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Ex came to see DD again and I've decided that I am finally over him - hurray!

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MascaraOHara · 26/02/2008 08:57

Hi guys, me again..

(For anyone who doesn't know ex is not dd's biological father but for all his faults he is good with her and they love each other to bits.)

It was lovely to see them together, they played and cuddled and he put her to bed (did the routine, read the story etc) whilst I stayed downstairs which was lovely. Once she was in bed, we chatted like mates and it was really nice.

I told him that I'd finally started feeling better and that it was only recently I'd stopped feeling sick when I saw his car outside his new girlfriends house etc and that I was starting to feel like it was time to move on and meet people again. We always give each other a hug and a peck when he leaves..

After he left, I knew, for definite, that I finally feel like I can move on with my head in the right place. I feel quite liberated and very positive.

So finally after 5 months of A/Ds, a course of counselling, some serious soul searching, a lot of time and copious amounts of white wine I finally, finally feel good again

HURRAH

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ruty · 26/02/2008 08:58

Very, very glad Mascara. Congratulations. You need a serious strenght of character to get through all that.

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allgonebellyup · 26/02/2008 10:16

ooh well done!!

i wish i could say the same! and its been nearly a year for me (and also ADS, counselling, making new friends so 5 months is a short time!

You must be a lot stronger than me, i have to make myself hate my ex and be generally vile towards him, to stop me trying to beg him to come back.

i wonder if i will ever be at the same place as you...

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Tommy · 26/02/2008 10:18

good for you. I remnember the moment when I realised I was over an ex - I didn't realise it would be such a strong and definite feeling.

Good luck

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littlewoman · 26/02/2008 10:56

Bellyup, know that feeling, it will get better. MascaraO'Hara, well done for the positive feelings. They may backslide, that is normal, but isn't a positive emotion a lovely thing for a change. Hope you go from strength to strength.

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MascaraOHara · 26/02/2008 11:36

No I won't backslide, I've done all that.. this is a very firm feeling. tis weird. I guess I looked at him finally feeling like what I said 6 months was 100% true.. that he would never be enough for me and that we aer two so different people.

We had a lovely chat about missing each other and how sometimes things just don't work out the way you expect. It's nice to know that we will always love each other yet realise we some how just don't work and so have to move on.

And to be able to have that conversation in itself I think is a good thing.

I suppose it helps that I know he's not a bad person, just different lifestyle choices.

I do feel like I want to celebrate feeling suddenly liberated though. I wonder if this is why some people have divorce parties.

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Citronella · 27/02/2008 13:05

Don't know your whole story but

and !!!

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