Just put in CSA claim. Now I'm scared :-(

[mypandasgotcrabs]

After being great at paying maintenance for 6/7 months, xp stopped paying in May, claiming he's 'got no money' . I've asked him for it as I really didn't want the grief of going through the CSA, but he kicked off. A few weeks on, and still I've seen nothing from him, so have just reluctantly put in the claim. I have to, I have no choice. Without that money, I have more going out than I have coming in. I'm in shit financially (mostly thanks to him), but now on top of that I'm scared about his reaction to me claiming through the CSA. I know it's his fault, he should have paid up before now. But I know he's going to start kicking off now, and make things unbearable again when I have to see him.

[mypandasgotcrabs]

Cheers Fio It's not completely a guilty thing though, more worried about the backlash.

Have you heard anything at all? I did have a little panic when my wages still weren't in my bank at 1.30 this morning, but forced myself to go to sleep. And reading FT.com doesn't sound promising at all.

[mrsmortenharket]

hi panda it's a control issue and he's using the money as a way of tryingto control you. it's not right and it's not fair as he should help financially look after his child(ren).
i have exactly the same problem with x and a certain member of his family - to cut a long story short, x was arrested for harrassment (of me) and his aunt turned round and said "did you not think of the money befor eyou had him arrested?" (i didn't decide to arrest him, the police did because of his behaviour! she was brushing his bad behaviour to one sideand being completely materialistic!) had exactly the same comment off him as well, so it's just one way they will try and exert some of the control they feel they are losing. if there is a backlash, i would suggest you start keeping a diary then you have it written down in case things go that way - you won't have the added stress of trying to remember what happened when.

if thigns do get out ofhand, remember to phone 999 (((((((((((((((()))))))))))))
mrsmh xxx

[ELOB]

dont respond to any threats or aggressive texts but do save them for future ref. he isn't with you now so you don't need to be worried or anxious. i know how you feel, i need to 'handle' my ex in a very careful way until im left with no alternative to do what ever i decide to do. but he is covering all costs etc for us with joint accounts still. your ex on the other hand is doing nothing and so i dont see what you have to lose.

[zoe99]

I also went to the CSA as xp stopped paying, they backdate from when you put the claim in. I had a backpay of just over 2K, the CSA had the money for weeks but said they could not get it to me by direct debit!! or cheque as their automated machine for checks was not working. I stuck to my guns and asked them to put an application in for the interest on my money, as I said to them they are meant to be a non profit organisation so where would my interest have gone. After I recieved my money I then had a cheque for £17.80 interest!