Stories of karma/retribution(51 Posts)
this is meant to be à bit toungue in cheek although in all seriousness does anyone have à good news story to share where the xp got what was coming to him!
In brief, My xp treated me horribly throughout My pregnancy, gallivanted around with ow who, incidently, looks like a cast member from TOWIE, refused to have any sort of normal adult conversation with me about practicalities and so on. Has not seen dd, now 2 months, and communications since her birth are sporadic and currently there is silence on his part. He pays no money yet although i am working on this.
So throughout this i decided to try and be the bigger person, gave him space, didnt ask for money or support, didnt put any pressure on him to take on the father role he obviously so fears. Inside i was obviously dying but that is another story. Since birth i have sent him photos of dd and offered to take her to meet him. He has continued to act like à tool.
Sooo, not that i wish him ill i any way but obviously i do hope
his willy falls off karma will bite him on the arse at some point. I feel like i have really tried to be the bigger person here by keeping civil throughout yet he is the one swanning around with new relationship, money, nice flat etc etc. I have had to move back to my mums and face long sleepless nights, lol. Seems fair..not (wouldnt change it for the world though).
Anyone got à story to share ? Like do they ever regret not sharing their childs life?
Good thread angelle! Glad your okay! I have no karma stories of yet. Sorry I haven't replied to you yet, kind of low again but I will reply
Hmm...my ex decided to make me and the children homeless after only 16 weeks of living together. He wanted to go back to his ex and tried to make us leave. Fortunately we had signed a joint lease on the house a couple of weeks prior and so I had as much right to be there as he did. Eventually he moved out, and got back with his ex. His life fell apart from the moment he left...his mother died (not that I would wish that on anyone), his father had a stroke (ditto), his gf cheated on him and then dumped him, and he got taken to court as I stopped paying for his son's gym membership (obviously) and he refused to pay it himself. He got the front end taken off his car, and has now been on a dating site for months and months.
My life has been relatively easy since, and I am now been dating the most wonderful man I have ever met.
No worries pickles. Take your time, I know what its like glad you are still checking in here. I started the thread for a bit of fun and hope as LO had been hanging off my tit since 6am bless her.
New patche...love it. As xp and ow share a love of tanning I. am hoping they will look old and gritty before their time. Lol.Xx
My mum had a successful shop. The landlord decided to DOUBLE the rent all in one go! Mum moved out and set up from home. It nearly destroyed the business but she came through. We couldn't believe the grasping behaviour of the landlord. There was no negotiation at all. The landlord wanted to re-let before her notice was up so he paid her £ 2000 to let him. At the last minute the buyer pulled out and bought another shop. The landlords shop sat empty for more than 2 years before he finally let it again having to agree to much less than before. Serves him right for being grabby.
Mums business has gone from strength to strength in a way it would not have otherwise.
I don't know about Karma yet, but I was quietly delighted when my (stbx)SIL said to me yesterday how great I looked, sounded etc. And said, "You know, I've stopped feeling sorry for you now and actually I've started to feel sorry for her (OW)" - for getting the booby prize that is her bro. When even your ex's own family think he's a booby prize you have to be pretty sure that life isn't going to go smoothly for them.
To be honest though I try not to even ask about his life and just focus on making my own fan-bloody-tastic. It's been a year almost since he got his marching orders and ran off to the OW. I'm doing such great things and having so much fun at last. He's just being a knobber really. Nothing changes for him!
Everyone hates him and won't give him the time of day?
Choco me too. Trying to ignore his existance so for all i know his life might already be shit!!
Best revenge is always to be as happy as you can and enjoy life with the best gift..our dcs.
my exp dumped me when I was pregnant with our 2nd child. Resulted in me being homeless etc... nearly 2 years on I am happier than ever, have 2 beautiful children and a wonderful supportive family. On the other hand exp Is miserable has Fell out with most of his family due to his behaviour, he's lost his business. The list of his bad luck is endless. Am I bothered am I buggery lol
Well it's true they do. I'm not flavour of the week with my ex in laws but I won't begrudge family loyalty. Otherwise he lost a lot of friends who sided with me. I lost some of his but frankly that was no loss!
He thinks I have managed to become some kind of social gate keeper as if grown adults cannot think for themselves!
I recently won at a tribunal with ex. He spent the last year harassing me and not even asking after DD at all, llet alone seeing her. Got to Court and he had bought his new g.f (he had told me I had split them up due to the stress he has been under!). He spent the entire time slagging me off and the Judge had to appeal to his g.f to make him think about his DD over Christmas. She also heard how he had registered at my address with DVLA and I ended up with a £700 fine and how he had ignored my attempts to get him to see his DD in a Contact Centre. It was clear he had instead wasted the entire last year building a mass of 'evidence' about how nasty I am in preparation for the tribunal whilst not even mentioning his DD once! Judge saw straight through it and kept looking at new g.f like whenever he interrupted her to say more horrible things about me. I didn't have to say a thing! Hope the new g.f has enough nous to get out now.
Ds's dad slept with a friend (more of a friend of a friend, not someone I actually liked or was close too) to piss me off.She had chlamydia, and never uses protection as she claims to have a latex allergy.
