We have been split for around a year. He see's the kids once a week. We had been getting on really well but things seem to have taken a nose dive recently and I have no idea why.
I have been trying to be light and pleasent with him helping him out etc and even helped him get a job.
Today he had the kids. I told him I was having dinner with some friends and would collect the kids around 7. I was slightly late and arrived at half 7. He was really cross with me and had a massive go at me becuase his gf's dd usually goes to bed at 6.30 and I had mucked up her bed time routine, my ds has a similar bed time to this but if the worst happens and he goes to bed slightly later then its not a huge deal..... he was acting like it was a huge disater.
When I try to talk to him about basic things to do with the kids he is dismissive and just unresponsive. I have no idea of what the kids have eaten today, if they have slept and generally what sort of day they have had because he came to my car put them in, had a go at me and left.
I dont know if his gf has something to do with it. she has always had issues with us being near one another and I suspect this cuold have something to do with the change in behaviour.
He is also oh so charming to me when he wants a favour.... just seems like he can only ever be polite to me when he is getting something out of the situation.
All I want is to be able to have a civil conversation with him about the kids. Make decisions together about the important things and just generally have his input but at the moment it is like trying to get blood out of a stone.
I have depression (he doesnt know about this and it would not be worth telling him) and the way he is acting just makes the situation worse.
I know it sounds very trivial but I really need his support with the kids at the moment but instead all I get is a load of greif and no practicle or financial help.
I really dont know how to deal with it. there are a lot of issues that need discussing but it would be impossible to do it via txt and if I call him she chips in in the back ground.
Idealy I would like to be able to sit and have a cival conversation with him about the kids without arguing but he would not be allowed to do this.
Feel like im about to go mad!!!
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spookycharlotte121 · 22/02/2009 20:28
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