Why do I let ex h get me stressed out...............

[stripeytiger]

ex h has the children every other weekend. He never offers (or has any intention) to have them any extra, half term for example.

Ok, so its half term for my dc this week. Ex h is due to have the children this coming weekend. A few weeks ago I sent him an email asking if perhaps he would be able to have them an extra night as it was half term etc etc (he very often has Fridays off). He didn't reply to this email.

Yesterday I sent him an text which read
"Hi. Hope all well with you. Please can we make the arrangements for the weekend as I need to plan the week because the children are on half term". Considering what a knob he is I thought this was reasonable and polite.

He has not responded. I know I could ring him but I try to keep phone calls to him to a minimum and emails and texts are quick, to the point and efficient (most of the time).

I am getting increasingly frustrated and stressed. I only want to plan the remaining two days of the children's half term and I just can't get my head around why he thinks its ok to ignore me. I am so fed up of being nice, I feel like picking the phone up and blasting him, but I being Mrs Sensible I always try to maintain a cordial relationship if only for the children's sake.

What would you do?

[dooley1]

I would try (as hard as it is) to be the bigger person, carry on being civil (sounds like you're doing brilliantly so far) and just leave it now. Wait for him to contact you and carry on as though he won't be having them an extra night. If you have to make plans then when he finally gets in contact you can then say 'sorry, you didn't contact me so I assumed I was still having them so I';ve arranged xxx'.
Feel for you though, must be bloody annoying

[stripeytiger]

Thanks dooley.