single mums in weybridge area? going bonkers.

[Inthewood]

seriously think I am starting to lose grip.

[livvysmum]

not in weybridge but know the feeling well,

[BunnyBoo]

Hi, why do you feel you are going bonkers and losing grip? do you have kids?

[Inthewood]

Yes, BunnyBoo, I have an 11 month old daughter. I kind of manically started threads yesterday and some of this history is on '11 month old very fussy about food' thread. Not coping very well. Want to be scooped up and looked after. Maybe the end of a horrible relationship with the odd pleasant bit has shaken me not because it wasn't expected but because it is messy and vicious and I can't handle being talked to in that way any more. And I don't know how I'll deal with him being the father of my child.

[livvysmum]

i had similiar experience relationship wise, he was a b*stard!. drank heavily was physically violent, name calling and went off with another woman. funnily enough i'd had enough. left him went into hiding at my mums, hundreds of miles away so that helped, i was still only a few weeks preggars at this stage. i let him into ds life again but on some strict agreements, he doesn't drink while ds is in his care, he doesn't drink while he's in my or my familys company. i went to seek legal advice, best thing i ever did, you can get half hour free with a lot of solicitors. write your questions down then get all the info you need. sounds like you did the right thing, so be proud of yourself it's not an easy thing to do when your facing into single parenthood. good luck and start laying some ground rules, show himwhos boss.

[Inthewood]

Why have I put up with this for so long? I've been on my own with the baby since she was born, and only the other day I've realised I've made excuses for him the whole time 'because I love him'. How pathetic. Oddly the straw that broke the camel''s back was Mum not letting me stay at her house even though I pleaded. She is very similar to dd's dad - I'm sure I went subconsciously for someone familiar. Critical the entire time, always finding something the matter with me, totally unable to look after me in any ordinary way. God. An epiphany. I've even stopped caring quite as much that he'll be off shagging some girl - there's no way his damage and damaging behaviour won't show through pretty quickly. It wasn't a one-off reaction because there's something wrong with me. He's a shambles. What a fool I've been. What a mug.

[Inthewood]

Thanks Livv. I need to be business like towards him, you are right. Stop falling for the manipulative, doe-eyed ridiculous excuses and apologies. Jesus Christ. What an idiot I've been. I really thought I was not a stupid person. God.

[Inthewood]

Thanks Livv. I need to be business like towards him, you are right. Stop falling for the manipulative, doe-eyed ridiculous excuses and apologies. Jesus Christ. What an idiot I've been. I really thought I was not a stupid person. God.

[Inthewood]

Why have I put up with this for so long? I've been on my own with the baby since she was born, and only the other day I've realised I've made excuses for him the whole time 'because I love him'. How pathetic. Oddly the straw that broke the camel''s back was Mum not letting me stay at her house even though I pleaded. She is very similar to dd's dad - I'm sure I went subconsciously for someone familiar. Critical the entire time, always finding something the matter with me, totally unable to look after me in any ordinary way. God. An epiphany. I've even stopped caring quite as much that he'll be off shagging some girl - there's no way his damage and damaging behaviour won't show through pretty quickly. It wasn't a one-off reaction because there's something wrong with me. He's a shambles. What a fool I've been. What a mug.

[Inthewood]

Finding it all a bit much. Can anyone help? Sorry I'm being so pathetic.