dd who is 4.5 was with my mum last night- i was at a meeting at school. she was chatting with my mum then asked why she doeasnt have a dad, my mum explained how she had mummy and nana and papa and uncle etc. which she seemed to accept.
ive been dreading this for ages, what do i say to her? do i sit her down and talk to her or wait till she brings it up again? how do i put this nicely, he is an arsehole compulsive liar, denied she was his for the first three years then admitted to me that he knew she was his and would like a relationship with her then fucked us about yet again and now ive not heard from him in over a year, i took her to see him a few times and introduced him as mummys friend but it was after a few visited that they started getting cancelled cos he was going out, had a wedding to go to, was meeting a friend, didnt feel well etc. etc.
im so glad he isnt part of her life- he has a history of being violent to woman and spent time in jail after dd was born although he was never violent to me. i do have a partner but we dont live together, we have been together since dd was 1, he is fantastic (he is also a single parent) but dd must be aware that he isnt dad (she doesnt call him dad)
have you been in similar situation? what did you do? all ive thought about so far is explaining how every family is different etc.
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dd has just asked why she doesnt have a dad. advice please
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