I know it is stupid on my part but I feel so let down by so called friends.

[MeMySonAndI]

Oh well, I have been thinking "what a lovely agreement ex and I have" with me worrying about not hurting ex, inviting him to get togethers and even offering to see the horrible bitches women of his family for the benefit of DS and our new "friendship". So... I have been acting as a freind to him and... despite all my invitations which he has accepted he has not returned many (fine about it)...

Curious thing is that last week I got some indicators that he is already seeing someone else (I'm fine with it, no problem) but what has made me furious is that yesterday he invited all my friends, those we saw as a couple, and unlike I do... he didn't invite me.

I feel so angry at the wanker my former husband, I know is stupid of me (no need for more "yes, you are") but I feel so angry and sad about being excluded of my own group of friends.

Please tell me I'm an idiot for trying to be a friend to him, and convince me I have to stop being one to avoid being hurt.

And now that we are at it, if anybody has a recipe to make the separtion of friends less painful than that of the assets please let me know.

[denbury]

i wouldn't just be upset at him about this invite.your friends could of invited you to come with them?

[TheStepfordChav]

You've been reasonable and considerate to him, but what I don't understand is why you now want to socialise in a group that includes him?

My own experience of break-up is that some friends stuck with me; some ditched me & carried on seeing him. Mostly it was divided into whcish if us they had known first/hadbeen associated with before we were a couple. What I'm trying to say is that friends may like you both, but find it hard to still be friends equally with you both.

I would keep my good friends close, and forget about including your ex in your social circle.

[MeMySonAndI]

Problem is the ex doesn't have any good friends of his own, these are the friendships I have been taking care of.

To be honest is not the friends' fault, they may have not even know I was not invited. But I feel awful at trying to be such a good friend to him when he is obviously just thinking in himself.

Serves me right!

[Lauriefairycake]

Definitely not your friends fault. Very simply your ex is not as mature, easy going and sorted as you are.

For that you should be grateful how well you're doing and be congratulating yourself on not being a twat

[MeMySonAndI]

I think I will tattoo the word twat in his forehead to remind me not to over do the kindness aspect of it... At the moment, there is not another word to describe him.

[Tinkerbel6]

stop thinking about your ex and starting thinking of yourself, its not your job to include him in things

[Scotia]

It does hurt, but it will get better. I remember when I was at your stage I watched a film called 'Who Gets the Friends?' and bawled my eyes out. It's hard for your friends too, to try to stay neutral, but sometimes you just want them to be on your 'side'.

Don't worry about his feelings, your own should be at the top of your list (as well as ds of course).

[MeMySonAndI]

Thanks for your replies.

TBH I don't want friends to be on my side, ex and I even agreed in what to tell them so they didn't feel the need to take sides but I supose the social conventions are too much to ignore. For some reason it is expected that as soon as a break up is announced you can't put the two persons in the same room. Which... is not our case, although after this shameless acts of exclussion perhaps that would be the case.

I'm starting to feel better about this, at least I'm laughing now!