Being a lone parent is great!

(70 Posts)
SnoopyLovesYou Sun 19-May-13 08:29:13

I started a thread about single mother stigmatisms and lots of people said that they are really positive about being single parents. Thought it would be good to start a thread about the upsides... What do you love about raising your children with no partner? And how do we best parent boys when there isn't a responsible father figure to fall back on? One thing I love is not having to listen to my ex complaining and criticising!

emskin Sun 19-May-13 11:02:53

i've been a single parent for 7yrs,me and my son are happy as we are.he sees his dad every two weeks.am i alone in not wanting a partner. i feel they might mess up how me and my son have been doing things for the past seven years on are own

SnoopyLovesYou Sun 19-May-13 11:29:39

Well to be honest I'd love a partner in some ways but I'm not ready for one yet. Also haven't met anyone desirable and don't think I will for the foreseeable future so just thought this thread might help some of us stay positive through the hard times. And talking about hard times, the summer is approaching! 8-I

lizabeth0607 Sun 19-May-13 19:22:38

I've been a single mommy for 18 months now and sometimes I think it would be great if you could make a baby alone lol, me and my daughter have the best bond, I love this the most!!

Although someone to take the bin bags out and help with discipline would be nice!! smile

SnoopyLovesYou Sun 19-May-13 19:44:51

Thanks for your post :-) Yes the maternal bond is something that is to be cherished!!!!

This thread isn't doing as well as I had hoped. Not generating v much single mummy positivity thus far. I think it's the title that's off putting 'Being a lone parent is great!' Because... well... lots of us didn't choose this route and well... it isn't great a lot of the time!

Ah it must be true what they say after all... we do need men about the house! And we're on a short train trip to nowhere! ;-)

No seriously...

chitofftheshovel Sun 19-May-13 21:28:13

Ah, I have had it proven to me, twice now, that life without men is so much easier. No big child in the house, less washing, less cleaning and most importantly no expectations. I know I have to do everything, don't get disappointed when a man doesn't

lizabeth0607 Sun 19-May-13 21:32:35

Although I didn't choose this route in life I wouldn't change it for the world!
Another thing I love is knowing that my Daughter is blossoming everyday and growing into a lovely little girl because of all the things I do with and for her, I get to feel proud of her; I love that feeling.

Oh and by the title I thought your post was sarcasm and negative lol!

er1507 Sun 19-May-13 21:33:18

One thing for me (absent father) is that I don't have to compromise in the upbringing of dd. what I say, goes! I'm quiet a strong minded person so doubt he would have much say anyway haha.

I agree with everything chit says. I love the bond my baby and I have and I feel like nothing could come between us.

Got to be honest though, I hope Mr Right turns up one day.

paneer Sun 19-May-13 21:37:33

Ditto chit - managing own expectations because I am the only adult. No getting pissed off because the other adult in the house wasnt pulling weight and therefore no nagging!

Choosing what I want to eat and watch on TV.

No walking on eggshells in order to maintain the self esteem of dad and just getting this done!

paneer Sun 19-May-13 21:38:07

*things

Raaraathenoisybaby Sun 19-May-13 21:38:37

Same benefits as being single really. I never have to compromise the way I want to being the dc up. The dc have lovely lives that exh fuck wit can't interfere with anymore. The dc come first no matter what. I don't have to pander to exh. I'm a better parent because no one is upsetting me.
We make out own routines and we are a close unit grin

rainbowfeet Sun 19-May-13 21:43:13

I love the freedom! I can buy them what I like without having to hide the receipts!! I love the close bond that I have with my daughter (girl power type thing). my ds who is 15 months his Dad has never been in his life (his choice) it has been hard work but the love he gives me makes it so worth it.
I am sad his Dad is the way he is but I could never have contemplated the termination he told me to have so I made my choice, secretly now I wouldn't have it any other way!! I have no interest in dating at the moment I am fully content being the best mum I can to my 2 babies!! grin

Sommink Sun 19-May-13 21:55:04

I love that my dd is thought of as a happy little girl with lots of love and that it is me and her working together that has made her that way. I have a much closer bond with her then I thought I would be able to do, I also have a closer bond to my parents, and as for a father figure, dd doesn't need one...she loves her grandfather figure, and he (and my mum) enjoy a close relationship with their grandchild.

