Last time the dc stayed with their dad my eldest asked me on the phone when they were coming home. My answer was "probably in the morning". She asked if she could come back that night & I said to ask her dad, to which she replied "I cant, im scared to" sad
Today she asked if theyre going to dads this weekend, & if so what time they would be coming back. I said "probably sunday evening" & she said she hoped it would be in the morning instead. My little one said "I dont want to go to dads" sad
How can he be made to accept what the children are saying & take their feelings into account? At the moment anything they say he will just assume is words ive put into their mouths, which simply isnt true.
Im happy for him to have generous time with the dc as long as they are happy to go. I think they need to start off with one overnight stay, then build up to full weekends & eventually a week or more during the holidays once the dc are ready & happy to do so. He seems to want to start off with more than the dc are happy to do then reduce if he thinks its not working out. (In other words when he`s bored with them hmm)
Unfortunately Cafcass dont get involved unless there are court proceedings in place. Does anyone know of anything else similar where they speak for the child?
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How can I get ex to see the dc`s point of view without him saying I put words into their mouths?
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SparklePrincess · 28/04/2008 14:50
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