Xp is so trying my patience

[nutcracker]

Last week we arranged that in the hols he would have them every thursday and take them out. I told him had to make plans and not just turn up and say he didn't know where to take them.

So first day of this plan today, and he only has Dd1 and Ds as Dd2 is out all day and I called him to tell him something about bus fare for Dd1, and he still has no clue for what he is doing with them, come rain or shine

He has had over a week to sort this out.

Have told him I am going out, so he has to take them somewhere. He seemed more interested in where I was going than where he was going.

I have done the kids packed lunches, all he has to do is provide bus fare and a place to go.

[mojosmum]

He sounds alot like my dds dad who i cant rely on to even collect her when he says he will

[nutcracker]

Well they have gone, he said he will take them into town, and see if there is anything going on

Oh and when I said to him that he better start thinking of different places as he has another 5 thursdays to do yet, he said 'oh am i doing this every week then'

[coppertop]

He sounds so infuriating. Lazy b*gger.

[moondog]

Why am I not surprised this is your thread Nutty? Go and enjoy yourself.His problem not yours.

[IdreamofClooney]

I sympathise with you, my ex has no idea what to do either - despite living in Edinburgh with many activities for children he struggles and often brings DS back early as he has "exhausted all possibilities" (ie has been to the museum and to starbucks well done then what a great Dad you are). He doesn;t even give DS the lunch I carefully packed he gives him crap food.

I mean how hard is it to entertain a child for a day?

Hope he sorts him self out and you have stress free hols (!)

[nutcracker]

No I know moondog, I don't know why I am surprised that he is so crap yet again.

Oh well, I am off out for child free window shopping lol. Have told he has to ring me before he sets out home, else he will end up on the doorstep before i even get back.

[LIZS]

oh fgs . Think you'll just have to leave him to it , he'll soon learn when they start whinging. Make yourself less than available to bail him out in the meantime.

[nutcracker]

Well he took them to the museum (my suggestion), and they had a good times, so thats good anyway.

I am pissed off with him though because about 3 weeks ago I asked him if he would help me out paying for the kids school shoes, and he said yeah no problem, he'd give me £50 (will be spending £100 at least on 3 pairs).

Have just checked that he is still giving it to me on 16th, as I want to take them the day after to get them, and he said he's not sure he will have it at all now.

He is so bloody useless, he could have put a bit up each week, but no.

Oh and he is smoking again so he has money for that.

And whilst I am ranting he is so bloody nosey. My pc was on but screensaver was on as I was away from pc. Went into kitchen for something, came back in and there he was at the computer, asking me why I was looking for resturants.

He also asked me several times how my fella was, when he knows perfectly well I don't have one.

He is a tosser.......did i say that already ?

[LIZS]

Does he give you any regular maintenance ?[ angry] smoking away the shoe money.

[nutcracker]

No he doesn't give me anything.

When he was on Incapacity benefit they said he had to pay £5 a week for the 3 kids and i think i got it in a lump sum of £45 and then it stopped. I rang them up and they said that because he is now on job seekers and not incapacity, they can't take £5 off him as job seekers is less money.

So no I get zilch off him, he doesn't even buy the kids a pack of sweets.

I gave them a packed lunch today and all he provided was £2 bus fare for dd1, didn't buy them any extra drinks or anything, not even a pencil from the gift shop.

[WanderingTrelawney]

If you don't provide food, would he really let them go hungry?

I would find the best free things going and send him and the kids to the ones you would hate to do.

Tell him you don't have a boyfriend as your ex's sexual magnificence has ruined all other men for you forever.

Then lose consciousness laughing.

[nutcracker]

ROFL WT

[agnesnitt]

I've called my ex-partner all the names under the sun in the last six months, but even he realises that the local council has a lot of info on 'stuff to do!' over the summer. Tell your eejit to get his arse down to the tourist information office if there is one in your town (or the local library if not) as they'll have shedloads of info that should be very useful to you all.

Agnes