am i being unreasonable?

[olsmum]

after a brief relationship i became pregnant with my beautiful daughter, her father denied she was his throughout the pregnancy (she is.) and throughout the first years of her life she has no support from him emotionally or financally. he then went "of the rails" completely and ended up in prison for a year (for attacking his then partner)at the beginning of the year he was released and full of apologies and promises of wanting to get to know my daughter. it is now september and he has proved to be the same irresponsible prat he was, after a few visits (i took her down to his house for short visits) i realised that he hadn't changed, it would be weeks or months before he would contact me or he would txt me to cancel arranged visits, yet he was going out every weekend acting like a teenager (this man is 36) i do not want this man in my daughters life. last time i heard from him was end of june. what are ure opinions, friends and family have given me mixed opinions

[Tinkerbel5]

dont bother with him, you wont be able to force him to have a relationship with his daughter, you dont have to stop contact if you think its in her best interest to see him, but if he comes in and out of her life and picks her up and puts her down when he feels like it then you do what you think is best for your daughter, no dad is better than a useless dad

[olsmum]

thanks, its quite good to get the opinion of someone who doesnt know either of us, ive always said that id rather he was out her life completely than in and out every few months, i dont think it is in her best interest to know him, he is unpredictable and has proved to be violent (although never towards me of her) i have a lovely partner is who has been more like a dad to her than he ever has been, im just dreading the day she starts to ask questions!