TBH if I had realised how much less stressful single parenting is I may have moved out when he first asked!

Raaraathenoisybaby Sun 19-May-13 22:37:09

Yup. Single parenting is tiring but that's pretty much the only downside for me grin

russetbella1000 Mon 20-May-13 00:23:30

Hi
Yep just wanted to say that I am very content..But that's not because I am a lone parent it's because I'm positive about me and my life.
I also happen to be a lone parent and of course love it but my being a lone parent per se is not the source of my happiness/unhappiness. What I'm trying to say is that being a lone parent doesn't make you happy/unhappy, it's how you are in yourself which affects how you feel about it.

That said, I honestly think I am a better person/mother to my daughter in not being in a relationship with her father. I never ever wanted my child to be the 'glue' between us. That would be an insult to her. I don't, personally, think this is healthy and can actually put pressure not only on the adults involved but more terribly on a child. I actively decided I did not want to be with my child's father as soon as I knew I was pregnant (I didn't think we were strong enough-no biggie). She suddenly became more important than him (as should always be the case).
Weirdly, I'm very much looking forward to being in another relationship (but definitely don't chase it)and feel relieved that I have my baby but then could pursue a healthy loving relationship separate from that I have with my child...Does that make sense?

I sometimes think that I am happy because I never believed the 2.4 'story' in the first place...Or indeed that you need a man to validate you etc etc. And perhaps, (a little controversially) I would say it's exactly because some women (who then happen to become lone parents) have believed the happy ever after myths that they then continue to yearn for fantasy.... And perhaps don't realise that they themselves in 'yearning for the myth make it far worse for themselves (& others) by perpetuating the 'god I need a man' cliche...They're never actually completely happy in their own skin-this is the secret.

I do not envy the 'smug' marrieds (some of my best friends are these and not even smug too!!)think they're bigger human beings than me, all that compromise etc but nor am I smug for I accept they are happy too-indeed I hope they are! We all just choose a different path but it would be good one day if people truly accepted that some lone parents really do choose their lot (we've even turned down marriage proposals in past :0))-yawn!) and are empowered in doing so...

SummersComing1111 Mon 20-May-13 07:29:04

Im a lone parent and new i would be since i got pregnant with DS, i do love it even though at times it can be very challenging, me and my son have a very special bond and that is very precious, i also love our little routine that works great for us both, i dont have to worry about another person just my son. I take pride in doing it alone knowing im doing an amazing job.

Its not all great i sometimes feel guilty for not giving DS a nice family to grow up with but he is much more better of without his dad around, did try with his dad but his violence is not what my son needs at all! I also worry about DS is older and if he will need a male role around but ill cross that bridge wen we get there , im sure ill do fine as mum and dad.

I think being a lone parent can be great thing if you are at peace with it and have accepted it which i have and i right now i wouldnt change it for the world

PleaseLetsGoToSleep Mon 20-May-13 08:35:46

Have to echo all the good points above, being a single parent actually is great! I'm the boss and don't have to compromise, but I get all the rewards as well; all the cuddles and kisses, ds's first word and first steps. Parenting-wise going it alone has been the best decision I ever made.
Great thread op!

SnoopyLovesYou Mon 20-May-13 10:41:19

Oh that's great to hear all those positive things!

