Stories of karma/retribution

(51 Posts)
angelelle Sat 15-Dec-12 11:10:03

this is meant to be à bit toungue in cheek although in all seriousness does anyone have à good news story to share where the xp got what was coming to him!

In brief, My xp treated me horribly throughout My pregnancy, gallivanted around with ow who, incidently, looks like a cast member from TOWIE, refused to have any sort of normal adult conversation with me about practicalities and so on. Has not seen dd, now 2 months, and communications since her birth are sporadic and currently there is silence on his part. He pays no money yet although i am working on this.

So throughout this i decided to try and be the bigger person, gave him space, didnt ask for money or support, didnt put any pressure on him to take on the father role he obviously so fears. Inside i was obviously dying but that is another story. Since birth i have sent him photos of dd and offered to take her to meet him. He has continued to act like à tool.

Sooo, not that i wish him ill i any way but obviously i do hope his willy falls off karma will bite him on the arse at some point. I feel like i have really tried to be the bigger person here by keeping civil throughout yet he is the one swanning around with new relationship, money, nice flat etc etc. I have had to move back to my mums and face long sleepless nights, lol. Seems fair..notsmile (wouldnt change it for the world though).

Anyone got à story to share ? Like do they ever regret not sharing their childs life?

Pickles77 Sat 15-Dec-12 11:18:40

Good thread angelle! Glad your okay! I have no karma stories of yet. Sorry I haven't replied to you yet, kind of low again but I will reply smile

NewPatchesForOld Sat 15-Dec-12 12:53:09

Hmm...my ex decided to make me and the children homeless after only 16 weeks of living together. He wanted to go back to his ex and tried to make us leave. Fortunately we had signed a joint lease on the house a couple of weeks prior and so I had as much right to be there as he did. Eventually he moved out, and got back with his ex. His life fell apart from the moment he left...his mother died (not that I would wish that on anyone), his father had a stroke (ditto), his gf cheated on him and then dumped him, and he got taken to court as I stopped paying for his son's gym membership (obviously) and he refused to pay it himself. He got the front end taken off his car, and has now been on a dating site for months and months.
My life has been relatively easy since, and I am now been dating the most wonderful man I have ever met.

angelelle Sat 15-Dec-12 13:17:10

No worries pickles. Take your time, I know what its likesmile glad you are still checking in here. I started the thread for a bit of fun and hope as LO had been hanging off my tit since 6am bless her.

New patche...love it. As xp and ow share a love of tanning I. am hoping they will look old and gritty before their time. Lol.Xx

Stropzilla Sat 15-Dec-12 13:28:24

My mum had a successful shop. The landlord decided to DOUBLE the rent all in one go! Mum moved out and set up from home. It nearly destroyed the business but she came through. We couldn't believe the grasping behaviour of the landlord. There was no negotiation at all. The landlord wanted to re-let before her notice was up so he paid her £ 2000 to let him. At the last minute the buyer pulled out and bought another shop. The landlords shop sat empty for more than 2 years before he finally let it again having to agree to much less than before. Serves him right for being grabby.

Mums business has gone from strength to strength in a way it would not have otherwise.

chocoreturns Sat 15-Dec-12 16:57:17

I don't know about Karma yet, but I was quietly delighted when my (stbx)SIL said to me yesterday how great I looked, sounded etc. And said, "You know, I've stopped feeling sorry for you now and actually I've started to feel sorry for her (OW)" - for getting the booby prize that is her bro. When even your ex's own family think he's a booby prize you have to be pretty sure that life isn't going to go smoothly for them.

To be honest though I try not to even ask about his life and just focus on making my own fan-bloody-tastic. It's been a year almost since he got his marching orders and ran off to the OW. I'm doing such great things and having so much fun at last. He's just being a knobber really. Nothing changes for him!

Oldladypillow Sat 15-Dec-12 20:31:55

Everyone hates him and won't give him the time of day?

angelelle Sat 15-Dec-12 20:34:22

Ha ha oldlady..love it.

angelelle Sat 15-Dec-12 20:37:22

Choco me too. Trying to ignore his existance so for all i know his life might already be shit!!

