MEDIA: Lis Olgiati
Thu 10-Jan-13 10:26:11
Are you a bisexual / lesbian / bicurious woman?
Have you come out later in life?
Are you in an open marriage or an alternative relationship set up?
Channel 4 has commissioned Rare Day to make a documentary about female sexuality.
More women than ever are embracing their same sex feelings and exploring their sexuality. There's a lot of talk of married women coming out later in life and straight women looking for sexual experiences with other women. We think it's an important area to explore, especially because of the ongoing lack of realistic portrayals of lesbian / bi women on TV.
We are looking for women to share their stories with us. We want to make contact with women who have had any experience of the above. At first, we'd like to talk to you on the phone.
The intention is to make an intelligent, sensitive and illuminating insight into the lives of different women up and down the country.
If you're a woman facing either a dilemma or an exciting new same sex experience, we'd like to talk to you.
All phone calls are strictly confidential and don't indicate any commitment to appearing on television. Please contact Lis on 0207 749 0053 or via email, women@rareday.co.uk
For more information about our company, Rare Day, please see our website www.rareday.co.uk or our showreel, http://www.rareday.co.uk/showreel/. We make intelligent documentaries mainly for the BBC and Channel 4, across a wide range of subjects from Donor Mums, Brain Surgery to Prince Charles. Our most recently broadcast was the accompanying documentary to the animation, The Snowman and the Snowdog, in December 2012.
Oh, massive x post with Lis. 
"If you only concentrate on open marriage, then you're going to be contributing to the "unrealistic protrayal on TV", not countering it."
And
"Are you only featuring bisexual women who are in open/alternative relationships? This doesn't really seem compatible with a desire to portray realistic bi women. There is a difference between being bisexual and being polyamorous."
Polyamorous and open relationships are the key thing here.
It is not a sex thing, and not necessarily a gender thing, but a question of love. Very few happily married women will come out to explore any bisexual feelings, in the same way as they would not chase heterosexual relations outside their marriage.
For many bisexual women it is the capacity to loving both genders. Having married a man, it is neither here or there to explore anybody else, man or woman, as long as you are in a monogamous relationship. Please make that distinction. Infidelity is infidelity whether you are with a man or a woman. The key is whether your relationship is monogamous or not. If it is, you stay with your partner, if it isnt, you are free to explore whatever man/woman who comes your way and take your fancy. It is NOT a question of bisexual woman shagging about with women while her husband is at home minding the kids. This would be a very unfair and stereotypical portrayal.
RareDay2013
Tue 15-Jan-13 16:22:23
Dear IThinkOfHappyWhenIThinkOfYou and bibibabybaby,
Thanks very much for your comments. I'm sorry if the ad has caused any confusion. To answer your question IThinkOfHappy, we are not solely looking for bisexual women in open / alternative relationships and are clear on the distinction between bisexual and polyamorous.
Our intention is to get in touch with a wide range of bisexual / lesbian / bicurious women who all have different life experiences - from those in monogamous marriages or relationships, to those coming out later in life, to those about to embark on a new relationship, to those exploring an alternative relationship set up, to those who feel that they're at a point of transition in relation to their sexuality. I'm sure there are many complex, fascinating stories out there not limited to the above.
By following a wide range of stories, we hope to spark an intelligent, thoughtful discussion about female sexuality.
I hope that's clarified the ad a little. If you have any questions, please call me in confidence on 0207 749 0053 or email women@rareday.co.uk.
Best Wishes,
Lis
IThinkOfHappyWhenIThinkOfYou
Tue 15-Jan-13 13:04:05
There is a lot of criticism of bi women who are married to men. Either you have settled for convention, for an easy life and are basically a sell out closet lesbian or you are straight as an arrow and pretend to like having naked pillow fights with hot women to titillate your man. They idea that you actually like having sex with your husband and have liked having sex in serious, monogamous relationships with women in the past doesn't seem to feature much. Pisses me off. I just don't get the concept that it's ok to cheat if you do it to have sex with your own sex. If my DH didn't like blowjobs (unlikely I know) and I cheated on another man so I could give one I would be flayed alive for it but for some reason giving an aussie kiss to some tart who doesn't mind sharing with a man is absolutely fine.
bibibabybaby
Tue 15-Jan-13 12:29:08
I agree with IThinkOfHappy - I'm bi, and I'm in a happy faithful marriage. If you only concentrate on open marriage, then you're going to be contributing to the "unrealistic protrayal on TV", not countering it.
But of course, open marriage is very salicious and will probably up your ratings.
IThinkOfHappyWhenIThinkOfYou
Tue 15-Jan-13 12:22:06
Are you only featuring bisexual women who are in open/alternative relationships? This doesn't really seem compatible with a desire to portray realistic bi women. There is a difference between being bisexual and being polyamorous.
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