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MN meet-up etiquette

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BrainSurgeon · 06/09/2012 15:13

AIBU to ask..... what's the etiquette at a MN meet-up?

I know how a work do goes, I get friends/family parties but meeting with other MN-tters.... I don't know what to say or do!?

(Not helped by the fact that I don't drink so feel quite threatened by the amounts of booze people seem to want to consume) Wink

Any advice or previous experiences?

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BrainSurgeon · 06/09/2012 21:36

Anybody there???

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Beamur · 06/09/2012 21:39

Helloo. I've been to a couple arranged in Leeds by the lovely StealthPolarBear. We met at a pub (which was really weird trying to decide which people you might be meeting and I nearly chickened out and went home). Then had a meal, it might be a little stilted at first but you quickly find things you have in common and it's a nice way to meet people. There was wine, but no-one got really giddy.

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BrainSurgeon · 06/09/2012 21:39

I just worry that I'll turn up and spend the evening all by myself in a corner Sad

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BrainSurgeon · 06/09/2012 21:40

Hi Beau Smile that sounds encouraging!

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Beamur · 06/09/2012 21:42

The first time we met there was quite a big group and we swapped seats about half way through so new people sat and chatted together. I'd say go along and see how it goes.

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BrainSurgeon · 06/09/2012 21:42

How many people were there?

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Beamur · 06/09/2012 21:47

Ah, can't remember exactly - about 14/16, maybe slightly more? We met last month too, but with holidays and last minute cancellations were down to a much cosier 6.

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BrainSurgeon · 06/09/2012 21:56

Ta
I suppose I worry a bit about what's OK to discuss and what not?

Sometimes I feel like I know and/or like very much a poster on here but what if we don't 'click' when we meet or I put my foot into something and upset them

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HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 06/09/2012 21:59

Brainsurgeon (are you one really??)

Is it the London one you are talking about? I'm planning on going but it will be my first one too. I'm a bit nervous too.

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BrainSurgeon · 06/09/2012 22:01

Hi Trumps, no not really a surgeon sorry to disappoint...
Yeah that's the one, can you tell I'm shitting myself nervous too?

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HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 07/09/2012 12:21

Brains, we can hold hands for moral support!

and I drink enough for both of us

Grin

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GetOrfAKAMrsUsainBolt · 07/09/2012 12:32

I have been to one - I was actually very nervous indeed. Doesn't help the fact that I turned up with a Victoria Beckham mask on. Grin

It is very strange seeing all these people who you have spoken to but never seen before.

Everyone I met though was uniformly lovely, and I really enjoyed it.

Not everyone gets plastered - I am only having a few drinks (normally teetotal because of health reasons but am treating myself to a few drinks on the night).

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HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 07/09/2012 16:20

GetOrf I am particularly looking forward to meeting you! not a stalker I promise

Right now I am more excited than nervous, but I'm sure that will change as we get closer. I still haven't worked out what to tell DH.

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ExitPursuedByABear · 07/09/2012 16:24

I would be far too nervous to go on a meet up. If I was young and glamorous then maybe, but I am old and Tongan so no way.

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Shodan · 07/09/2012 16:39

Second what GetOrf said- I've been to two and everyone is lovely, very friendly and welcoming. They even don't seem to mind if you have a drop too much and barge in willy-nilly on conversations! (not that I did that at all. Oh no.)

Seriously. It'll be fine and your face will hurt the next day from talking and laughing so much.

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BrainSurgeon · 07/09/2012 19:29

Ooooooh Getorf that sounds like a good idea, a mask! Grin
But but but my question is are you allowed to ask things like "where do you live" and such? Blush

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BrainSurgeon · 07/09/2012 19:30

I am looking forward to meeting everyone. It's like an early Christmas for me Smile

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BrainSurgeon · 07/09/2012 19:32

I told DP I'm going and he said "are you sure?" Hmm
Of course I'm sure! now but may chicken out on the day

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Tee2072 · 07/09/2012 20:42

You can ask whatever you like. Just don't be surprised if people don't answer!

It's just like any other meeting, really. A bunch of people chatting, eating and drinking.

You'll be fine. Really!

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BrainSurgeon · 07/09/2012 20:49

Oh Tee you got me worried now...

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Tee2072 · 07/09/2012 20:51

Why?

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BrainSurgeon · 07/09/2012 20:52

I'm worried I'll be out of order Blush I'm very nosy...

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Tee2072 · 07/09/2012 20:53

Really, don't worry about it. Just be yourself.

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BrainSurgeon · 10/09/2012 15:58

Bump

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GetOrfAKAMrsUsainBolt · 10/09/2012 16:04

Hearts that is a lovely thing to say. Can't help feeling that you are going to be disappointed when you meet me and think I am a grouchy cow Grin

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