Best revenge is always to be as happy as you can and enjoy life with the best gift..our dcs.

addictedtolatte Sat 15-Dec-12 20:51:54

my exp dumped me when I was pregnant with our 2nd child. Resulted in me being homeless etc... nearly 2 years on I am happier than ever, have 2 beautiful children and a wonderful supportive family. On the other hand exp Is miserable has Fell out with most of his family due to his behaviour, he's lost his business. The list of his bad luck is endless. Am I bothered am I buggery lol grin

Oldladypillow Sat 15-Dec-12 21:11:55

Well it's true they do. I'm not flavour of the week with my ex in laws but I won't begrudge family loyalty. Otherwise he lost a lot of friends who sided with me. I lost some of his but frankly that was no loss!
He thinks I have managed to become some kind of social gate keeper as if grown adults cannot think for themselves!

ATouchOfStuffing Sun 16-Dec-12 12:44:48

I recently won at a tribunal with ex. He spent the last year harassing me and not even asking after DD at all, llet alone seeing her. Got to Court and he had bought his new g.f (he had told me I had split them up due to the stress he has been under!). He spent the entire time slagging me off and the Judge had to appeal to his g.f to make him think about his DD over Christmas. She also heard how he had registered at my address with DVLA and I ended up with a £700 fine and how he had ignored my attempts to get him to see his DD in a Contact Centre. It was clear he had instead wasted the entire last year building a mass of 'evidence' about how nasty I am in preparation for the tribunal whilst not even mentioning his DD once! Judge saw straight through it and kept looking at new g.f like hmm whenever he interrupted her to say more horrible things about me. I didn't have to say a thing! Hope the new g.f has enough nous to get out now.

MakeItALarge Mon 17-Dec-12 18:29:49

Ds's dad slept with a friend (more of a friend of a friend, not someone I actually liked or was close too) to piss me off.She had chlamydia, and never uses protection as she claims to have a latex allergy.

I could tell him... But I wont. It gives me something to laugh about when he and his gf annoy me grin

ATouchOfStuffing Mon 17-Dec-12 20:09:14

I worked with a guy who's wife had a latex allergy. He slept around because she kept getting a rash 'down there' and he was positive she was cheating because of it. What a lovely couple they must have made! wink

Mobly Tue 18-Dec-12 15:07:05

Makeitalarge, are you joking? Doesn't chlamydia cause infertility?

ATouchOfStuffing Tue 18-Dec-12 18:06:28

Yes it does shock. Not sure how you would go about telling them she had it without looking like a stirring witch though? Chances are they know already but haven't broadcast it?

MakeItALarge Tue 18-Dec-12 20:04:45

Ill try and explain - out with a big group and girl called V is there. V gets way too drunk, tells me she has std but wont get treated (didnt quite understand why).

Week later I have a row with ex and he sleeps with V. I got hundreds of texts off them both that night, then a phone call off him the next day to say he only did it to hurt me

Ex is still in a relationship with OW. She started seeing him knowing we were together and I was pg. When he left she started texting me crap about hoping I had a miscarriage, after he was born called him the walking miscarriage... The abuse has been awful. Ive changed my number 3times and every time I give it to him he gives it to her and it starts again.

I know ex doesnt believe in std checks so assuming he and his gf dont know.. and I dont think its my responsibility to tell either of them. Feel a bit sorry for his gf but then after what she has said about my son its karma

angelelle Tue 18-Dec-12 22:25:35

Makeitlarge...dont apologies for your (in)action. Would do exactly the same. Seriously what is wrong with people (meaning ow in this case).

My ex told me that ow didnt like the fact i was pregnant. I was like, oh i am sorry, doesnt she? Please pass on my apologies and tell her that i will be throwing myself down some stairs at the next available opportunity...lol!!!

Back to karma. Had email from mutual colleague as me and ex worked together. She Said she had lost all respect for him due to his treatment of me during my pregnancy. Maybe it is slowly dawning on the Office that the sun doesnt shine out of his arse.

drasticpark Wed 19-Dec-12 13:05:46

I booted my exp out within 3 hours of finding out he was having an affair with a colleague and close family friend, also married. The affair had been going on for 18 months during which time my eldest son was seriously assaulted and had to have major facial reconstruction surgery and give evidence in court. At the same time, I was nursing my father through terminal cancer. As I watched my father die in intensive care my ex made use of my absence to spend time with ow rather than support me. He treated me appallingly. He was cruel, cold and calculating. He left owing me £20k which nearly sunk us.

