Help Needed!!!

[krisked]

Hi there Girls, Please can you all give me info on CSA and the other woman. This is the situation.

My mate split up with her bloke-my cousin for a bit while she was pregnant. they got back together and had a boy. 9 months later letter arrives through the post from CSA. He tried to keep it from my mate and signed and sent it back. A girl he had slept with a couple of times had fallen pregnant and gone straight to the CSA.

Anyway my mate finally found out but stayed with him. The CSA bundled the payment through and he now pays through his work? Once it was all out in the open, they told the CSA that they couldn't be 100% sure it was his Kid, (the dates didn't work out) but she could of been early. Anyway they said it was too late and by him signing the form he had already admitted to being the Dad and theres nothing he can do!!!

The thing is i'm not sure how this works but someone has just told me that if the other girl moves from her parents to a flat, then his payments will go up. She confirms to have only slept with him twice and it's possible that the kids not his so what can he do?? Not that i'm bothered about him, he should of kept his trousers up in the first place, but obviously this is gonna affect my mate and her son for the rest of their lives.

Anyone been in a similar situation???

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[krisked]

Oh sorry and also he obviously didn't go to register the birth with her, Can his name still be on the birth cert?? I dont remember as my DH automatically came.

[tammybear]

father doesnt always have to be put down on birth certificate. I know some people who just have the mother on it

[lou33]

If they werent married when the baby was born then he has to be with the mum to register the birth if he wants to go on the certificate.

[mandajane2004]

No his name cant be on the birth certificate but that doesnt stop her naming him as the father unfortunately.Obviously he has admitted it on paper without thinking!!Really he needs to get a dna test and establish whether he is the father or not.At least that way it will answer his concerns once and for all.He can then go to the CSA and take it from there.

[krisked]

Thats the problem, he has no legal way of making her do a DNA test unless he takes her to court to gain access to the child and then say then that he doesn't know if the child is his and they will order it.. I wouldn't wish that on any child especially as the idiot has no intention of seeing the child in the first place.
I more worried about the payments, is there any way they will go up other than him getting a payrise??? My mate is struggling as it is without that sort of worry!!!!!
I dont get the CSA at all, reading here about most of the troubles alot of you are having!!!

[Tinker]

krisked - am sure youo know this but here is t a useful link
Questioning paternity

I'm sure a child won't know what is happening re the blood test, suspect it's a pinprick test. But yes, if his pay goes up, the payments will rise. It won't be dependent upon the other girl's costs, it is a % age of his pay.

I think he does need to sort this out earlier rather than later if he has serious doubts about paternity, for everyone's sake. I know it might seem painful now but what will happen in the future if the child starts asking about his father?