It really is incredible not to have a big baby around the house. I spent so much time thinking about hisneeds and so much time and energy trying to get him to pull his own weight around the house. He used to make me feel guilty for having a bath! and was always telling me I wasn't good enough and needed to do more. Now that I'm more or less recovered-ongoing process really- from the trauma that the negative relationship caused, I have so much more time and energy to put into my friends, my kids, my work, myself. Amazing! :-D

Sarahlh82 Tue 21-May-13 12:39:39

It was so nice coming across this post! :-) life's so short, it's important to me that I am upbeat for my lo and myself.
My son is almost 9 months and we've been flying solo since I was 6 months pregnant so I've had a long time to get used to things and to be dependent on just me.
It's great... I let myself off the hook all the time for chores I don't want to do ;-) We have a great routine and we spend lots of time with our family and friends.
Watching him grow and become more inquisitive each day makes me smile and realise I am so lucky to have him in my life! He's started nursery and I'm back to work so he gets to play 3 days a week (while I re-engage my brain!) -2 days with the nursery ladies, and with my mum once a week... seeing them have fun and bond is wonderful. I have so much to be grateful for and wouldn't change a thing :-D x

ballstoit Tue 21-May-13 12:56:07

I love making decisions about what we do without someone else whining that they want to watch football/go to the pub/sleep.

I love that I know what money will be in the bank and there are no nasty surprises.

I love that we are a team of 4...enjoying adventures together.

I love that my DC are fantastic people, and that it's (mostly) down to me.

I love that if I can't do something (eg fix the car), I can ask for help from someone else without waiting weeks or denting a male ego.

It's damn hard work but so worth it smile

Raaraathenoisybaby Tue 21-May-13 18:27:01

I took dds swimming the other day. I was approached by a swimming instructor who was very complimentary about dd1 swimming and how advanced she is. That's down to me, both taking her to lessons and practising with her in our own time.
Dd1 is also really outgoing and confident with other kids which is down to me making site she had other kids to play with regularly. I see that as a necessity and not a treat. Again I did all this alone.
This isn't a smug stealth boast either - the above wouldn't have happened with and were at times actually obstructed by their dad.

financialnightmare Tue 21-May-13 18:31:49

I have two girls. I like having a house just of girls. I like being able to walk around naked and do girlie things! I like it when their friends are around and we are a houseful of women! I like spouting off feminist stuff. I like not having to cook 'meat and two veg'. I like that I am showing them that a woman doesn't NEED a man.

I also like the days that XH looks after them! Lovely silence.

I like giving them autonomy about what tv / music to listen to (those were always XH's decision!). I like being able to have everything PLAIN and SIMPLE (XH likes things, erm, 'decorated').

Booyhoo Tue 21-May-13 18:37:27

i love the freedom over simple things like what to have for dinner, trips out, wee treats, etc.

i like knowing that i'm the one responsible for everything in our house and so dont get that awful resentment when stuff that needed done was just left to me (does that make any sense at all?)

i like that there are no rows in our house the way my mum and dad used to scream at each other. thankfully my dcs have never seen that.

and i know not everyone gets a break but i do like knowing i will be getting one every other weekend.

i like that the dcs can come into my bed during the night if they want. exp never let them.

Dadthelion Tue 21-May-13 18:42:43

I must admit I prefer it, my son lives with me all the time.

It's wall to wall Sky Sports, Xboxes, Sky HD+, Cricket and Pizza.

Bliss.

SnoopyLovesYou Tue 21-May-13 19:26:40

Haha 'Ballstoit' I know exactly what you mean about knowing what's in the bank! Having control over that means a lot less stress doesn't it?

So many of these posts sound familiar! And I'm going to refer to this thread when I'm feeling sorry for myself ;-)

'DadTheLion' how do you recommend parenting boys then, seeing as you're a man. Is it really all pizza and virtual sports? ;-)

This is just as an aside- If anyone has any ideas for the summer holidays, please share. How do you make the most of the 2 months as single parents? Especially those of you with not very much family support?

