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MUMDONEGOOD · 26/08/2008 18:49

Got mobile on, home phone working, email logged in. Where is everyone. Feeling really really lonely. Is everyone having a life....

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SpandexIsMyEnemy · 26/08/2008 18:50

hello lovely, how are you?

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charliecat · 26/08/2008 18:50

Text someone, ring someone, compose a daft email. Whats up?

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MUMDONEGOOD · 26/08/2008 18:51

Bored and Lonely, not doing too well. Ok till evening then feel like crying crying and crying.

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SpandexIsMyEnemy · 26/08/2008 18:52

are you newly single? (sorry not familiar with your circs)

we're here to chat to grab a brew and a buscuit and have a chat, I know we're not 'RL' but well hey ho it's convo!

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charliecat · 26/08/2008 18:56

Aww, i dont know your circs either. But hello What are your kids up to? Mine have just gone out, so got peace for a couple of hours.

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MUMDONEGOOD · 26/08/2008 18:57

Long long story Spandexismyenemy. Story goes on for the last seven-eight years when split up with ex. Recently however have realised there is no getting back together and no leaning on him like I used to. Feeling really low. He was my confidence.

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MUMDONEGOOD · 26/08/2008 18:58

Hi, CC dd is in her room watching a dvd. Cant really call anyone, they all have families etc.

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charliecat · 26/08/2008 19:00

Its not dinner time, they wouldnt mind im sure, they may like an excuse to sneak away from family life to the bedroom with the door shut for a chat

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SpandexIsMyEnemy · 26/08/2008 19:02

exactly as the cat says!

sit and watch something with DD.

how about an evening class or the gym class or something? (just thinking of something to help with your confidence) - ah yes I think I remember now - x moved back was family etc but lying?

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MUMDONEGOOD · 26/08/2008 19:05

Thats the story. My friends have the perfect family lives. I must be a really bad person because no-one stays with me. All I want is a family to look after.

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SpandexIsMyEnemy · 26/08/2008 19:10

sweetie- they might look perfect to you looking in from the outside, but inside they're prob not so great.. there's always loads that goes on behind closed doors no one knows about.

you're not bad, just haven't found anyone worthy of spending your time with yet!

dare I say it - if you've been so used to your X you've not allowed yourself time to get over him properly?

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charliecat · 26/08/2008 19:11

Your not a bad person! You have a family, just a smaller than than all us LP start of thinking it will be, have you made a cuppa yet?
Are you staying up late or tucking yourself up early to bed?

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SpandexIsMyEnemy · 26/08/2008 19:12

oh yes sorry - I like to think jsut cos there's no man in my house, doesn't mean DS & I are not a family - we're not misfits after all!

I have choccy n brews all around!

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MUMDONEGOOD · 26/08/2008 19:19

I know I haven't given myself time to get over him. I thought I was till he moved in recently. I don't understand whats happened. He thinks I trapped him by getting pregnant. I didn't. Although I was old, I was quite naive, I didn't have any guidance from my mum and my dad died when I was 16.He was the only one I could talk to.
I didn't know that I could get pregnant when I was on the pill but was sick. It was such a shock. I hadn't even thought of a baby. Can't sleep, too many things going round in my head. Feeling really really low.

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charliecat · 26/08/2008 19:25

You sound it, I have the too many things going on in my head thing too. Its BLOODY AWFUL.
Where has he moved into?
Even if you did get up the duff on purpose your child is here now, and if he was that bothered he would have used a condom, to make bloody sure there were no making babies
Cup of tea, nice smelly candle, lots of posting on MN, bed with the telly on later to tune your thoughts into..
It will be ok, it takes time, but you will be ok.

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MUMDONEGOOD · 26/08/2008 19:31

Will make myself the tea. Might help. Don't know where he's moved to. According to him he didnt have anywhere to go which is why I took him in. But when I asked him to leave, he cleared his things out within three days. I think him and gf are back together. She said she missed him. Not sure about being ok, every few months something happens to knock me back. I'm tired of trying to keep it all together.

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charliecat · 26/08/2008 19:35

It is tiring

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SpandexIsMyEnemy · 26/08/2008 20:00

echo charlie cat - that and facebook srabble - my nights are set when beau's not here! lol.

the x has to take his share of responsibilities for his part - one would assume you didn't hold a gun to his head, pin him down and pounce

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MUMDONEGOOD · 26/08/2008 20:52

No was just happy that someone wanted to be with me. My life was exciting for a change. Someone was interested in me and was nice looking.

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SpandexIsMyEnemy · 26/08/2008 22:37

your time will come - I know how that sounds but it will do when the time is right for you.

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