I don't know why it hasn't gone in a constructive way. I know I tend to be confrontational and childdish when angry but, I wasn't angry.
me - "I need to talk about Ds1's behavior when he's with you. He's playing up to get your attention - "
exp - "He gets my attention!"
me - "Well, yes, but that's not -"
exp - "Anyway it's not like he gets any of your attention!"
me "yes he does, he's been with me all week, who else do you think is looking after him?"
exp "You're always on the computer when I come round. Don't make out I don't give him attention when you sit on the computer."
me "I'm sitting on the computer when you are here BECAUSE you are here. I dn't do that when you're not. And this is besides the point, this isn't about you, or the amount of attention each of us give Ds1, it's about Ds1's behavior when you are here"
exp "So why are you saying I don't give him enough attention if that's not what it's about"
me "I haven't said that"
exp "You were going to."
me "You don't know WHAT I was going to say, you didn't give me chance to tell you, now do you actually want me to carry on trying to involve you in his life or shall I carry on and do what I think best without trying to discuss it with you?"
exp - "you do anyway, what else is new?"
me "Well what am I doing now if I'm not involving you? For Christ's sake, you don't KNOW what I was going to say, you're just playing the victim all the time, this is not about YOU, it isn't about what YOU are doing. I don't CARE what you do, my concerns do not lie with YOU."
exp "So why are you even bothering asking me?"
What happened? I went in with the intention of asking him to completely ignore ds1 when he's being deliberatly disruptive, but I don't understand how that didn't happen. I was shouty near the end of the conversation, because I had had enough. He says it was just an excuse to have a go at him.
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SmugColditz · 05/09/2008 18:46
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