Lioninthesun Tue 21-May-13 23:04:41

I don't have much family support - just my dad who lives quite far away.
However I have just booked us a holiday to Casablanca! My friend moved back there a couple of months ago and she was an old school friend, really lovely. Suddenly thought why not spend time with someone who makes you feel good as well as catching some sun? Also she has kindly offered us her spare room so no extra hotel costs smile If it wasn't for that I doubt I could have afforded a holiday this year.
There was a great thread on here about doing spontaneous things with the kids not so long ago. I turn up at the bus depot and get the first bus we see - if unsure ask the driver where would be a good stop - and get off with DD to explore.
Luckily for me she also loves painting and sticking things so we spend at least an hour a day doing crafty things and getting messy smile
I love living alone with her - she is the person I see most of in my life and her loving nature is really apparent when I see her with other kids. We co-sleep (shhh!) and I just know that wouldn't be possible with a man in the house. I can have pasta every night if I want, don't have to have meat in huge quantities (and the expense!) or watch sport - sorry Dadthelion.
I do wish for the bin fairy every now and then though, as someone else mentioned wink

SnoopyLovesYou Tue 21-May-13 23:59:17

Ooh nice but did your flights to Casablanca not cost a fortune?

Apropos... What are the good flight search engines these days? I used to have these things all sussed out...

Getting away to visit some of my friends in lovely places would be great but I had kinda written it off with flights for me and DC

Lioninthesun Wed 22-May-13 00:13:50

Well it was £220 for both of us and only one airline that does non-stop flights, so no choice! However my budget was £200 and to be honest with hotels on top it was going to be way over that for anything else!
I am pretty nervous still and the flight is only 3hrs long! Sure it will be fine though and it can be another 'achievement' once done and I won't be scared to do it again.
Have started a link re camping holiday if anyone wants to do something when the summer is in full swing smile

SnoopyLovesYou Wed 22-May-13 00:27:49

Wow that sounds very cheap! Casablanca isn't the nicest city in Morocco. It's quite rough. But Morocco is great and there are lots of great places near there if you want some sea, sand etc?

SnoopyLovesYou Wed 22-May-13 00:30:38

Sorry I didn't mean to make it sound bad. Just watch out as there can be a lot of tricksters in the street! It'll be great! :-) And sure you have your friend to show you around.

Lioninthesun Wed 22-May-13 00:35:14

No worries - been to Marrakesh before DD and read up about C.B not being as nice. Just looking forward to some sun and my friend tbh!
Yes, strict budget here and my dad is prob going to go a bit nutso about me asking him to drive us to/from the airport <bides time> !

SnoopyLovesYou Wed 22-May-13 00:39:24

Well done! That really is an amazing example of a/ holiday plans and b/ making the most of being a single parent! Tell your dad you'll bring him back a nice pair of leather slippers that will make him look like a Moroccan elf

Lioninthesun Wed 22-May-13 00:44:11

Hehe. Mental image of my dad in those pointy slippers. Could be handy for Christmas outfits, but he is 6ft 5 so not really a passable elf.
Hope I have inspired you to check out your friends abroad with feelers for a holiday grin.
DD refusing to return to her room (I swear she only slept for 2 hrs!) and won't sleep here while I have laptop on (insisting on trying to sit on it/headbutt me) so I had better go! Night!

SnoopyLovesYou Wed 22-May-13 00:52:47

Night :-)

MummyAbroad Wed 22-May-13 01:22:44

Thanks for the thread, just what I needed reminding of after having been ill all this week - 4 year old had a cold and fever first and then me and my 1.5 year old got diahroea! Illnesses really are the worst bit about single parenting (another one with no family support here, they are all 8,000 kilometers away!) BUT it used to be worse when my husband would be crappy to me because I was too ill to pander to his ego. At least now we can all curl up and watch a DVD, eat yummy food and basically do whatever we like until we feel better.

