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yes I felt quite embarrassed about wanting a girl the first time I was pregnant but never said anything to anyone. When my son arrived of course I wouldn't have changed a hair on his head! The second time I was perfectly happy either way.

Really wanted a boy, looked at all boy clothes, names and clothes didn't really think about having a girl. Dp was happy either way and think he was worried about how I would react if I had a girl. I did have a boy, I was just worried as I was so difficult growing up I was scared a girl would be like I was.

Ish...I'd have preferred a boy first as I adored my older brothers which is a bit daft. Was perfectly happy when I got a girl! (Although she complains about being the eldest!)

I am currently 35 weeks pregnant after 3 miscarriages and don't know the sex. I posted on the pregnancy forum last week about this - I have a preference and the thought that it might be the other fills me with dread. Look up the thread.... I am dealing with my emotions but its difficult and I am wishing the last 5 weeks ofmy pregnancy away just so I can find out.

I really wanted a girl, I had a boy, he was a difficult baby which didn't help! My 2nd, I really didn't care.

Both boys are wonderful (13 and 10) and I'm so pleased I didn't have a choice in the matter

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I could only imagine having a boy and really didn't particularly like the idea of having a girl. I was actually quite scared of having to daughter because I didn't think I'd have any idea how to raise a girl.
Throughout my pregnancy all the old wives' tales pointed towards me having a boy, I felt like it was a boy. My XH wanted a girl and I worried about him being disappointed when it turned out to be a boy.
Anyway, I'm sure you can tell where this is heading: when the midwife told me I'd had a girl I was totally convinced she was wrong and had to check for myself.
I had been totally open with everyone I knew about my conviction that I would have a boy so they all knew and understood how surprised I was.
It was a matter of hours before I was so used to her that I already couldn't imagine it any other way and I still couldn't.
As I was told the day she was born, girls rock

My partner only wanted a boy first time round.. We had a little boy and this time he only wants a boy again... Hopefully find out in march..
I don't mind either way

Thanks everyone for sharing. I'm also interested in the reasons you think you might have preferred one over the other and if this affected your relationship with your child/other children once the baby was born.
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When I was pregnant with my first, I did want a girl, but it wasn't a big deal. I didn't find out the sex from the scans, but she was a girl, and so with no 2 I did quite want a boy, and found out at a scan that he was a boy. So I was really pleased.

I am not sure why I wanted a girl at first. I think partly it was because my DH wanted a girl. He gets on really well with women and grew up with a sister (as did I). With no 2 I think he quite liked having a boy, although the idea of him being the only male in the household did appeal to him ;)

I think how you grew up yourself affects you. Although I loved growing up with my sister, I was always a bit envious of my friends with brothers, they seemed to know boys better. So I am quite pleased to have one of each myself and I am still (DS is nearly 6) amazed at his boy-nes, he is just so different to me and DD (we are quite similar).

My DH didn't get on well with his dad, and I think he is a bit worried about repeating the same mistakes with our son, hence his preference for a girl with the first pregnancy.

It didn't affect my relationship with my child/children at all. I've got boys and girls, and would have preferred boys first, simply because I loved having older brothers to look out for me, and thought it would be nice for my girls to have the same. DCs actually go DD, DS, DD, DS, DS....but that's fine!

DS1 probably has it worst - as he has a sister a year either side of him to boss him!