I'm sure this sounds so minor, but I have to get it out my system.
Left H 3 months ago as he was emotionally abusive with some occassional physical abuse. He did virtually nothing around the house and never did anything with the kids but to listen to him you would think he was a wonderful family man.
He hasn't seem the DC's on his own -always has his mum or me (his insistence) and I have been relieved.
Today he insisted we go to the cinema. He said he wouldn't take them out on his own because that makes my life easier and then i might not move back home. Any way he is 15 minutes late and we have to go in without him.
He wants to put DC's to bed so I let him come round. After bath I get him to dry DS2 (2.5) while I get DS1 (3.7) ready.
DS1 is excited at being close to his dad and starts pinching him which I know is annoying. I tell DS2 not to do it. ExH looks hurt and gives DS1 what I can only describe as an "evil stare" which he uses to try and assert authority. DS1 (who is the more sensitive looks really worried as this could be the beginning of worse behaviour from exH) DS2 then bites exH. Again I think it is affectionate as he used to do this to me (but not for months) ExH gets even more upset and acts like he has been assaulted. (ExH has constant things wrong with him - sore back/knee/anke/random illness for which he goes over the top with symotoms for attention) DS1 then says "Daddy, please be brave" but he still insists he might have to go to hospital for antibiotics there is a small red mark only - skin OK.
I manage to change the subject and it all comes to mothing but I feel that my DC's calm life was unsettled again as particularly DS1 is sensitised from what went on before.
They have be so much more relaxed and full of fun since we moved out and they are more trusting of their Dad because in their short spells with him he has been OK.
I feel I have let them down by allowing thier dad into our new house ans corrupting their safe place but exH is so insistant.
Feel really fed up tonight and not strong enough to deal with exH (he almost convinced me tonight that we were unhappy entirely because I am so difficult to live with - although he stil wants me to come home!)
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popcorn123 · 03/08/2008 22:08
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