I've been a single parent for 2 years, if I let myself I could get very depressed about it, but generally all I have to do for that not to happen is to look around me and realise how much happier my family is this way.

Holidays are still not something I have managed yet, except for a trip back to England to see family. I would love to take my kids to the beach, but so far time and money and the little one being too small has always put me off. Lioninthesun I wish I was in the UK to do your camping thing. Its much harder to team up with another single parent for a holiday out here.

SnoopyLovesYou Wed 22-May-13 19:12:38

Have already put out the feelers with one friend. One down, 20 to go! ;-)
Yeah I prob can't come to your camp out either Lion. Are you in England?

SnoopyLovesYou Wed 22-May-13 19:13:52

Ps lucky mummy abroad.. you're so right about the sickness thing! My ex used to get so angry when I was sick!!

Being a lone parent is a blessing.

It doesn't get more empowering and satisfying.

Yes, it can be hard and sometime really overwhelming. But you get through it (at times better than others) and you know exactly what it means to be 'human'.

My ex has not contact with my son, and I worry about how that will affect him as he grows up. But I also count myself lucky not having to deal with him anymore.

Lioninthesun Sat 25-May-13 23:19:57

Sorry snoopy and mummyabroad I only just saw this pop up again!
Yes we are in UK. Where are you both based? Perhaps next year we could do camping over 'there' if we can get cheap travel smile

Have a friend to stay this weekend and she is hoping to have a baby with her newish man. She was busy saying about the sacrifices you have to make for a relationship with a man. I found myself saying 'yes, that's exactly what I can't face at the moment. If I have another relationship I want it to be like my best friend, not someone I have to pander to and keep sweet'. She is luckily a good friend and knows that I don't mean it personally to her, just my take on men at the mo, but I did feel glad I don't have to worry about all of that.
Sun out today and highs of 18 degrees tomorrow round these here parts :D We are hitting the beach!

whattodonow1 Sun 26-May-13 21:47:26

Thinking of joining the single parenting club so loving all the positive comments, thanks. Just really quite worried about money. I have negative equity property I rent out and worried that this will stop me claiming anything. Also hoping to purchase property to live in. Anyone any idea what I can claim. My income would be around £2500 in rent after interest only mortgage, £7500 on self employed basis and £1500 on an employed basis. Thanks, glad you are all happy :-)

SnoopyLovesYou Mon 27-May-13 01:13:06

Yeah Lion would be good to find someone who is a 'best friend.' Not very likely though!!! ;-)

For now, we are our own best friends...

HollyBollyBooBoo Mon 27-May-13 06:10:16

I've been a single parent for almost 2 years now and sometimes feel quite negative about it. However when I then have deep and meaningful conversations with my married female friends I often come away really grateful that I don't have to put up with all those negative aspects of being in a relationship anymore.

I don't like the thought of being single forever but I;d like to think I know myself much better now and wouldn't be so quick to compromise my values and beliefs. It's going to take someone pretty special to be allowed into my and DDs world!

Happily for DD she does have a good, albeit long distance relationship (he relocated abroad) with her Father so I do feel that's of real benefit to her.

cat Mon 27-May-13 06:25:26

I was a single parent to DS1 (now 13) from pregnancy until he was 8.vyes as others said, it was tiring, juggling work, childcare etc. But we have the tightest bond and I treasure those days. He is fiercely protective of me and we can talk about anything and everything. He is so smart and mature for his age.

I now have a DH and DS2 (3) who both me and DS1 love dearly, and I wouldn't change my life now for anything.

