You know that saying 'who's my bitch? You're my bitch!' Well, this was my relationship with xh when we were together, and I've never been able to be assertive with him. Even now, if I stand up for myself against him, I can't do it by phone or to his face. I can only text because I need time to compose my argument and make it sound reasonable / non-hysterical.Even so, when I do this, I'm afraid to look at the texts he sends me back incase they are nasty, and if he calls me back I just won't answer the phone.
To the point: today, he tells my ds over the phone that he won't be taking him & other dc's any time this weekend because he is acting in a play (amateur dramatics). It was only because I asked ds what daddy wanted that I found out this information at all. Otherwise, I'd have sat here all weekend, and nobody would have told me at all that he wasn't turning up. Of course I've had the dc's all week cos of school hols & I was a bit pissed off. I texted xh and said I was going to see a solicitor to arrange proper shared custody of the children because he was taking the piss.
He said he has a small flat, and if he wants to buy somewhere bigger, he must work, so can't afford to have kids more. I replied, surely he could afford the good manners to inform me earlier that he wouldn't be having the kids this weekend, so that I could arrange my week around that information.
He hasn't texted back. Am I being treated like a twat here? I think I am, but I hate him so it's hard to be objective
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littlewoman · 10/04/2008 15:25
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