Roll on 2.5 years and he is living in a grotty furnished flat and his only possessions are a 10 yr old car, an old Xbox and a 40 inch tv. I shit you not. He looks miserable, angry and depressed every time I see him. He has made half hearted attempts to get back with me but I wouldn't touch him with a barge pole. He is in huge debt (5 figure credit card balances) has zero assets and is being chased by his lenders and the bank - they phone my landline daily. For much of the month he cannot access any cash at all. He signed the house over to me and my mortgage for the family home is half what he pays in rent.

He hates ow's dd who is adopted and has significant physical and developmental sn due to being born addicted to crack. Apparently she sits on the landing and tries to spit on his head. It's the least he deserves but that poor little girl certainly doesn't deserve them as role models. He and ow drink 3 bottles of wine and a bottle of vodka every night. He feels trapped by ow who makes feeble suicide attempts with a disposable razor or hairdressing scissors or if she's feeling extra am dram she'll smash a wine glass and hold it over her wrist until he gives in. She has even lain in front of his car to stop him driving off. Much of it is witnessed by her dd.

I now have a wonderful life with my 3 children, lovely friends and a part time job. I have a gorgeous boyfriend who is extremely supportive. We are very much in love but happy to live separately for a few years at least. I can't remember being this happy for years. And that's the best karma of all.

angelelle Wed 19-Dec-12 13:38:04

Shouldn't laugh...but I will. This is why I am at peace knowing I'll never get an apology..it will come in other ways.

Loving these stories. Xx

Mobly Thu 20-Dec-12 08:52:01

Just because someone is being or has been a twat, I couldn't deliberately withold information that could cause another woman to be infertile. That would make me no better than them!

I wouldn't call that karma.

MakeItALarge Thu 20-Dec-12 10:16:00

So I should contact her? Bearing in mind I have over 300 txt messages logged with the police from this woman, some threatening to kill me and my baby, from before and after he was born. There have also been petrol bomb threats, and I cant go in the neareat town in case I bump into them.

I have never once replied or spoke to her, and Im not putting mine or my sons health at risk by engaging with her.

Mobly Thu 20-Dec-12 11:24:24

That's not how you explained it in your first messages, and I'm not disagreeing that she is clearly not a nice person. You said they 'annoy' you, that doesn't sound half as extreme as what you've just described.

I still couldn't enjoy knowing she might have chlamydia.

You can do whatever you like. I'd probably mention it if I got another text from her just so MY conscience is clean and I could claim the moral high ground.

Peterpan101 Thu 20-Dec-12 11:29:19

MakeItALarge: I think that's more than enough info/reason for Police action don't you think?

As for Karma.....it may be?.....but there seems to be a little bit too much happiness in others misfortune here. Schadenfreude me thinks!?

My ex (IMO) has been nothing but nutty/hostile/extreme......but I wish/hope nothing but the best for her as SHE IS THE MOTHER OF MY DAUGHTER!

Whats good for her is good you my little one!!....the only karma that can be acceptable to anybody with children, is that everybody is happier apart, than they were together!??

ATouchOfStuffing Thu 20-Dec-12 11:40:10

I think when anyone has been at the receiving end of a torrent of abuse and kept their tongue and acted with as much dignity as they can muster, having the abuser realise what damage they are doing and hurting a little bit themselves is actually IMO quite healthy. Otherwise you would just have the people shouting loudest stomping over anyone with any morals at all.

drasticpark Thu 20-Dec-12 12:41:33

Peterpan, karma means that for every act the doer is repaid in equal measure, good or bad. I don't rejoice in the downfall of my ex. It is not on my interests that he is broke, unhappy and hostile. But if someone makes poor choices there will be consequences. You reap what you sow.

If my ex chose to be polite to me now I would be the same back. Instead, I choose to ignore his self-pitying vitriol. You would think that by the age of 45 he would realise that you get a lot more with sugar than you do with salt. But that's his problem and unless he wants to help himself then the downward spiral will continue. It's just the way it goes.