But some days when DH and/or
DS2 are being particularly irksome, I admit I think back too those lone parenting years very fondly grin

Lioninthesun Mon 27-May-13 18:30:43

Whattodo yes if you own a property, even if you rent it out, you cannot claim anything. I do the same (although sadly for a lot less than you!) and luckily don't have rent to pay where I live, just council tax and other bills. I am on a pretty limited budget, especially compared to my couple friends, but this way I can be a SAHM, which is what I really wanted. I also find that my money goes a lot further as I don't go out (may sound a bit sad but tbf I don't really miss going out every weekend!) so I see it as saving £50-70 every weekend that I use to get bits for DD.
I love the fact I don't have to worry about someone else spending the money! It can all go on things WE like and want smile

bluecarrot Mon 27-May-13 18:44:35

I was a single parent for 10 years but now have a DP and a baby on the way.

I loved my space, being able to do things my way (or research everything to death and not have anyone smirk at me for it.)

I love the relationship I have with DD and quietly feel smug that she doesnt have the same with her dad (though I encourage their relationship it could not be the same as mine with her)

I liked being in sole control of the family finances. Im pretty frugal generally and I liked feeling in control of that - felt very safe.

Booyhoo - I totally get the resentment thing. (However its back now DP is here and his mum did EVERYTHING for him!)

suburbophobe Mon 27-May-13 21:29:19

how do we best parent boys when there isn't a responsible father figure to fall back on?

They get their role models from the men around them.

So best to have great men around! Whether it be your dad - my dad was the BEST role model! - brother(s) <never had one>, good male friends, other dads around. Even my gay friends are fantastic role models for him.

Thing I've learnt about bringing up my son as an LP is that it's better to be alone with great guys around than in a relationship that is shit...

My son is 21 and doing great at uni. <phew!>

suburbophobe Mon 27-May-13 21:33:00

^ What do you love about raising your children with no partner?^

Not having to put up with their bullshit, frankly. grin

Life is so much easier without another manchild around....

suburbophobe Mon 27-May-13 21:33:44

without A manchild around

SnoopyLovesYou Mon 27-May-13 21:39:48

Suburbophobe- I have no men around. Not one! Where can I find some nice male friends?

GrinningImp Tue 28-May-13 17:59:16

What a brilliant thread, OP and everyone! Thanks v much! Am 4 months in, know we are far better off, but ACE to read you all saying these things. They're gonna be grin-makers when I'm feeling sorry for myself!

sandiy Tue 28-May-13 21:26:17

I miss having someone who is equally proud of my children's achievements.
I don t miss trickle of requests for extra money I don't miss the blinking credit card always being maxed up I ve spent years paying it off with him spending again.
I love going to bed when I'm ready not having to wait til news night time.
Sometimes I go up to bed same time as the children.
When I order takeaway I order what me and the kids fancy it's so much cheaper not needing to order mammoth portions of special fried rice.
OMG how much loo roll do men use I hardly ever buy loo roll sugar or coffee anymore.
If I need help I pay for it then I don t have to be great full I just pay.I still get nervous even if I'm paying though because I'm frightened that I will get shouted at when things go wrong
Finally and I could go on forever the best bit of all is not being constantly on edge I had this nameless fearconstantly and an ulcer my best friend was gavisgon and ranitidine.It only flares up now when I'm really stressed

SnoopyLovesYou Wed 29-May-13 20:33:18

Most of all, I love not having to listen to the verbal abuse... :-D

We're so much more of a FAMILY since he's gone. Laughter, trips, nice food, buying the things we want...

Muuuuuuumcanihave Fri 31-May-13 19:10:30

You all make it sound so positive, i hope i get that feeling soon as at minute its crap. I can list all the positive stuff: no more abuse of any kind, no more walking on eggshells, smaller food shop, less washing, the kids can be kids noisy and untidy, i can eventually get back to being me.

honey86 Sat 01-Jun-13 00:09:01

i had a hard start to single parenting. my man (and believe me, he was a real man, a diamond) died 4 1/2 years ago, with i was preg with dc3... i found it so hard but i learned.... dd is 4 now and i was worried how the lack of daddy would affect her. but actually, she seems to be growing into such a happy clever confident child. makes me trust more that ive done a chuffing good job at being their only parent wink ive ended up with complete arses since though xx

honey86 Sat 01-Jun-13 00:12:09

though just come out of an emotional abusive relationship (by whom im preg by) and i got the strength to walk away early. tell ya what, ive not cried since wink

