Has anyone else suddenly had problems with ex wanting to get back together further down the line and not taking no for an answer?

[nolongeraworriedmummy]

posted in relationships but thought might be best to ask here.

Been seperated over a year, ex dh suddenly going on for hours and hours on access visits of how we should be back together, how he could move in with us etc, hes still my husband etc, it isnt going to happen, I was miserable there and Ive told him so, he keeps going on how he cant live without us, is doing it infront of dd too, its breaking my heart as dd is upset over it.

Anyone else had this happen?

[nolongeraworriedmummy]

Not seeing him isnt an option as I have to take dd because of conditions of court order. Really need advise on how others have dealt with this.

[Debra1981]

Part of my court order for contact stipulates ex-h is only to talk to me / contact me re. dd as he was like this too and it was making me a miserable mummy- not good for dd. If he won't stop when asked suggest this to him- for this purpose you might want to start keeping rough records of such convos, dates, duration, location etc, incl. phone contact. Tell him also that it's not good for dd to hear him like this as it will be confusing for her. Just be strong and stand up to him a bit- I know I found a whole lot more confidence when I stopped being stuck under the same roof as my ex. If he's genuinely depressed about the situation suggest he sees his GP. Surely the court can't dictate that both parents have to be present to facilitate contact- I can't see why the handover (or even attendance during contact if he requires supervision) can't be done by other members of your/his family- sorry if I'm being ignorant of your particular situation. Maybe you could have a friend or family member with you during contact- might make him think twice about prattling on, or at least you will have a witness to this frankly unacceptable behaviour. Hope you're ok- these sorts of mind games can be emotionally exhausting and really irritating to put it mildly!

[mrsmortenharket]

a contact diary is a good idea - that way, if things escalate, as they might if/when you start seeing someone new, there will be a record of what has happened. x was like this and he didn't stop until he got arrested for harrassment.

you will be fine, just stay strong (easier said than done, i know) and rise above the rest of it. ((((((((((((())))))))))