MakeItALarge Thu 20-Dec-12 14:29:07

Molby - I do see your point but I have never responded. Honestly I could not speak to her as Id snap and say something I would regret. Also, its all on police record and if it did ever go to court (which I want to avoid, Id rather he see his child OR leave us alone, Ive no intrest in starting fights) I dont want that on record as it does sound awful.

PerPan - I think the point of karma, and this thread, is most the people who were talking about are the ones who have hurt their CHILDREN. I wouldnt care what the ex did if he would be decent to our son.

Peterpan101 Thu 20-Dec-12 15:04:20

I am aware of the meaning of: 'karma'........also: 'schadenfreude'

But I don't gloat when my ex f***s up....like it or not, we're still part of 'our family'.

ATouchOfStuffing Thu 20-Dec-12 15:46:27

Well, I am happy gloating away. Ex has no interest in DD and hasn't seen her for over a year now. If I have managed to show his new g.f what he is like and given her a chance to get out sooner rather than later then I think that is actually doing her a favour. It won't be long before he starts on her next, now he has lost his petty fight with us. Nothing is ever his fault in his eyes but even the judge tried to appeal to her to make him see sense. I don't consider him part of our family as he contributes in no way whatsoever other than £5 per week, harassing me with venom and pretending to the world he doesn't have a child.
That may well make me an evil bitch, but in his case, I really don't care enough to wonder if my moral standpoint is equal or worse than his.

MakeItALarge Thu 20-Dec-12 16:15:09

PeterPan thats great for you, but my ex has only met my son a few times, and claims to have no intrest in seeing him again.

The ex might be biologically linked to my son but he is not family.

drasticpark Thu 20-Dec-12 17:28:23

My ex is not part of my family. He was shagging ow while I watched my father die. Even his own family are ashamed of him.

My life is a million times better without him. I'm happy again. That's karma.

angelelle Thu 20-Dec-12 22:18:19

Bear in mind thread was started as à bit of à joke re karma...not the same as wishing revenge or unhappiness on xp's. Simply sharing stories of what goes around comes around which, as someone mentioned above, is à much healthier attitude when you have been deeply hurt by someone rather than sitting around with anger or thoughts of hate and revenge. What karma is is trusting the universe to restore à bit of balance, that is all. And anyway, i dont wish death and destruction on My ex, he is worth more to me alive, and no, my ex is not part of My family, he donated à sperm to à child he has never met!

angelelle Thu 20-Dec-12 22:26:35

meant to put à big fat smiley after alive referring to child support...just in case anyone was taking it too seriously and getting à bit huffy, lol.

gettingeasier Sat 22-Dec-12 22:41:00

Well my xh is still afaik happily with his ow 3 years later

I have been very quiet and reasonable

Does Karma have a shelf life ?

xmasevebundle Sun 23-Dec-12 01:01:21

My exp losing his 30k job?

Front page of the news paper, i did laugh because he bought his son everything fuck all.

He is now on benefits.

grin

angelelle Sun 23-Dec-12 15:25:55

Getting easier, it does. The universe has no time limit in restoring balance. And yay for you being quite and dignified. That is the path I chose too and however things turn out it feels goodsmile

Xmas have a fab Christmas with the greatest gift of all.

xmasevebundle Sun 23-Dec-12 16:41:32

Thank you angelelle, have a good christmas and new years!

I was going out last year for NYE; now i am staying in with my son! All within a space of a year! Gone quick!

HappyNewSkyebluesapphire Sat 29-Dec-12 15:59:54

Hi Angel, Xmas and Pickles. Was just looking to see if you had a new thread.

Hope you are all doing well. Let me know if you do have a thread anywhere :-)

Regarding Karma, I finally had an apology of sorts from XH, that what he did was wrong, that he has to live with that - and that he is struggling too. It makes me feel a tiny bit better.

I still want Karma to bite his arse in a major way....

xmasevebundle Sat 29-Dec-12 21:14:42

I have no threads, i am doing great thanks grin

How are you doing?

I think karma will come in all shapes and sizes!