Lioninthesun Sat 01-Jun-13 00:24:51

<waves to honey> Glad you are doing well, I remember your posts smile

SnoopyLovesYou Sat 01-Jun-13 10:41:40

My own ex ('ex' suits him so much better than 'partner') has begun having my kids again. Now for 10 hours per week. It's a LOT. He's manipulating them. I hate it! I kind of wish I could just have them all the time to protect them but all the courts say is 'daddy this daddy that yakkity yak.' Regardless seemingly of the negativity he is inflicting on them. :-(
Such emotional and verbal abuse I suffered at his hands. It takes a lot of getting over!

Lioninthesun Sat 01-Jun-13 12:06:17

But you are getting over it - and that is only possible because you were strong enough to see what you needed to do.
Anyone dreading fathers day? For the moment DD is too small to notice (she doesn't even know what a daddy is as far as I am aware) but it must be pretty tough for those of you who have to help make something? I wonder what they do in schools for kids with no dad instead of the usual Happy Fathers Day crafting?

SnoopyLovesYou Sat 01-Jun-13 12:40:22

I'm ignoring it. I think he's a crap father and I'm not going to pretend otherwise!

honey86 Sat 01-Jun-13 16:56:28

ill do fathers day for my 3, as their dad deserves it, he was an amazing dad dispite working alot. ill prob let them choose some flowers and a new candle/ ornament to put at his grave.

as for the other waste of space i dont intend to bother. he rambled on about how much of a waste of money mothers day is so i assume the same applies to fathers day to him? (prob not hmm)

hes very much obsessed about FATHERS rights and what MEN should get and how respected MEN should be treated. hell happily shag a woman get her preg, but hes a woman hater, extremely anti-womans-rights. a blantant believer that women should forever be in a mans shadow. hmm

SnoopyLovesYou Sat 01-Jun-13 19:25:16

I don't think I'd get on well with him either but who's this that you're referring to? A more recent ex?

Lioninthesun Sat 01-Jun-13 19:36:17

Yes, I won't bother when DD is older either. I do wonder if he thinks of her when he sees the adverts/shop promotions for F.day though.
Honey that sounds like a lovely idea for their real dad. Better to keep the memory of the good guy going smile
On the plus side, no having to buy computer games/DVD's other gadgets! We're saving £ ladies! smile

Lioninthesun Sat 01-Jun-13 19:37:25

Sorry about the missing letters in my posts - I eat choccy hobnobs in bed when DD is asleep <slovenly!> and a few crumbs seem too be lodged in my laptop keyboard!

honey86 Sat 01-Jun-13 20:43:31

a more recent ex who made the past 4 months of my life hell xx

SnoopyLovesYou Sun 02-Jun-13 13:19:48

Well I've got more pressing things than Father's Day to worry about and I have no desire for any Mothers Day presents from him!!

sandiy Sun 02-Jun-13 21:26:02

My ex bought my mothers day present using vouchers that his girlfriend had for sainsburys.He let the children pick thoughIm wracking my brain for an equally insulting response any ideas.Im thinking cheesy mug from moon pig with photos of the children doing something amazing that he can never be arsed to do

Raaraathenoisybaby Mon 03-Jun-13 00:37:33

Sandiy yy to the loo roll and everything in your post grin

Being able to pay for help and not beg for it is amazing. In my marriage I had lots of money and no help and I was knackered and miserable. Now I have not v much money but control, a budget and a cleaner grin

SnoopyLovesYou Mon 03-Jun-13 12:41:39

Your ex sounds very practical sandiy! ;-)

SnoopyLovesYou Mon 03-Jun-13 12:42:24

RaaRaa you're so right- a cleaner! Wow!

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