XP is just the biggest ming mong in the world

[birky]

and I hate him. His mum keeps ringing me asking when she can see DD and doesn't seem to understand that last time she had DD, she a)betrayed my trust by plotting for XP to pull a sickie from work so he could be there b)didnt even feed her properly, she had 2oz out of a possible 12oz of milk and c)she does nothing but slag me off, say crap like we need a dna test blah blah

Met XP for a cuppa to chat about things - well said I'd listen to what he had to say for himself in a public place and all he did was make me feel like shit, go on about his new girlfriend who I've been told is a minger anyway. I ended up walking out of the cafe to my car n he followed n got in my car to continue babbling about how I should have gone after him the night he walked out and he still loves me then again changing to topic of so called wonderful new partner. Then proceeded to hurl abuse and shout at me when he got out of my car so I drove off. He then sped up behind me and followed me literally glued to my bumper with the 'angry psycho' look in his eyes so I grabbed my phone n rang 999 then he changed lanes and tried to swerve into me Finally made it to police station in one piece to be told I was wasting their time, there would probably be no cctv on the camera located where he tried to swerve into me and that I brought it on myself by agreeing to meet in the first place.

Spoke to my health visitor today who bluntly said he isnt normal and I'm taking the best action by denying him access to DD. She's a healthy, very happy little girl and doesn't need a prat like him

[chickenmama]

Aw reading that makes me so pleased my prat of an XP is living the other side of a very large ocean!

[birky]

Part of me wishes XP would get on a plane and bog off to live with his dad in spain

[Hopeyseggwasntbig]

Blardy ming mong

[charlotte121]

oooh sounds so similar to my ex. last weekend he couldnt see ds because he had been playing football and didnt have enough energy afterwards, but he sure as hell had enough to go round to barbies house and bounce up and down with her. makes me mad. he does the same... blames me for leaving him, tells me he loves me and wants things to work out between us, tries it on and then talks about barbie. pffftttt men... most of them smell like mouldy cheese!!! and thats being nice.

[birky]

Have had the worst night ever. DD went to bed at 7 but didn't settle til 9.30 red cheeks. Went in to check on her about 11.30 and she woke up crying, really screaming which she only does in the night if she's hungry so gave her a bottle but she was really struggling to breathe n started with a seal like cough. Thought she was having an asthma attack so gave tried to give her inhaler through spacer thingy (she hasn't yet been diagnosed with asthma but has inhaler as she gets wheezy sometimes) but she wouldnt let me so rang for ambulance. Had to give in and ring xp from hospital but as he's changed his mobile number had to ring his mums 13 times til someone got out of bed and told his stepdad to get hold of him and tell him to get to hospital. Turned up 15 minutes later, starts hurling abuse and literally snatched DD from me. Poor thing was clinging to me while doctor checked her over, turns out she's got croup. XP tried making out its my fault til doctor put him straight that it can start from a runny nose and kicks in usually in the night. Kept wittering on about how wonderful new bird is blah blah, told me I'm an ugly bitch, shit in bed all the usual - all this in front of DD. Got discharged and didn't even have the decency to offer me and DD a lift to the end of my road, left me to get a taxi.

Turns out he doesn't qualify for legal funding to take me to court and he can't afford to pay for it so hes screwed for access. Hes lost his silly battle. Will probably give it time to all cool down and maybe look into access through a contact centre.

Very tired, having my cuppa then off to bed

[gillybean2]

Sounds like you both need to sit down and talk with a mediator there.

If you shut him and his mother out completely then they will take you to court. I understand your concerns, but you are both hurting and he is saying the things he is saying to deliberately hurt you and to get some reaction. A mediator might help you be able to speak to each other about your daughter and what is best for her.

Keep a diary of your efforts and any conversations, contact, phone calls or incidents. And get an MP3 player to record any exchanges between you.

Btw, he doesn't need legal aid to go to court, he can be LIP. So don't rule out him taking you to court over this.

Gilly

[glitterfairy]

Not sure about the MP3 player Gilly. If he finds out it might make things much worse.

Keeping diaries is a good idea, especially if you ever have to make a statement.

I think a helpful starting point would be a mediator though. They could help set some ground rules and challenge the behaviour.