Lately, I'm getting super annoyed by mums in partnerships claiming that their life is just like that of a single mother! It really gets my back up and I have to bite my tongue! They talk about their partner coming home late etc. As if that even comes close to what we experience 24/7!!
Mostly it drives me nuts, because it gives me the feeling they have no idea just how valuable the input of their partners is. Like they take them for granted.
Can they even know what it's like to do everything alone. Including watching your child's milestones alone, and praising your child alone, food shopping alone, eating dinner alone, sleeping alone. Tying to do the d.i.y alone? Don't they know what it means even to share the weekends with their partners? To go walking, to see their partner make their baby laugh, to make decisions together? Watching their baby grow together? Even if their partner is busy and late home. Big deal. At least he comes home in the end! We have to live day by day knowing noone is going to walk through that door.
I don;t go around moaning to these friends. Not at all. BUT, a little imagination on their part wouldn't go amiss. I just dont appreciate them suggesting that they are in any way close to being in the same boat as me!! That's just bloody ignorant. I feel sad thats i'm angry about it, and kind of let down, as I thought of these people as friends before all this. But these statements make me stand back and feel a rift.
Does anyone else know how I feel on this one?
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sleepylion · 30/09/2008 20:38
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