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Raise A Glass To Celebrate My First Anniversary

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TwoIfBySea · 21/07/2008 22:46

For it is this date last year that ex-dh buggered off and left us and despite feeling low most of the time I am so glad he is gone, I am so glad I don't have to put up with him anymore.

The biter is that his bidey-in had their baby son a couple of weeks ago. So only a couple of months after walking out on us because being part of a family was too much pressure his port in the storm got up the duff.

I can only say I hope they both have the life they deserve. Well they've already had to move to a council flat after being evicted from their house (although I don't know if this is true as I haven't seen the place yet and dts won't be visiting there until I do and know it is his definite address) he quit his job to work cash in hand so he didn't have to pay the CSA. So she got herself a winner there. Good luck to her, she will need it.

Me and dts are bobbing along, coping with a capital C. We'll get through this with no help from him.

So raise a glass of whatever is your poison as one year has passed and I survived it. And if I can then anyone can, so take heart those who are just about to start on this life...it can be done.

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Califrau · 21/07/2008 22:50

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fawkeoff · 22/07/2008 00:23

WELL FUCKING DONE!!!!!!

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HumphreySmallPillow · 22/07/2008 00:49

Well done, twoif.
Here's to you!

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thornrose · 22/07/2008 01:02

Cheers m'dear,I'm raising my wine glass to you, heres to bobbing along and coping with a capital C. Eventually you won't just be surviving and coping you'll be living and bloody enjoying, I'm testemant to that!

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thornrose · 22/07/2008 01:03

testament even

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PurpleOne · 22/07/2008 01:13

Twoif

Good on ya girl!

*raises bottle of cider and toasts us all

My ex has moved to a council flat, while me and dd's are still privately renting....
I escaped DV in 2002, bobbed along for a while, but never ever sank.

A year is paramount to your own strength.

Blessings, with a capital B x x

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Debra1981 · 22/07/2008 01:24

Well done!!!
My ex did the 'cash-in-hand to avoid CSA' while I was with him cos he had dds from previous, just never told me the reason he got himself sacked til after I left. Incapacity Benefit pah! I think they're in for some trouble with these reforms lol! Be very proud of you and your los and know that your future shines so much brighter now!! x

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prettyfly1 · 22/07/2008 14:17

just started down this road so well done to ya!!!

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NotDoingTheHousework · 22/07/2008 14:28

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TwoIfBySea · 23/07/2008 22:34

Thank you all and prettyfly1 - everyone will tell you that you will get through this and sometimes you will wonder but they are right, it can be done.

NotDoingTheHousework, where do I get me one of those dps? Can I order one? I am happy with it just being we three but, you know.

Strangely since that poor baby of ex-dh's was born his phonecalls to me have been full of animosity as though I have done something wrong - I shall take note of how many times I have to remind him that his life is not important to me, my dts are.