i'm actually feeling gutted. It's complicated story. me and my ex have 3 year old daughter, when I was pregnant he abandonned us and didn't believe she was his which he knew it wouldn't been anyone elses he was looking for ways out then he changed his mind. we went through courts 2 years. he shown very poor father skills and is not a good father. he dont pay penny, dont give bday presents or xmas presents, don't provide anything to eat or drink at contacts, cant comfort our daughter, shows no emotion towards her or even communicate with her tidy. so contact still supervised and outof court now. there is no way I let my daughter go alone with him she would be traumatised and not looked after properly. anyway while going through courts my ex got together with someone new. I hadn't a problem actually i'd hoped he'd leave us alone now he got someone new. when courts ended, I agreed to give him my number and be mutal for daughters sake. major coinsidence the time he starts talking to me he says he split up with girlfriend. I always doubted him but no proof. last few months i've spoke to ex. actaully he hounds me with texts all the time asking for a date or us making a go of it. which I'm sure I don't I have no feelings for him and can't forgive him for all stress he put me and my daughter through. Icould never forgive him for not even trying to be a good dad. he keeps on telling me how much he loves me and how he has nothing to do with his ex, wonders what he ever saw in her. really been annoying me. anway after months of this I decided to do a little research. I never met his ex but I created a facebook account in a different name and added her and on her facebook all these messages from him saying he loves her etc.. on her profile they are apparently engaged. I actually feel hurt. I'm certain I have no feelings and even if he was single I wouldn't want him. But why lie? thats what gets me. how can I trust him with my daughter? I know I shouldnt f spyed. but I caught him in many lies before but he always talks himself out of lies. he has a problem, a compulsive liar. so now what would you do? would you confront him? he will probably have explanation which makes no sense. maybe his motive is getting close to me so I let my daughter go but he has no interest in her, I thought before he only took me to courts to get at me but that cant be case if he is happily engaged. I always have to creep around him as I have courts hanging over my head all time as I know he can do it anytime he likes. courts will give unsupervised one day. but shouldnt he share something major like that with his daughter and to me. If I don't know him, how can I trust him? where do I go from here? sorry if long. maybe i'm overreacting but why would he lie. if he came to me and said he was engaged i'd be happy for him but he is up to something. maybe I should contact her. I bet she has no idea of lies he has told me. but I wont waste my time. or I could keep this to myself and feel bitter and resentful at contacts espec when he keeps sending these flirty texts
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RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion ·
05/03/2009 21:22
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