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MN meet-up etiquette

(39 Posts)
BrainSurgeon Thu 06-Sep-12 15:13:18

AIBU to ask..... what's the etiquette at a MN meet-up?

I know how a work do goes, I get friends/family parties but meeting with other MN-tters.... I don't know what to say or do!?

(Not helped by the fact that I don't drink so feel quite threatened by the amounts of booze people seem to want to consume) wink

Any advice or previous experiences?

BrainSurgeon Thu 06-Sep-12 21:36:43

Anybody there???

Beamur Thu 06-Sep-12 21:39:41

Helloo. I've been to a couple arranged in Leeds by the lovely StealthPolarBear. We met at a pub (which was really weird trying to decide which people you might be meeting and I nearly chickened out and went home). Then had a meal, it might be a little stilted at first but you quickly find things you have in common and it's a nice way to meet people. There was wine, but no-one got really giddy.

BrainSurgeon Thu 06-Sep-12 21:39:55

I just worry that I'll turn up and spend the evening all by myself in a corner sad

BrainSurgeon Thu 06-Sep-12 21:40:54

Hi Beau smile that sounds encouraging!

Beamur Thu 06-Sep-12 21:42:02

The first time we met there was quite a big group and we swapped seats about half way through so new people sat and chatted together. I'd say go along and see how it goes.

BrainSurgeon Thu 06-Sep-12 21:42:13

How many people were there? <nosy>

Beamur Thu 06-Sep-12 21:47:20

Ah, can't remember exactly - about 14/16, maybe slightly more? We met last month too, but with holidays and last minute cancellations were down to a much cosier 6.

BrainSurgeon Thu 06-Sep-12 21:56:22

I suppose I worry a bit about what's OK to discuss and what not?

Sometimes I feel like I know and/or like very much a poster on here but what if we don't 'click' when we meet or I put my foot into something and upset them <insecure>

Brainsurgeon (are you one really??) <impressed>

Is it the London one you are talking about? I'm planning on going but it will be my first one too. I'm a bit nervous too.

BrainSurgeon Thu 06-Sep-12 22:01:38

Hi Trumps, no not really a surgeon sorry to disappoint...
Yeah that's the one, can you tell I'm shitting myself nervous too?

Brains, we can hold hands for moral support!

and I drink enough for both of us


GetOrfAKAMrsUsainBolt Fri 07-Sep-12 12:32:31

I have been to one - I was actually very nervous indeed. Doesn't help the fact that I turned up with a Victoria Beckham mask on. grin

It is very strange seeing all these people who you have spoken to but never seen before.

Everyone I met though was uniformly lovely, and I really enjoyed it.

Not everyone gets plastered - I am only having a few drinks (normally teetotal because of health reasons but am treating myself to a few drinks on the night).

GetOrf I am particularly looking forward to meeting you! not a stalker I promise

Right now I am more excited than nervous, but I'm sure that will change as we get closer. I still haven't worked out what to tell DH.

I would be far too nervous to go on a meet up. If I was young and glamorous then maybe, but I am old and Tongan so no way.

Shodan Fri 07-Sep-12 16:39:16

Second what GetOrf said- I've been to two and everyone is lovely, very friendly and welcoming. They even don't seem to mind if you have a drop too much and barge in willy-nilly on conversations! (not that I did that at all. Oh no.)

Seriously. It'll be fine and your face will hurt the next day from talking and laughing so much.

BrainSurgeon Fri 07-Sep-12 19:29:21

Ooooooh Getorf that sounds like a good idea, a mask! grin
But but but my question is are you allowed to ask things like "where do you live" and such? blush

BrainSurgeon Fri 07-Sep-12 19:30:31

I am looking forward to meeting everyone. It's like an early Christmas for me smile

BrainSurgeon Fri 07-Sep-12 19:32:16

I told DP I'm going and he said "are you sure?" hmm
Of course I'm sure! now but may chicken out on the day

Tee2072 Fri 07-Sep-12 20:42:29

You can ask whatever you like. Just don't be surprised if people don't answer!

It's just like any other meeting, really. A bunch of people chatting, eating and drinking.

You'll be fine. Really!

BrainSurgeon Fri 07-Sep-12 20:49:51

Oh Tee you got me worried now...

Tee2072 Fri 07-Sep-12 20:51:01


BrainSurgeon Fri 07-Sep-12 20:52:31

I'm worried I'll be out of order blush I'm very nosy...

Tee2072 Fri 07-Sep-12 20:53:39

Really, don't worry about it. Just be yourself.

BrainSurgeon Mon 10-Sep-12 15:58:59


GetOrfAKAMrsUsainBolt Mon 10-Sep-12 16:04:57

Hearts that is a lovely thing to say. Can't help feeling that you are going to be disappointed when you meet me and think I am a grouchy cow grin

CMOTDibbler Mon 10-Sep-12 16:10:02

I go to a local meetup - we have dinner in a pub, which was entertaining the first time I went and had to say to the barman that I was looking for Mnetters.
But we have a great time, and I'm quite shy irl

BrainSurgeon Mon 10-Sep-12 16:21:44

Don't say that Getorf, I have very high hopes for my meeting with you - no pressure wink

BrainSurgeon Mon 10-Sep-12 16:22:45

Ha ha Dibbler that's lovely - where are you? I'm in the SE, can I join?

CMOTDibbler Mon 10-Sep-12 16:29:20

I'm in the Midlands, so would be a long drive for you ! But I stalk GetOrf in Waitrose wink

GetOrfAKAMrsUsainBolt Mon 10-Sep-12 16:33:22

grin CMOt. You were one of the first mners I knew who lived near me grin

Brain I shall call you brian all evening grin

BrainSurgeon Mon 10-Sep-12 16:39:20

That's OK Getorf, I already turn when someone calls "Brian" around me <silly cow>

bigTillyMint Tue 11-Sep-12 17:27:15

Hi Brain, I'm going too!

And can I just say that GetOrf is not an ageing ruddy-faced flat-cap-wearing type - she is young tall and glamenvy

BrainSurgeon Tue 11-Sep-12 18:19:47

Hi Tilly - I take it it's not your first meet-up, since you know Getorf.... Any tips for a first timer?

EdgarAllanPond Tue 11-Sep-12 18:24:02

bigtillymint is tall and glam also, and wears a playsuit with elan.

BrainSurgeon Tue 11-Sep-12 18:25:30

Cheers Edgar, that helps with my confidence.... Not! wink

bigTillyMint Tue 11-Sep-12 19:05:26

Ha! Edgar, you are my new BFF - I don't usually get described as glam! And as I have not lost even an ounce of my Christmas/Easter/Summer excess weight, I will not even be looking slim!

Don't panic, Brain, I am probably 300years older than yousmile

BrainSurgeon Tue 11-Sep-12 20:53:40

Phew wink

In all honesty, I am not that worried about how I look, I just wish my social skills were better....

BrainSurgeon Tue 11-Sep-12 20:54:17

Either that or that I could hold my drink better!!!

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