I could tell him... But I wont. It gives me something to laugh about when he and his gf annoy me
I worked with a guy who's wife had a latex allergy. He slept around because she kept getting a rash 'down there' and he was positive she was cheating because of it. What a lovely couple they must have made!
Makeitalarge, are you joking? Doesn't chlamydia cause infertility?
Yes it does . Not sure how you would go about telling them she had it without looking like a stirring witch though? Chances are they know already but haven't broadcast it?
Ill try and explain - out with a big group and girl called V is there. V gets way too drunk, tells me she has std but wont get treated (didnt quite understand why).
Week later I have a row with ex and he sleeps with V. I got hundreds of texts off them both that night, then a phone call off him the next day to say he only did it to hurt me
Ex is still in a relationship with OW. She started seeing him knowing we were together and I was pg. When he left she started texting me crap about hoping I had a miscarriage, after he was born called him the walking miscarriage... The abuse has been awful. Ive changed my number 3times and every time I give it to him he gives it to her and it starts again.
I know ex doesnt believe in std checks so assuming he and his gf dont know.. and I dont think its my responsibility to tell either of them. Feel a bit sorry for his gf but then after what she has said about my son its karma
Makeitlarge...dont apologies for your (in)action. Would do exactly the same. Seriously what is wrong with people (meaning ow in this case).
My ex told me that ow didnt like the fact i was pregnant. I was like, oh i am sorry, doesnt she? Please pass on my apologies and tell her that i will be throwing myself down some stairs at the next available opportunity...lol!!!
Back to karma. Had email from mutual colleague as me and ex worked together. She Said she had lost all respect for him due to his treatment of me during my pregnancy. Maybe it is slowly dawning on the Office that the sun doesnt shine out of his arse.
I booted my exp out within 3 hours of finding out he was having an affair with a colleague and close family friend, also married. The affair had been going on for 18 months during which time my eldest son was seriously assaulted and had to have major facial reconstruction surgery and give evidence in court. At the same time, I was nursing my father through terminal cancer. As I watched my father die in intensive care my ex made use of my absence to spend time with ow rather than support me. He treated me appallingly. He was cruel, cold and calculating. He left owing me £20k which nearly sunk us.
Roll on 2.5 years and he is living in a grotty furnished flat and his only possessions are a 10 yr old car, an old Xbox and a 40 inch tv. I shit you not. He looks miserable, angry and depressed every time I see him. He has made half hearted attempts to get back with me but I wouldn't touch him with a barge pole. He is in huge debt (5 figure credit card balances) has zero assets and is being chased by his lenders and the bank - they phone my landline daily. For much of the month he cannot access any cash at all. He signed the house over to me and my mortgage for the family home is half what he pays in rent.
He hates ow's dd who is adopted and has significant physical and developmental sn due to being born addicted to crack. Apparently she sits on the landing and tries to spit on his head. It's the least he deserves but that poor little girl certainly doesn't deserve them as role models. He and ow drink 3 bottles of wine and a bottle of vodka every night. He feels trapped by ow who makes feeble suicide attempts with a disposable razor or hairdressing scissors or if she's feeling extra am dram she'll smash a wine glass and hold it over her wrist until he gives in. She has even lain in front of his car to stop him driving off. Much of it is witnessed by her dd.
I now have a wonderful life with my 3 children, lovely friends and a part time job. I have a gorgeous boyfriend who is extremely supportive. We are very much in love but happy to live separately for a few years at least. I can't remember being this happy for years. And that's the best karma of all.
Shouldn't laugh...but I will. This is why I am at peace knowing I'll never get an apology..it will come in other ways.
Loving these stories. Xx
Just because someone is being or has been a twat, I couldn't deliberately withold information that could cause another woman to be infertile. That would make me no better than them!
I wouldn't call that karma.
So I should contact her? Bearing in mind I have over 300 txt messages logged with the police from this woman, some threatening to kill me and my baby, from before and after he was born. There have also been petrol bomb threats, and I cant go in the neareat town in case I bump into them.
I have never once replied or spoke to her, and Im not putting mine or my sons health at risk by engaging with her.
That's not how you explained it in your first messages, and I'm not disagreeing that she is clearly not a nice person. You said they 'annoy' you, that doesn't sound half as extreme as what you've just described.
I still couldn't enjoy knowing she might have chlamydia.
You can do whatever you like. I'd probably mention it if I got another text from her just so MY conscience is clean and I could claim the moral high ground.
MakeItALarge: I think that's more than enough info/reason for Police action don't you think?
As for Karma.....it may be?.....but there seems to be a little bit too much happiness in others misfortune here. Schadenfreude me thinks!?
My ex (IMO) has been nothing but nutty/hostile/extreme......but I wish/hope nothing but the best for her as SHE IS THE MOTHER OF MY DAUGHTER!
Whats good for her is good you my little one!!....the only karma that can be acceptable to anybody with children, is that everybody is happier apart, than they were together!??
I think when anyone has been at the receiving end of a torrent of abuse and kept their tongue and acted with as much dignity as they can muster, having the abuser realise what damage they are doing and hurting a little bit themselves is actually IMO quite healthy. Otherwise you would just have the people shouting loudest stomping over anyone with any morals at all.
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