My mum is the only person who can reduce me to tears

[ThatBigGermanPrison]

I only asked her if she would take me and the kids to a supermarket to day. I don't dare ask on a weekday - she's been at work all day and will tear a strip off me. I don't ask on a Saturday, it's her first day off and she doesn't want to spend it in a supermarket. I asked her today instead.

"Don't you go shopping unless someone takes you?"

The answer being, I spend £5 on a taxi or a spend £5 on a delivery, or I go to the local shop and get fleeced, but doesn't shee know this? Really, how does she think I go shopping if she doesn't take me?

I don't expect to be taken, I was quite happy for her to say no, which she does the majority of the time despite telling anyone who'll listen how much she has to do for me (nothing), but why does she have to rip into me like that? Then when I get upset, she rips into me for raising my voice.

For fuck's sake, why can she just not say no? Does she really think I'd put myself through the ordeal of risking a kick in the bollocks of my self esteem if I didn't really need a frigging hand?

[ThatBigGermanPrison]

Good lord, that has got to be the pettiest thread posted today. Shame .

I feel ridiculous.

[CvQ]

awww if it gets it all off your chest then its a good thing.mums can be a pain in the arse sometimes

[Flamesparrow]

It isn't petty! Having your self esteem smushed by the one person who is meant to protect your self esteem is horrible

[Tidgypuds]

Thats not petty, it musnt be very nice being treated like that.
Next time (if you dare ask again) just take a deep breath and say to her, you only have to say no sorry I cant.

[ThatBigGermanPrison]

I do, I say that every time, I should stop asking actually. Clearly she's not particularly willing to help and I spose it's quite rude to keep asking.

[AMAZINWOMAN]

Sometimes you can get free delivery on shopping. Hotukdeals is a good website.

or shops like Iceland or Somerfield do free deliveries if you spend £25.

It saves you from asking all the time!

[tribpot]

Yes - and the supermarkets start to fall over themselves to email you offers, many of which can offset the cost of delivery.

Worth doing one once and then see what happens, particularly if you can use UK hot deals to sweeten things up!

Sorry your mum can't be more civil

[tribpot]

And in fact ..

[ThatBigGermanPrison]

Awww you lot are just too bloody nice to me - thanks tribpot, that's really helpful!

She has offered (since) to take me tomorrow, and I've thanked her profusely, but I might get a wee Asda shop in instead!

[kittycats]

hi sometimes i think people with cars etc dont realise how hard it can be doing the weekly shop etc when you dont have a car.i know cause my sister drives and expects me to go to visit her even though its 2 buses and 1.5hrs away.