Bit of background
I divorced my xh 11 years ago and in all that time he has never seen the children (now aged 15 and 16) or even sent them birthday or xmas cards. Three years ago my daughter got hold of his phone number and rang him, he was nice to her on the phone and said he would call her the following day to arrange to see her and her brother, the phone call never happened and in fact he changed his phone number. My daughter was so distressed by this she went on a path of self harm and serious suicide attempts and has been in hospital for over a year.
He turned up a few months ago and has been seeing them on some weekends, taking them out and then giving them some pocket money (£10 usually) but at first he was giving them £50.
So yesterday he calls me cos he's going to see daughter in hospital and son is going to meet him there, then they all go out for lunch together and spend a bit of time getting to know one another. In this conversation he says he won't be giving them pocket money because he can't afford it and did I think they'd be upset? I pointed out that for the last 11 years he's been spending all his cash on someone else's kids and he owes it to our children to be a bit generous, especially as it's hurtful for them to think he's prioritising his stepchildren. He then wouldn't discuss further with me (I think his wife and her kids were in the vicinity) but he did take them out and he did give them £10 each at the end of it.
Now, I'm wondering, as he never paid a penny in maintenance over the years, and now owns a 4 bed house in the 'burbs, has a reasonably good job etc etc, where I would stand legally in trying to recoup some of the unpaid maintenance and also to make sure my children are financially looked after? Do their ages have any bearing on any kind of legal entitlement?
I'm angry because he begrudges them £10 each a week while he's buying his stepson a motorbike and paying all the expenses associated with that and all these years he never gave a shit about whether his own children had what they needed or whether they were happy or anything.
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SuGaRCoAteDPoiSOn · 14/10/2007 10:39
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