I saw XP today and felt a sudden pang...

[snotbuster]

of what I'm not quite sure.
I see him on a regular basis - when handing DS over twice a week - but today I drove past him by chance and suddenly felt strange. Think it was because he actually looked ok - almost attractive - and I suppose I haven't thought that about him for ages.
When we were together he got a bit neglectful (to say the least) about his appearance -wasn't shaving or even washing sometimes - which was vile. He has generally looked a lot better since we parted and today looked quite good.
Don't know why I'm posting this as it sounds so trivial. We had a million, some very serious, problems in our relationship and I don't want him back. Think I was just surprised that I felt so wierd when I saw him - suppose it's the tail end of the grieving business. Just wonder why he couldn't make any effort for me? And then I wonder why I still care?

[BreeVanDerCampLGJ]

He is X for a reason.

[snotbuster]

Yes - wonder whether I was too accommodating (i.e polite) to tell him how disgusting he'd got when we were together, or whether he just thought I wasn't worth making an effort for. Anyway, hardly matters now. Thanks bree.

[charliecat]

my x still looks hot sometimes. It doesnt change the fact hes a little wankstain.

[greenelizabeth]

Don't go there. Looks count for jackshit. If I ever dip a toe in the water again, I will have a whole different set of criteria.

My x is still goodlooking but it sort of repulses me more. Looking at him and thinking 'other people would think he was attractive'. It gives me a shudder. Such a brutal realisation of how truly deceptive looks can be.

[snotbuster]

'tis true.

[snotbuster]

X-posts sorry green. You are right too. In fact other people probably think my XP is good looking and an easy going laid back guy. And I know that they're very, very wrong!
Think that sometimes I'm still a bit sad that it didn't work out, we've got the loveliest DS and it could've been great if we'd both been very different. But we weren't and we 'tried again' countless times to no avail. So no, I'm definately not 'going there', just having a strange moment I think.

[charlotte121]

heya snot, i had this the other day... i thiink part of it is due to the fact that you still love him. i love my ex but things will never work between us and unlike him being able to move on and get on with his life im a full time mum of 2 and have the kids to think of. he can swan off and have fun, i cant remember the last time i had a night out.
He's moved on and has a new partner and im left behind watching him playing happy families with someone else. Its hard but u'll get through it. as someone wisely said he's an ex for a reason and that what you have to keep in mind.
I do understand tho, i would never want ex back after what he put me through but the small things you take for granted in a relationship like snuggling up on the sofa once the kids are in bed and having someone to hold you in bed at night are sorely missed!