overall, I'd rather be fertile than post meno when the time comes.
I was not happy at all to contemplate thin hair, changes to my voice, vaginal atrophy, loss of libido and increased risk of osteoparosis! After one week of hot flushes, strange panicky feelings and smelling odd (you seem to loose your essential scent) I decided that it was HRT for me, for as long as I could get it.
Thanks lirael - it's good to hear there might be life after menopause.
I have had a few symptoms - mainly lack of energy and woolly headedness - but in general I feel better than I did when I was having periods. Much more even mood-wise, less anxiety etc. Mind you, have only been period free since April so not officially menopausal yet - hope I'm not tempting fate!
Couldn't agree with you more Bella, I am 38 years old and feel like I am in the middle of a nightmare. I had my fill of heavy periods and wished for an early menopause, if only I knew. Sure some people breeze through it but for others it is shocking.
I feel sorry for anyone who suffers really badly with periods - but you can try to deal with them through a variety of means eg if you suffer really bad pms, just before your period rather than half the month you can take natural progesterone (if you are not progesterone intolerant) - to alleviate the massive drop in progesterone which leads to some of the awful symtpoms ( tension, irritability, headaches). Some women find periods not so bad on the pill or mini pill. As has been mentioned there are various ways to reduce heavy bleeding eg Mirena coil which can stop periods, or endometrial ablation.
There are some lucky women who might have a trouble-free menopause but do not wish your periods away! What's on the other side could be a lot worse. Many who thought that, would gladly go back to them when they get there! Take a look here at the symptoms of Menopause:
Many women have night sweats, hot flushes, tiredness, joint aches, sleeplessness, depression and anxiety, as well as - post meno - vaginal atrophy, irritation and all sorts of problems in that region, bladder problems due to lack of collagen, and loss of libido, not to mention the prospect of osteoporosis, cognitive dysfunction and other more serious health issues caused by oestrogen deficiency.
Don't wish 'em away girls - I'd rather be bleeding naturally, pms and all and have my figure, skin, energy and libido back. HRT (bio-identical) is essential but doesn't achieve miracles.
I can't wait! I am nearly 42 and I am fed up, my periods have been getting heavier and more painful.
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