HappyNewSkyebluesapphire Sat 29-Dec-12 23:18:00

How are all your babies? I want to know how you are all getting on now smile

angelelle Sat 29-Dec-12 23:37:12

I have à few threads, lol. Including whether i should chase exp for contact (see flogging à dead horse) but surprise surprise he made contact on Christmas day...still sending strange cryptic messages so we shall see.

Apart from that we are happy and doing well. Lo sleeping 4-6hrs per night which is great for me. I still look at her and sort of think, hello, who are you? Still cant believe this has all happened in the space of à year but we are doing well and getting on with things.

skye Reading your thread on relationships. I am glad you have had an apology. You deserve it. Onwards and upwards for 2013 eh.

In other news i started slimming world two days ago and am ravenous and sorely tempted to binge on Christmas chocolates sad

HappyNewSkyebluesapphire Sat 29-Dec-12 23:58:05

Yes, I hope that we all have a much better 2013 and meet some men who are decent, loyal, reliable and trustworthy! or is that too much to hope for?!

acceptableinthe80s Sun 30-Dec-12 13:12:10

Well i don't know if it's karma or just sheer bad luck but my ex (who walked out halfway through my pregnancy and has never met his now 4yr old son) had a series of bad accidents, almost annually since ds was born.
First he fell down some basement steps, drunk and messed up his face, then he was knocked of his bicycle and had serious head injuries then another biking accident resulting in a broken leg!
Make of that what you will!

Oh yes karma has bitten my ex on the bum big style, where do I begin grin

Following 4 years of IVF we got our little girl, I then got PND and less than a week after diagnosis he was fixing himself up with a 'confidant' as he called her, yeh right! He text her constantly and met up with her and kissed her, but he convinced everyone it was all innocent.

He managed to convince his parents and all our friends it was all in my head and some of them turned on me, he left me on three separate occasions and finally stayed away on the fourth time of leaving.

He carried on seeing OW and over the last two years has virtually lost interest in his daughter, I've tried to remain dignified but I did struggle as watching my little girl cry for her daddy was awful.

Three weeks ago he all of sudden gained interest in our daughter and he finally admitted he's been dumped smile He found out she had been in contact with an ex boyfriend, texting, meeting up etc and he was distraught! The poor little lamb isn't eating, sleeping and feels terrible, awww....

I couldn't help myself and reminded him how he had made me look to everyone when he had done the same thing and he admitted he had been wrong. He also admitted he hadn't been tolerant of me with the PND and never gave me the chance to get better.

I always said to him 'what goes around, comes around' and it has. I feel sorry for him, because he will never ever be able to maintain an honest faithful relationship but I'm secretly glad karma has bitten him on the arse!

Oh in addition to that, he has lost all his friends as he was brainwashed by OW so is not only single, but lonely to as no one wants to know him!

Piemother Sun 30-Dec-12 19:44:45

Mummytowillow - what a spectacular twat. He deserves all he gets

Daddelion Sun 30-Dec-12 19:56:45

I wish the mother of our children nothing but the best.

It doesn't matter what went on before, as far as I'm concerned.

For all my faults, and hers, the children love us both, so I hope she lives a long and happy life.

HappyNewSkyebluesapphire Sun 30-Dec-12 21:16:03

Mummytowillow, that's a great example if what goes around comes around.

I have no doubt that if my XH ends up with OW that it will go around, because she is doing to her second H exactly what she did to her first, so H number 2 deserves what he gets and if my XH ends up as H number 3, then she will do it to him too.

Piemother Sun 30-Dec-12 23:24:59

Oh god the worthiness.

meddie Mon 31-Dec-12 18:16:59

After I threw mine out following years of EA the local 4x4 (4 kids 4 different dads) swooped in on him to 'offer a shoulder to cry on' and after a few weeks she moved him in.
On the rare occassion he would remember he had 2 kids and come visit he loved to tell me how he had found someone who understood him, adored him, cooked for him etc etc etc
She gave him Genital Herpes, Best Karma ever.

angelelle Tue 01-Jan-13 00:27:57

Daddelion. My daughter cant love her father as he has chosen never to meet her...so there you go.

And remember folks, karma is all about revenge restoring universal order smile

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